Why did he playfully say “soon” instead of the actual date to see each other again? how do I respond?

[Anonymous]

We have 2 hour distance. We went on a first date. He was being sweet saying he can do something for me. I was being cute saying I do want him to help me with it. Then he say to go to him… and so I playfully ask when does he want me to come. And all he said is say “soon” with a silly tongue face. Why does he say that instead of the actual date? What does he want me to do or what should I do?

[Nikki1989]

That vague response is flaky and frustrating, especially right after a great first date when you're looking for clarity and momentum. The playful "soon" and an emoji just show how immature he really is. Surely you can do better.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s how it feels being on the female end with that type of response…

[rgb008]

2 hours is a long drive. It requires decent planning, and that’s 4 hours driving there and back. Gotta pick out a whole day to hang out lol

[Asker]

Yes I know and I know he wants me to drive to him this time which I don’t mind and it’s fair. But I mean why he say that than pick a day? I don't know what am I supposed to say

[rgb008]

How is he supposed to know at that very moment? Let him look at his schedule and see when it works for him too

[Asker]

Um ok what do I say to his comment

[rgb008]

Nothing, wait for him to see if a day works for you too.

[MrChinaski]

Errr... talk to him. Text is an incredibly sparse medium. To a close approximation, text means nothing, ever.

[Anonymous]

He probably did want to talk specifics at that moment. Message him and iron it out.

[Asker]

Oh really? What do I say exactly…

[Asker]

Like I already asked when he want me to come and he said soon.. so I don't know what else to say

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe he doesn't have a set schedule yet, so he doesn't know when he will be available. I wouldn't worry unless this became routine.

[Asker]

Okay, what should I say though? Do I just say “okay☺️” and leave it as that?

[Opinion Owner]

Ask him for a time and date.

[Asker]

I feel like I’m prompting him for a second date but it makes me feel like he don’t exactly know if he does want it bc he’s not setting it…