Polls: Dating

I don’t know if I’m old fashioned or whatever but I feel like it’s kind of embarrassing to meet someone on an app especially if it’s socially related like for relationships and friendships? Like for me I’d much rather meet someone organically either through work or school or a hobby or class or through mutual friends or family than through an app.

Him:

Recently moved to the US, flirty, works

in entry level construction, loves partying and dancing, loves spending time with his family, wants to get married and have a family.

Single or Taken. xx

I live in the US but him and his family lives in Germany. We met because he has a relative who lives close me. My boyfriend has a younger sister who claims to be shy and it was understandable at first, especially due to the language barrier. When I met her, she was 12 and I, 20. Fast forward to last year, I 23 and her 15; I go live with them in Germany to learn the language while I took a gap year from college due to covid. As time progresses and my understanding of the language picks up, I start to see a different side from her. She doesn't acknowledge me, talk to me, or even greet me in the morning. She only refers me as her brother's girlfriend or "sie" which translates to "she" in German. The only times where I've heard her say my name is when she has an accusation to say about me. She's accused me for entering her room, on many occasions. She's accused me of taking her stuff as well. She also claims to not want to try to speak with me because she's too "shy" and that I will laugh at her English. In reality, she's laughed at my German twice (once, infront of her friends and another time during dinner). The tension with her and I just kept getting worse, with bigger claims such as my boyfriend and I letting her starve. Why would it be my responsibility to make sure that a 15 year old ate dinner before going to bed? Anyways 10 days before I left back for the US, her and I got into an argument. I was alone in the house with her and her friend (which gave her the boost of energy to rip me a good one). I left the country on bad terms with her, and not once has she apologized to me for anything in the past 4 years. Now as I said, some of my belongings disappeared while in Germany and I'm discovering that she took them. The only proof I have are my receipts and that she posted a photo online wearing one of my missing dresses. I don't know German law, but she has had a history of shoplifting. I also learned that she is hoarding my stuff at that same friend's house.

Don't we all need to know as much as possible about a partner before entering into a committed relationship?

Are you comfortable with going by your instincts alone or do you want to know more about someone before turning your heart over to them for safe keeping?

Just wondering?

Share your thoughts and feelings with us... PLEASE?

I see online things about being a high value man or hear men mention they are one or women referring to wanting a high value male. Naturally I wonder who actually believes in this concept?

Many people have different views on how they treat dates, how dates should be, and if they should be professional/casual… Some people say you should treat dates like a job interview… Professional and straight to the point.

Well… Do you treat dates like a professional job interview, or are you more casual/go with the flow? Why/Why not?

My answer: I don’t treat first dates like a job interview. I don’t mind going outside the barriers of “get to know each other” questions. I like to be casual and comfortable, but also hold enough “professionalism” to make it so they know I am serious about dating, and not just wanting sex, going on a date for fun, or whatever.

My upstairs neighbor has been noisy since she moved in and to retaliate I bought a ceiling thumper. I bought the thumper last fall and she didn’t start blasting her tv on purpose until a few weeks ago. I’m not sure if the thumper caused her to go this route but I’m not using the thumper until after the HOA meets with her to potentially fine her landlord for previous disturbances she’s caused. She got the notice in March & I plan to not use the thumper until after the hearing. If I use the thumper too soon before hearing I worry she will use it against me assuming she recorded it. Since March this yr after the hearing notice was sent to her, I have three reports where the police and security reported her blasting her tv and police even knocked on door. Security was here last Saturday and Police came the Sunday. From my knowledge, the police and security have not recorded my thumper I’m guessing she would have a recording.

Why did you fall out of love?

ooooooops!!! I thought My Fiance and Myy 3d Year Anniversary Tomorrow!!! I felt soo Sick!!! xxoo