What is the longest you ever have dated someone without a title?

[Chrissy-88]

What is the longest you ever have dated or "seen" someone and not have the girlfriend/boyfriend title if so how long and how did it turn out in the end?

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[wilbur12]

I agree, the title girlfriend/boyfriend immediately makes rules appear. If you are able to pull off not creating a title, that would imo make a great relationship because you are not "forced to do things". My father actually has a friend of over 13 years that he does many things with...like drink tea together or watch movies everynight. Honestly, I think what you are looking for in this case would be called "companion". the companion is not necessarily someone in a relationship but it feels like it but without the boyfriend/girlfriend title. Companionship is being around someone that's borderline girlfriend/boyfriend but not necessarily saying it. Its extremely hard to pull this off tho because most people start wondering if the guy/girl would start dating others or what not. But I do agree that the title g/bf means nothing. I've had strong flirts with my friends and they have bfs. Trust me it means nothing. Personally I am in a predicament like this now but she has a boyfriend. I know we like each other but I'm not pushing him out the way but if you saw us in public you would think we are together...but no g/bf title! If she breaks up with him in the future and I'm single, then mayb ill try the companionship thing...however I know that it probably won't last because people "like " titles

[nastynate7188]

i disagree, I've dated girls for "technically" for as much as 4months without a title. I hate a title. why? it implies a lot of unwritten rules. as soon as you put a title on it, your expected to call all the time, see them more, and usually let them know when you have plans. I've had lots of experience with this, and usually the girl wants the title more than the guy. it makes them feel safe and taken. pretty much if there's no title, your not inclined or expected to do certain things, but if there is you are expected to do things. Its dumb and I hate titles. I live up to my standard, I don't want to have to live up to anyone else's personal standard of how they think their boyfriend should act. That being said, History shows I usually break up with girls that I've had relationships without a title with 2-3 months after a title is given. then again, I'm not very sensitive and have problems opening up and allowing my emotions. I'm very reserved, but that's my experience.

[Chrissy-88]

I definitely agree with that titles do somehow make rules "appear" however at the same time I feel the same way with what one of the girls say, no title gives someone the oppurtunity to go out and find someone else. I personally think its a messy situation depends on the people who are involved. I have been "seeing" a guy for almost two years w/o a title.

[FitGalinNYC]

I once dated someone for 2 years without a title. When we first slept together he wanted to become serious (after 2-3 weeks) but I didn't want to at the time. I eventually ended up falling in love with him and thought that he might bring it up again but he didn't. So I brought it up after a year because I felt like we were just "friends with benefits". He said he didn't wan to put a label on us. It ended up being a lot of heartache because I stopped seeing him a few times but each time I kept going back to him because I missed him. Finally, I moved away and he felt like he was going to lose me. He said he missed me so much and wanted to try to be exclusive. I took my old job back and moved back to town. I thought we were exclusive but 3 months later I found out that he was sleeping with someone else the whole time. It was such a long painful process to get over him. Bottom line is, If a guy doesn't try to make you his don't stick around and hope for the best. You have to be strong. He might say he's not ready with you but he's still out there looking for someone else. If he meets the right girl will ask her to be his girlfriend. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. There are plenty of guys out there who would love the opportunity to date you!

[Anonymous]

4 months. We would hang out and make out, w/e. We would go to movies, visit his friends' and just talk a lot so we could get to know each other. Then I started getting texts from my friends who were at parties and would see him with a different girl. At first I was like "okay they're probably just friends, nothing to be worried about..." Then one night after I got off work I got on Facebook and a gorgeous girl had taken a picture of him with her at one of the local art museums that I had talked to him about going to. In fact it was my favorite art museum and they were showing picasso and braque and I had already been to the show a few times, but since he was an artist I thought he would enjoy it too. That was the last straw and the picture wasn't on fb the next day. The last time he called me to hang out I just asked him to leave me alone.

I didn't think titles mattered until I realized that having no titles is a way for a guy to "cheat" on you without really "cheating" because you were never "offiicial".

[rudy37lee]

People only date without titles because they want to keep their options open. If he hasn't tried to make you his Girlfriend after 2, DEFINITELY by 4 months, then he does not want to be your BF. Guys go for what they want. He probably is seeing other woman or looking for other prospects. If he was serious about you, he would be moving the relationship along. If you want a relationship, don't date the 'I don't want a title' man.

[20Questions]

Good question...for about nearly two months...I remember one time being together and telling someone 'my girlfriend here...' or something like that. It was funny because we had just been like friends who love each other romantically and have sex alot. Then from around that time it was more of an official ting. Eventually we split and I didn't even contact her much for a whole year, and after that she moved on. I had been under the impression that because we didn't really define the realationship, the ending couldn't be defined either. Silly and immature I know.

[Anonymous]

The title means NOTHING. NOTHING.