Should overweight or obese people refrain from dating/relationships until they show they can take care of themselves?

[Anonymous]

I personally don't feel right. How can I take care of someone else if I've failed to live a healthy life myself?

They should date

They shouldn't date

[lilBigPotato]

I would never date an obese person but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be allowed to date at all. If they find someone who likes them... Why not.

[Nikki1989]

The question seems to assume that being overweight automatically means someone cannot take care of themselves. That's not necessarily true.

[Nerdvana]

I knew 100 percent, no doubt in my mind, a guy was asking this question.

[Anonymous]

Nah, if it's a problem for the other person they'll let you know.

[Anonymous]

Being fat does not make you a bad partner

[DreamCrescent]

that wasn’t the question. it sounds like fat isn’t his default and going through something right now. he should focus on getting better emotionally and physically. dating isn’t everything

[Opinion Owner]

@DreamCrescent but getting a girlfriend might help his self esteem

[DreamCrescent]

ohhhh but i wouldn’t do that. it’s almost a bandaid or something distraction. not sure it would work

wouldn’t you love for him to get better and have genuine confidence and feel good about himself and then get a girlfriend who doesn’t have the unspoken assignment of making him feel better. it’s kindof doomed unless he’s at peace with himself

but i do see your logic..

[Opinion Owner]

@DreamCrescent I see your point!