Pretty much sent him a goodbye text

[Anonymous]

Title says it all. I sent a text because I was tired of him distancing himself and not replying to my texts like usually so I told him to pretty much have a good life in the text and he didn't answer...I regret it now but have deleted his number and he hasn't tried contacting.me going on 3 days

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Ok so he sent me a happy Valentine text and I asked how he been doing and he said OK and you and I replied good. And that was the end. Why would he even send that? I would have preferred nothing if he's not trying to make things right

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Another update..he texted me again today saying I was on his mind I told him that he never left mine and he says yea right and I replied with I wouldn't lie and he didn't respond. I'm so confused now.

[TheTickster]

GOOD FOR YOU.

I did the same thing with a girl I know about six months ago. She was conceited and selfish, never communicating, sending god-awfully annoying one word answers, like "lol" or "ok". I had to keep asking questions to keep her talking to me, otherwise she wouldn't have anything to do with me. It became so bad that I was annoying myself with all the questions! Eventually, she became hostile and grouchy when I talked to her, so I told her that we'd stop communicating. A week ago, I was lonely and missed talking to her, so I texted her again. She seemed so excited and told me how she missed me and was glad we were talking again. I told her the same. She hasn't said one word since. Same old crap. I wish I had never been weak enough to talk to her again.

The Tickster says: use this to your advantage. Turn over a new leaf, start anew, make a change. Either one works.

[Asker]

Wow how did she respond when you told her that y'all were cutting communication? And how do you feel now? How did you get over it?

[TheTickster]

When I told her, she said she was sorry for being that way and for misusing me.

I feel stupid for allowing myself to re-open it when I knew it wouldn't be any different.

When I stopped talking to her, I also purged my contact list of about four other people all within a week. I was tired of people taking advantage of my friendship and being ignored. I became very lonely as a result, but I had a self-realization period where I learned some things about myself. For me, it was for the better.

[TheTickster]

I wouldn't say that it was a way of getting over it. I didn't really do anything about it but live my life being lonelier. It probably wasn't a smart move, but I ended up learning something from it, so the gamble worked. Generally, I'd say that cutting everyone off is a bad thing. For you, I would say to put it behind you and learn from your mistakes. Always take a lesson away from your experiences, even if they weren't problems.

[Asker]

I did the same thing and cleared everyone who was useless out my contacts. It took 10 min for all our text messages between each other to clear out. We talked a lot I also deleted his pictures. I have no trace of him in my phone it hurts really bad. If I were you I probably would have kept talking to her maybe asking what she had been up to. I myself still have hopes that he may eventually contact me but I'm sure I'm just dreaming

[TheTickster]

I would hope that there are people out there who actually give a crap. I haven't found any so far. Then again, my acidic personality might be the problem. Either way, I'm glad at the way it turned out. I may be a lonely loser, but I'm not stressed or frustrated at some stupid girl. Perhaps you should view it the same way.

[Asker]

Omg I am the same way. He actually told me a few times that I was a difficult person to deal with

[TheTickster]

It is just your personality. Learn to accept it and screw that guy. :-)

[TheTickster]

I'm not sure. Perhaps he sent a mass text to his contact list and had to answer you back. Maybe he was hoping you'd be lonely on Valentine's Day and you'd throw yourself at him. It seems to me that he is probing you. You said yourself that he's not trying.

As a side note, I also tried to talk to the girl who won't talk to me. It happened the same way. We texted howdy-dos and she stopped. That's all she'll let me have. It is obvious people like that don't care. They have their agendas that only include us when it is convenient. Drop that dude.

[Asker]

I just wish he would have removed me and if it was a mass text I would think it would have the fwd as the subject. He didn't have to answer me back because when he sent it I replied with same to you and we could have ended that. Did you try to keep making convo with your girl? With this guy he didn't try to keep our convo going.

[TheTickster]

I still think he was probing you to see what your emotions were and if he could get anything from you. It could be that he is trying to keep him in your mind so that you won't forget him, so that you eventually come to him, begging. That way, he'd have all the cards. If he wanted to talk, I think he would have by now.

I keep asking questions and talking, but I keep getting "cool", "lol", or "haha". I've made it a point to not answer one word texts anymore. Twice is enough. I gave up on her.

[Asker]

Yea so I texted him last night and got no reply..I'm so mad

[TheTickster]

Well, it has been more than 24 hours. He's had enough time to do his duties and see the text. My girl used to do that to me too. She'd say she was busy and working, but everybody, EVERYBODY has five minutes to spare during the day, like before going to sleep. I always hated her for that and I see the same thing happening here. In today's fast-paced connected world, you can't expect me to believe no one is able to check it. He saw it. He didn't reply. Stop concerning yourself with him.

[Asker]

Well I asked him about it and he said he didn't kno how to respond to it

[TheTickster]

What a crappy excuse. Does he not know how to respond to any of your texts? Is he illiterate or something? If not, you have fancy articulation and should date an English major. :-)

[Asker]

We have planned to meet up next wknd so I'll see how this goes. We are 4hrs apart and meeting halfway. I hope its not all about sex.

[TheTickster]

How did it go?

[Asker]

We don't meet until tmrw.. I'm actually getting a little nervous

[TheTickster]

Have a good time.

[Asker]

We actually had a good time and we didn't argue. I'm not sure what to do now but I'm digging him.

[TheTickster]

Did he explain why he was distant? Does he text or call now?

[Asker]

He said that I'm too some timey and he never knows when I'm talking to him or not. He had been contacting me a lot before we met but since we left each other I have barely heard from him. I'm just going to back off again and If he brings up us meeting I'm just going to tell him I cannot be a booty call. Either he's all the way in or not.

[TheTickster]

I think that is wise. It is typical behavior. He only shows attention when it benefits him. Find someone who cares about you even when he isn't getting something out of it.

[Asker]

Yeah but I really like him and he's so handsome. And he also apologized today and said he had been busy. Should I not fall for it? I think he's being sincere and I wanna show that I won't be sometimey. And not cutting him off

[TheTickster]

He's been busy for a month? He should have paid attention to you beforehand. Am I the only one that thinks that shouldn't be too much to ask? I have learned not to give beautiful women a ton of chances just because they are beautiful. You've been on here back and forth saying he is a player one day and he's wonderful the next. Do you usually give men so many chances?

[Anonymous]

i did the same as well, why the hell not just tell me you don't want to talk to me anymore rather than keep responding with one word texts... don't understand.

[Asker]

What happen? Did you tell him that you were ending it?

[Opinion Owner]

he was responding with one liners, or he wouldn't answer any questions I had with a straight answer. I just got tired of it and felt like I was chasing him. I thin k chasing should go both ways. He acted like he was interested for months then the last few days is when he started the one liners. He made a joke which hurt my feelings so I said I was done with his S**t and for him to forget me and forget the whole thing. He responded by saying " Alrighty Then"

[Asker]

Oh girl I would have been pissed with that response too. At least you got a response though he just ignored me. But I am so tempted to text my guy because my cousin still had his number in her phone

[Opinion Owner]

if you do text... what will you say? I would be straight out with him and ask him what's his deal?

lol... I hate it when there is no communication. Good luck !

[HamburgerHeart]

His goal was accomplished. He was such a p****, that he had to put you through hell, so you could break up with him. It's less guilt. He is obviously up to no good. So you go and be naughty yourself.

[Premonition]

Hell Yeah! Hi-5 the Smartest thing you done, start of this year.

Don't let someone be your Top Priority, when you're not their Top Priority.

[Racez]

I think he doesn't want to deal with you anymore.

He's completely cutting you off from his life. It's better that you should accept it, and continue with your life. Thinking about him will just stress and exhaust you unnecessarily.

[Asker]

Sorry meant to agree with your answer