we knew each other for three and he dumped me 3 weeks ago and he said he fell out of love.. He said he doesn't want me anymore..so I said some mean things an hung up on him and never contacted him again.he texted me last week saying hows things going with me .. I just gave him one word answers...then today again he texts me after a week..and asks me hows it going with me.. He said just wanna check up on you .. I am in ny life's busy.. and I was like why do I care? He said OK and never texted again. So why is he contacting me when he is the one who dumped me? what's his motif behind this?
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Despite the fact that I don't know your ex, I can sure list some possibilities to your scenario.
1) He met another girl while being with you and so he thought of leaving you to be completely with her. After he dumped you, things didn't go right with the other girl. Maybe she dumped him or maybe they didn't feel happy together. So, he decided to get back with you for an ego boost. He wants to feel wanted by a girl and he thought you'd cry a river and beg him to take you back. You're available (in his mind) and he wants company.
2) There's no other girl, but he took your love for granted and decided to leave you. He misses you now and feels lonely without you. He thought of dropping you a message to test the waters. If you reply and seem willing to get back with him, he'll ask to see you and talk. He is basically missing the "love supply" you used to give him.
3) He doesn't want you back, but wants to make sure you feel miserable without him. He expects to see you crying, gaining weight, missing work/school, etc...he wants to know that you can't live without him. Yeah, right...
4) He still considers you a very good friend even though he can't be your lover anymore. He wants to make sure that you're happy and everything is going great at your end. So, he thought of dropping a message asking of how you've been.
Choose one. :)
Anyway, you're better off. You'd better be with a man who cherishes you, loves you for who you are and be thankful that you lighten up his life. Don't settle for any less.2
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