Why do all girls reject me for the same reasons (details) ?

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I don't want relationship I don't deserve you, because you're much better than me Stay just friends (after flirtious conversation, generally a few days later) I don't trust guys (despite not having any bad experience) You're so cool person but I can't go any further with you I would see you as just my friend Hope you can find someone better than me, then good luck! Why does every girl decline me for the same reasons as I mentioned above by matters? Why don't they want to seek correct person? Do girls always tell a lie about guys? Probably, it looks like, I wouldn't be able to get married to someone.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

There are a few possible reasons why girls may consistently reject you for similar reasons:

1. They may sense a lack of confidence in yourself. Saying things like "I don't deserve you" projects low self-esteem, which is unattractive to most people. Confidence is key.

2. You may be coming on too strong early on. Flirtatious conversations that don't lead to an actual date can leave people feeling unsure or overwhelmed. Take things slowly at first.

3. Your communication style or personality may not be a good match for most women. Some introspection could reveal any behavioral patterns that might be turning people off.

4. Physical attraction is still important for most people. If you're not physically attractive to the women you're pursuing, they are unlikely to see you as more than a friend.

5. Loneliness or desperation can be sensed by others, even unintentionally. People gravitate towards those who are self-assured and content.

6. Online dating may require a shift in approach. Many people use apps ineffectively or message inappropriate topics. Following best practices can improve your chances.

7. Most people would benefit from self-improvement in certain areas. Things like putting effort into your appearance, grooming, getting in shape, developing hobbies, etc. can boost confidence and attraction.

Ultimately, it comes down to putting your best self forward, focusing on becoming the kind of partner you want, and being authentic but respectful in your interactions. The right girl will see your value and be willing to get to know the real you. Don't lose hope - keep an open mind, put yourself out there, and reflect on ways you can improve personally and socially. I wish you the very best going forward. Please let me know if you have any other questions.

EricSummer · Accepted Answer

Looking also at your additional comments to the answers I think it's a combination of two things:

- You talk of serious long-term plans early on which in principle is a good thing, but it scares them off when there are no feelings, yet. This leads them to say you could be great for someone else.

- Likely you do not sufficiently build up intimacy with fleeting touches and glances, getting closer in "romantic" situations spending time together, and soon with kissing.

You need to test their limits a bit and challenge them. Always be prepared to stop at any time, but make her choose how far she wants to go with you. Does she want to hold hands, does she allow your arm around her shoulder, and does she want to kiss? You need to explore.

Once you are at the kissing stage you can agree to be exclusive be together. Eventually you can make serious plans together. It goes step by step.

Alli39 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like a mix of

you going for girls who are emotionally unavailable
something about the way you act making them realize they're emotionally unavailable (because that's not always something you're aware of a meeting a great person actually can help you realize that about yourself)
they just aren't into you that much and some of these are polite ways to say that (if she's friend zoning you, it's this)

Like it doesn't seem to actually say much of anything about you or them that these are the reasons you're getting rejected. None are really red flags or lies; in fact it sounds like they're generally being kind of legit with you. (The "I don't deserve you" one is a little odd, but that's about it. Probably just an insecurity thing.)

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Those are all different reasons these different girls turned you down. And there are all kinds of reasons why a girl might distrust guys.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah that's all just bullshit.

In fairness it's totally legitimate for them to view you as a potential cause of their death so they get a pass on the lying.

I think the old saying 'why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free' cuts both ways, if you are already there for them as an emotional support animal etc then they dont need to fuck you to make you stick around, they can fuck Chad Thundercock and tell you about the shitty day they had.

This is why, for the most part, I don't do 'friends' with women, if you aren't fucking me then I don't care about your problems.

It's not a great solution, there are no doubt many costs to this approach but I don't want to feel like I am being used.

Jersey2 · Answer

You aren’t fun, cool or interesting enough… in short, you din’t get her wet literally or figuratively. At your age you should be in the path to success, have an interest in travel and be very comfortable in your own skin as they say. When asked an opinion, have one! No willy nilly answers or “what do you want to do” responses. Women want to be led as most are submissive. But if she disagrees then listen and be willing to change your mind… unless you don’t want to, then don’t.

Figure out what kind of man you are and then double down on evolving into that type of man. Don’t pick a type that you aren’t like athlete/jock or something else if its not you. Oh, and get better clothing, get your hairstyle set and know yourself better as in likes and dislikes.

magiusX26 · Answer

shocker (sarcasm) women so far go straight to blaming the guy. statistically speaking, it sounds like you are just another average guy, the ones that most women want to run to later after they have ran through (and been ran through as they say) all their options. sorry "ladies" but the statistics prove this is most often what actually happens as the stats also prove y'all usually say you want one thing but consistently choose to mate with anything other than what you state you want. that is not going into the often unreslistic standards and expectations that are well documented at this point.

Starlove4 · Answer

It’s something you’re doing wrong. You have to search yourself and the only way we can tell u what it is you’re doing wrong is if u give more details. I know one thing that would make me friend zone a guy is if he keeps bringing up his ex , baby’s mom drama , not that good looking , not making a move fast enough , he stinks all the time , acting selfish scared to spend money on a simple date. There’s a list but I’m tired 😴

Dan_cColt · Answer

Sounds like the common bullsh*t lines you'd say, but my guess is you're coming off too door mat like and or playing the friend game a little too well. You should try to be more flirtatious and confident, also should try to be more stern about where you want the relationships to go, if they aren't into you, move on. Make it more clear so you don't have to waste time until you are impatient and they wanna keep you around as the "safe" guy.

DextroShade · Answer

Most men struggle and these hoes are just rejecting you and thinking they are being nice by not telling you the real reasons. At this point I would recommend treating them like shit because thats apparently what most modern women respond favorably to.

OddBeMe · Answer

It’s all bullshit for getting out of saying “No”. My advice: learn to take it. I guarantee you…it’s not really you. Maybe 10%. The other 90% is their past history, daddy issues, porn they watched, etc, all subconscious.

Learn to accept it and move on. One in 20 or 30 will say yes.

inhua · Answer

many of those are bullshit reasons. they reject you because they don't find you attractive. physical attraction has always been the key. not personality otherwise she'd just fuck all her male friends

Anonymous · Answer

Probblaby something you do. Maybe she wants something long term and she doesn't get that vibe from you.. or the opposite🤷🏼‍♀️

DrKrieger · Answer

They want to leave the door open for a possible future relationship, but rather than settle, they would rather roll the dice and catch a bigger fish.

Anonymous · Answer

They don't want to hurt your feelings. Which means you're a nice enough guy but you don't turn them on for some reason.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you talk about with the women you meet? do you flirt, tease or create / build any tension?

rm_llort · Answer

1 of or a combination of the following: you're not in good shape, broke or don't offer access to do fun shit all the time.

Jltakk · Answer

They just see you as one the friends they chuckle with. They can't see you as anything deeper than that.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

That's what they do. They think it's funny.

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure, but hang in their and stay positive.

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