What are your non-negotiables when it comes to dating?

[Danny_dan92]

By that I mean red flags that just noticing just one will instantly make you completely lose interest.


I have a couple


- Lack of respect
- Double Standards

[Nuclear_Warhead]

If it isn't disgusting, a boner killer or I have a phobia of it then i try to have no non-negotiables, just to avoid being a piece of shit. ㅤ

Double standards and disrespect are boner killers.

[Anonymous]

Any sign of cheating, past cheating or excusing cheating behavior even if it’s npt them doing it it could be a friend, someone on tv or even hypothetical.

Any sign of not respecting my boundaries. Especially when it comes to sex. Like for example pushing or nagging to kiss or get intimate before I’m ready.

Any sign of red pill mentality.

Any sign of deviant behavior in general. We’re talking drugs, smoking/alcohol addiction, crime, violence, sleeping around.

If he has kids. I won’t date someone who has kids and especially not if he doesn’t take care of thosse kids 50% of the time. Major red flag and immediate no. No excuse.

Calling an ex or any woman he knows crazy. Or anyrhing like stalker, I don’t even know her, she keeps contacting me. It’s 99/100 him telling on himself.

[Danny_dan92]

Some of these are reasonable but I can tell you right now, some will also keep you single for the rest of your life.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m rather single for the rest of my life than with any man showing any signs of any of that.

[Danny_dan92]

Fair enough.

[Genie23]

Where to start from... Lemme see.

• Lack of hygiene.
• Doesn't show respect for me or others.
• Mistreat animals.
• Lack of empathy.
• Is selfish.
• Doesn't take accountability for his mistakes. He is stubborn and lies a lot.
• Not a good listener. Only cares about telling what he thinks. As if only his opinion matters.
• Too pessimistic about things. That kinda people affects me.
• Double standard.
• Hypocrisy.
• Feels entitled... and few other things.

[Joshydavid25]

Seems like this could be condensed down to just be a decent, normal man.. Lol

[slatyb]

Respect for others and themselves. Intellectual and sexual compatibility. Emotional stability.
The others are just personal deal-breakers, like smoking, religion, etc.

[queenofcardio]

​Aligned Views

​Loyalty & Honesty

​Respect

​Compatibility