Should I sneak out? I know it's stupid but I'm running out of options here

[Anonymous]

This guy I met on a dating website (pof) , we have been texting for two weeks. He had been asking me since day one to come and see him. Have no problem in meeting the guy, he seems nice. Just that I'm not allowed to go out because I'm grounded and my parents said they don't want me to go out ever agian because I got involved with a guy doing illegal things . So now I'm stuck because if I sneak out, I'm scared of getting taken advantage of or w.e. but crazy coincidence - I saw him the other day, he came to our house delivering pizza lol. He is really hot, he was smiling because of the irony of the whole situation( he thought it was funny because the one day he doesn't ask me to come out and see him. He gets the chance to see me). I feel a little bit more comfortable sneaking out now because I got the chance to see him in person and he doesn't look like an intimidating guy. He had a tatoo of a rose on his arm( I'm guessing that means he has a sensitive side?). Well anyways, I snuck out with this other guy that I met on the site, we were only texting for two days, he didn't take advantage of me(he asked me if I was comfortable). But he did act like I was just some piece of meat .So I'm scared of that happening agian with this guy.

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By the way, it will be after twelve am. When I go see him.

[MrWolf]

Well as a man I should say that having a rose on his arm doesn't mean that he has a sensitive side exactly but I don't know him so it's just guessing, I think is best to wait until your parents lift the grounding and then go for it or you are just going to get even more trouble if they catch you sneaking out so best to avoid getting yourself in trouble and don't trust some one you don't know so easy just like you said the other one took you for a piece of mean so trust always a two side line

[Asker]

Where we are sober, if not slightly tipsy) so I have back up

[Sephin]

This is why I'm going to be one of those dads that will be strict in front of the wife, but teach my children all the outs and be smart about them. I'm not saying go ahead and sneak out, but if you must get out, then at least be smart about it. Meeting random people over the internet like that is extremely dangerous and I would never condone it.

[Asker]

Yeah, I really don't want something bad to happen because I will regret it later on. Any other advice you can give me? I'm so depressed. I don't like being stuck at home all the time

[Sephin]

Well your parents can't honestly expect you to not go out at all. That's absolutely ludicrous, and they know it. I would have to say talk to them about the situation making you depressed (although that might just satisfy them). If they're truly understanding parents, they'll really work something out with you. If not, then they have no one to blame but themselves for you sneaking out. Just, please don't do it with people you just met on the internet. Meet people you really know.

[Asker]

Yeah, thanks for the advice, it's really helpful :). Yeah I was thinking of bringing him along with a group of friends then next time I sneak out with my buddies. What do you think of that? I'm a little eeffy about the situation because I want to give the guy a chance but I don't want to put myself in danger either

[Sephin]

Probably talk to him about it first. I don't care what delivery people say, while I was working that type of job, I sure as hell didn't want people that I hung out with knowing I was doing that. Not a issue anymore but you get the idea. Who knows, he may be a new addition to your group. Don't totally live in fear, just be smart about what you do.

[Asker]

Yeah I get what you are saying , Well I invited him the other night to hang with us friends , we were gonna get drunk ( but I wasn't gonna drink too much so I wouldn't get taken advantage of and my best friend isn't a light weight, it would be four of my friends in total and one of my guys friends doesn't drink). He cancelled because of work.. So I guess I'm just gonna have to wait for another opportunity where my friends are there and he can tag along ( I'm gonna try as much as I can for it to be a

[opalhearts]

If it's at midnight when you go see him (12 AM, right?) and you -do- decide to sneak out, you need to meet him in a place where there will be other people around so things don't get bad. Even if you really do want to meet him, your safety should be your first concern. I think you should wait until you're not grounded--your parents will not keep you from going out for the rest of your life-- and then go see him. If you decide you absolutely can't wait, though, do be careful.

[Asker]

Bringing him along when sneaking out with a group of friends? What do you think? That way I give him a chance and my guy and girl friends will be around so he can't pull anything..

[ZenQueen]

you plan on sneaking out every time to see him? if you are going to do this tell a friend at least incase something bad happens and also have a back up plan if the date is weird... like have your friend call you with an emergency... think of every worst case scenerio and have a back up plan

[darlanoy0510]

Wait how old are you? If you are my daughter under 18 and on POF I would grounded you for life.lol POF is a way for guys to pick up girls for sex in my opinion.

[Asker]

I'm ninteen... Lol family is just strict. That's all lol

[darlanoy0510]

Oh yeah I really know your feeling. Well if you are 19 you are older enough to do whatever you want so why not?lol Plus is a thrill too:-) But if you are not ready for anything don't let the guy persuade you to do anything. My friend her dad kept under his control until he passed away. Sad but she sneaked around a lot with her then boyfriend now hubby.

[Asker]

Hmm.. Yeah I met this other guy in the site, we went to the sane junior high. He knows the same people I do. But I don't know him, his approach is very straight forward, he wants to fool around. And I kinda wanna fool around too. Is it okay to sneak and see him? I noticed they act really nice but when you meet them in person, they are jerks

[darlanoy0510]

Oh no that the guy just looking to sleep with you and be gone the next day. I wouldn't sneak around with him unless you want it to be just fooling around. If he only talk about sex and no personal questions then run fast. I'm familiar with pof and most of the guys that are good looking and always on, they are looking for booty call.

[Asker]

Yeah tonight I snuck out with a guy on pof but my friends were there. N they were being judgmental and they really don't understand what I'm going through , and only my best friend understands. I'm reaching I'm breaking point and I'm literally going insane and doing crazy sh*t , but it gives me a thrill because in doing something and I feel good about it. Then my friends start judging me and stuff and lecturing me and I really don't like people telling me what to do . One of my friends tells me not to sldyou

[Asker]

And she does all those things herself, she thinks in doing it because if peer pressure but really in doing it because I'm on a new pursuit, I want to experience life. Don't want to be sheltered. She is really dramatic, immature, she gets offended easily and she let's guys use her for sex and she is not happy about it, at least if I have sex with somebody, I want them to use me just as much as I use them and in okay with that. Just want to experience life without being judged , she really pisssedended

[Asker]

She really pissed me off and I ended up walking home alone, usually my best friend walks home. This night sucks. Don't know where I'm going in life and I just want to experience stuff because I want to learn and figure out where to go

[darlanoy0510]

Yeah you will run into that kind of person all the time but it all up to you. She is not living your life she doesn't know what your life is like. She can only assume and the key word she THINK. You meet a guy doesn't mean you will sleep with him. I'm sure you are a good person and know what is right and wrong. Just ignore her and do what is good for you and what is right for you. Don't let one person opinion to ruin your experience.

[Asker]

Yeah.. Like one of my guy friends panicked so much that he brought a knife. He was really upset that I invited him and he was acting like a jerk around the guy. Pof guy left, because my guy friend was giving him negative attitude.. Just a horrible night.. Only mynestie understands what in going through... But she doesn't approve of this fling I have with a drug dealer. The dealer is a good guy, known him for more than a month. He is the reason I'm blur allowed to go out . Told my parents about h

[Asker]

Not going out , I told my parents about him. He was conforming about it and told me to tell my parents. So I know he isn't using me for sex because if he was he would sleep with me and tell me not to tell my parents about him. The dealer told me to stop using pof and if I was hornh that I should do things with him . He wants me to experience life and sex . And I want to experience sex too just scared I will end up falling in love with him

[Asker]

But if he isn't willing to out on a condom for me the. I won't have it with Jim, I am just not conforrablecwoth birth control

[darlanoy0510]

Lol did you know he was a drug dealer in the beginning? Wow your guy friend sounds jealous of you. Does he know the POF guy before ? If he doesn't sound like he is possessive of you Nd if he do probably just old beef from long time ago.

[Asker]

I didn't know be was a dealer until the third time we hang out and that was a couple wells ago, haven't seen the dealer since then but we text everyday .im waiting for him to buy a car in a couple months so he can pick me up when I sneak out. My guy friends hasn't met pof guy but I know he doesn't like me, he has a crush on my bestie but my guy friend is also in a relationship , my bestie likes him too. He has liked my best friend for three years now

[Anonymous]

Don't go out with a new guy after 10:00PM. That's just not lady like and will send a bad signal if you don't want to be seen as a piece of meat.

[Asker]

Bringing a group of friends along? Hanging out as friends , just to get to know him? What signal does that send?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe a group of friends would be good, but I really don't think you should sneak out. How old are you? I mean if you're over 20 I don't see it possible that you're actually grounded lol but talk with your parents. They mean well and must have a reason to not want you to go out (bc of your bad decisions) But anyways don't go out with him alone past 10. Going out with friends is fine but don't drink if you do drink don't do too much and make sure someone is sober and don't stay over

[Asker]

I'm ninteen, and thanks for the advice :)