Seems like everyone in their 20s uses dating apps now. Do most people actually prefer to meet people apps now?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know if I’m old fashioned or whatever but I feel like it’s kind of embarrassing to meet someone on an app especially if it’s socially related like for relationships and friendships? Like for me I’d much rather meet someone organically either through work or school or a hobby or class or through mutual friends or family than through an app.

I prefer using apps rather than organically to hook up

I prefer using apps rather than organically for another reason

I prefer meeting organically but use apps because I have a limited social circle

I prefer meeting organically but use apps because no one in real life wants me

I prefer meeting organically for safety reasons

I prefer meeting organically for another reason

[nachosaresexy]

I think a lot of people *prefer* what you're talking about - being able to meet others in normal everyday situations, whether it's at work or through mutual friends or whatever organic ways, like you said. But the apps are a shortcut. Maybe not a shortcut to a good destination, but still a convenient path to take.

So I basically agree with you. I've looked around on a couple dating apps but never actually pursued anything. The last relationship I had we met through mutual friends, and the one before that was a former co-worker. So I feel like if people just put themselves out there (in normal social settings, especially now that the pandemic effects aren't so limiting) and be willing to take a chance with talking to & meeting people, but without going into anything with unrealistic expectations, eventually life just has a way of connecting people until something clicks. That's pretty cliche I know, but it happens, a lot, just sucks sometimes when it's not on our own ideal schedule or timing :/

[ShadowMonarch]

This case is a lot bigger than you think..
There are various reasons
Low self esteem
No confidence
Fear of rejection
Fear of pregnancy (yeah you heard me right)
Various kind of rumors
Bad influence
The biggest reason of All Porn
So what happens?
Men just use dating apps so it won't hurt them
One study showed that young men having sex is decreasing year after year

[Asker]

But isn’t using dating apps even more detrimental to someone’s confidence? What if no one matches with you lol at least in real life you don’t get that kind of rejection based solely on looks. Usually it’s how you present yourself + your looks + some personality + whether the other person’s in a relationship or not. With dating apps you *know* they are single, they don’t know the way you present yourself, they don’t know your personality either so it’s literally solely based on looks when it comes to app dating

[ShadowMonarch]

Agree

[Paulalove98]

I prefer both in person and trying to meet online of course online isn’t always my go to and I do work in retail customer service but gee coming across a young single guy isn’t easy because I seem to get a lot of people that walk in my store that are couples, married men, guys in a relationship etc so can anyone really blame me? I also don’t go out much as in many social events often nor have the time to with my work schedule and I’m not in a class rn at my college so yeah I use a couple dating apps and I am aware I may not find someone there but I think it’s worth a shot and if I don’t find someone then oh well I tried. I do talk to coworkers that are guys and a few are my friends in fact but I don’t think anyone just jumps so sudden and asks them on a date and I don’t wanna get all my hopes on just those one or two guys that could not even feel the same as me.

[Asker]

No one said you had to date them but I feel like people on apps are just desperate. Just go out and meet people what’s the rush? Get to know your coworkers maybe they have a handsome brother or friend. The Issue with abs is it you think you have so many options but you an actuality don’t have that many options because everyone thinks this way

[Squaresquirrel]

I don't use it and won't use it. Dating app users are lazy plus it's way too forced.
I use meetup groups to meet people in real life and get to know them and click before a date. Not to date to see if we click. Less frogs to kiss.

[JBlade]

I would prefer to meet someone irl but now that I work remote, I basically never leave my home unless running errands. There’s nowhere to really meet someone similar. Before covid, the only reason I met people was because I was required to be places, like work/school. No events I’m interested in and if I did go to an event, I doubt I would have anything in common with someone.

[Asker]

A lot of people meet through mutual friends like if we were friends and hang out I might invite some of my other female friends and you get to know them or even like roommates or through family I feel is better than meeting someone onlien

[JBlade]

So I’m forever alone I guess. Don’t have any friends currently cause I’m not interested in that as I don’t enjoy hanging out. I’ve only ever had one female friend (work friend) in the past where that was attempted and it felt awkward for me.

[Asker]

What about other guys friends? Maybe they have female friends or cousins or coworkers

[JBlade]

I have my 2 best friends but they’re across the country. No other friends besides them. I appreciate your suggestions though.

[jcampbell115]

I would say unless you're in class or some sort of club, it's very difficult to meet people that you know right from the get-go are single. Like yeah, I could go up and try to talk to someone at the gym, but there is no guarantee whatsoever that that person is single

[Asker]

Yeah but usually I feel like people meet others through mutual friends and stuff or like if you’re my friend we might hang out with some of my friends who are female

[ShadowMonarch]

What would you say about the 70s or 80s?

[jcampbell115]

Yes I would say that's the other way

[Espresso-Grande]

I have never used a dating app and never will.

I am like you, i prefer to meet people in real life.

I guess some people use online dating because they don't have the opportunity to meet people in real life. Not everyone's circumstances or situation allows them to meet a potential partner in real life.

Some people feel more comfortable chatting to people online for the first time rather than face-to-face.

[Avicenna]

For most people, I don't see any advantage to using dating apps other than access to mass numbers, and even that isn't an advantage if quality isn't there and/or any response rate is poor. You don't even know for sure that the person on a dating app is even looking to meet someone- they could be there to cheat or just for attention.

[Asker]

I mean even if you assume they are single and looking to date it doesn’t lead to anything substantial usually no matter the app. Like if you think about it in person you might meet 10 people organically but on an app you can “meet” 100 people so while you get access to more people you’re not really increasing the odds plus they could be creepy and weird and ugly in real life which you would know if you meet someone in person first

[Avicenna]

I agree 100%

[whirled_up_girl]

I haven't used any of the dating apps out there, but I think a lot of people would prefer the old fashioned way but when that fails they turn to dating apps, or at least that would be my guess.

[Anonymous]

I prefer online dating.. those I am instinctly attracted to in real life more often turns out to not take me serious/just want sex

[Asker]

But isn’t online daily solely based on luxe? At least in real life you know that you could be rejected because they are in a relationship or because you don’t share the same hobbies or it could be your personalities don’t mesh together or are you guys just don’t have chemistry. But when it comes to dating apps literally the only thing you say is there photos and what they claim about themselves so isn’t it in a way more superficial by using dating apps

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe after knowing them for several months, which I only get to do with very few. These days none. People in real life neglect to tell all about themself too. I for example have experienced guys not telling me (or anyone at university/workplace) about them having a girlfriend for 1-2 months.
People can lie everywhere for a certain amount of time. I don't chat long online before meeting for a little chemistry check. I did catch a couple of guys having lied when meeting them in real life, but most seemed genuine.
Anyway.. I still only am instinctively into the ones who just want sex. Even if I feel we have a lot of things in common and get along well. They are not obvious fuck boys, at least not to me or my friends who at times knew them very well, just turned out they only want the sex down the line when they really hit on me and tell me that.

[Asker]

But what I’m saying is that when you meet people in real life you instantly know if you can hit it off because you know whether you have chemistry from the start instead of wasting time chatting online for months and then meeting up. Plus when you meet people online it’s like you said you think you have unlimited options when you really don’t because everyone thinks that way and in reality no successful relationships really result from online dating

[Opinion Owner]

once again.. my chemistry is off.. my instincts are not towards men I fit with.
and again, you don't need to chat for months. You can meet within and hour if you want.
I have even attended a tinder wedding. People can find each other online.

[Opinion Owner]

I am not saying everyone should do online dating, but you only focus on a specific way to use it and on the negatives. One can also do that about real life. Good it works for you, then just stay off online

[Caunsos]

Most social activities are managed with some app. You have real old fashion option of let your parents arrange your marriage.

[Asker]

When did I say that? Some people are just able to meet others organically and don’t need to have to resort to an app

[Caunsos]

I never said you did.

[Sam_The_Savage]

I don't know about others...
But I met many girls from apps they are awesome. I had great experience.

[bamesjond0069]

Apps are great for breaking your social circles.

[SignedAutographs]

They FUCKING SUCK