Why do girls reject everyone then complain they have no one?

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There are so many girls I know who act very   standoffish to most guys (except those who have celebrity looks), and have their walls up really high. 
These girls also complain about being chronically single.

Arwens-Fire · Accepted Answer

I dont think there is anything wrong with having standards OR preferences regarding what someone wants or looks for in a partner. Before my boyfriend, I turned guys away ALL of the time, and I am unapologetic about it. I preferred to wait until I found a guy worth my time, and who embodied what I WANTED. LOOKS are equally as Important as personality for most people looking for a partner.

I can understand the frustration on behalf of a lot of women. Unfortunately, we live in a society that forces women to worry about their LOOKS all of the time. And as a result, women are constantly worried about their appearance, weight, aging etc. Meanwhile, so MANY men out there are convinced that most women only care about how fat their pockets are, so they neglect any concern of their appearance. Sorry, but so many men look like absolute shit, and are sloppy and mediocre looking.

When a man is not concerned about their appearance, it may look like they have "bad genes" , of course women are going to say,"No thanks" to dating him. Why settle if the girl knows she is an 8 in every way. Why should she settle for a guy who she thinks is a 5? Just like guys may not be interested in a woman who is morbidly obese (because that would likely subconsciously translate to thoughts of bad genes and bad health), its the same way women think of men. It has very little to do with how "nice" a guy is. Women become sexually aroused by an attractive man, the same as men becoming aroused by an attractive woman. Why be with someone, and settle for someone that you really don't want?

So yes, these girls are complaining. But its because they are exhausted of all of the frogs they have experienced. The guys that are super attractive and take care of themselves, are often taken already...or gay.lol...seriously. With that said, girls are right for waiting for what they want. I'm thrilled I waited and I got EXACTLY what I wanted in a partner. Physically and other wise.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It seems to be a combination of society putting women on a pedestal almost, constantly bombarding them with messages saying most men want nothing more than sex, make sure to test a guy out in several respects before agreeing to commit, etc.

That's also a large fault of many movies these days. In 'He's Just Not That Into You', girls are told that if a guy doesn't call you and invite you out at least once a day, he's not interested. That of course is rubbish, but if a girl is pretty young still she could easily accept that as reality. Regardless of how promising a guy may seem, when he doesn't do that she'll leave him high and dry. The girl will do that multiple times, yet continue bitching that there aren't any guys 'good enough' for her (when in reality, they don't exist and her expectations are ridiculous).

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They're single because they're chronically unhappy... not vice versa. There are many guys like this too. It's often a sign of some sort of unsolved emotional issues or depression

Also, keep in mind that females tend to be more long-sighted when it comes to relationships. Guys are mostly like "she's bangable" and then move forward even if he has little in common with her or even enjoys her company. Then three to six months in, he suddenly starts to hate her and want out.

We look more towards long-term compatibility a lot of the time so we don't have to deal with that heartbreak from investing in someone to find out we don't like each other.

HandsomeRaj · Accepted Answer

1. Women unlike men almost since childhood have formed up an idea of their ideal man or men based on various situations they encounter or hear or read or watch along the way
2. Women again have various inbuilt defense mechanisms that make them suspect more than what may actually be. But it serves good in many ways for them.
3. Nature has made men to act in a certain way which again women find attractive and women in a certain way that men find attractive - nature's way of doing it since we humans don't have seasons or mating calls :)
4. There are even men who set standards for the kind of woman they want, not just women :)
5. Most important of all, it's called 'choice' :)
6. 'Complaining' is girl talk ;) :D best not to get into it lol

Janson · Accepted Answer

Some girls do this. And some girls are like this because they either have a pool of guys that aren't worth hooking up with, or they have high standards. A girl may complain about being single, but it doesn't necessarily mean that her complaining is unwarranted. A lot of guys, sorry to say, are not great mating options. When they complain about being single, what they really mean is that they are disappointed for not finding the right guy for them. I assume that most intelligent people would not just take anything they can get just so they can avoid being single.

Cheeky_Unfortunate · Answer

It makes sense. When a restaurant doesn't offer you something that tastes good to you, even if you traditionally and generally like those things, can you not complain?

If men are the dishes and women the tasters then it is upsetting to know there are millions of dishes that taste like poo!

kheserthorpe · Answer

Because their instincts are different from yours.

For males of a species every day spent not mating was a wasted opportunity. For females, mating can be an investment of years so if they think better opportunities might come along they are better off waiting.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do guys ask out no one and complain when they have no one? Same reason, they want what they want and don't want to have to put forth much effort to get it. Guys want a perfect creature to walk in and say yes to everything. Girls want a perfect creature to walk in and do all the work and romancing. We're all fucked up LOL

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

Lol I only reject ugly people or people who are like really dumb. And I dont really complain about being alone. I love single life and the thrill of seducing some one new myself

OrangeFire22 · Answer

We wait till we have the perfect guy for us. if you are not our Prince Charming. Good bye!! sometimes its because they want a guy to know they want somebody.

passionforprince · Answer

Because the are looking for something specific that may or may not exist. If they are complaining that's silly because complaining won't change anything.

lamebabe · Answer

Because we wait to find someone with the qualities we want, instead of lowering our standards and accepting any guy interested.

Anonymous · Answer

Because maybe they are not approached by the guys they like. Or don't make themselves look available.

nickstaa · Answer

Some girls and people will complain about anything there is to complain about.

COCOCHANEL · Answer

we like cute boys. celebrity looks? there's no such thing.

BlinkyStarzz182 · Answer

Some girls would rather wait for the right guy than waste time with someone that's not right for them.

Anonymous · Answer

Because girls with high standards or particular prefrences don't like wasting their time

legalboxers · Answer

maybe its just a game

Why do girls reject everyone then complain they have no one?

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