What do you think about texting while on a date?

[Gloree]

It is rude

It is okay

[Oigit]

I walked out on a date due to it. Got to a point where I was talking to the top of her head due to her constantly looking down at her phone. I also had to repeat myself frequently because she was too wrapped up in her phone to even listen to me most of the time. I don't even think she instantly realized that I had left when I did.

[Gloree]

That's still harsh though

[Oigit]

Yea I can see it as being harsh. But I think we can act as if we are obligated to see a date to the end no matter what. Like the person you are on a date with is clearly drinking too and making an ass out of themselves. But because we feel obligated to stay, we end up sitting there and more or less accept it. Instead of walking out and leaving a bad situation before it gets worse.

That and walking out bad date can spare us a lot of embarrassment. I don't think there is no way that people in the restaurant didn't catch on to how bad the date ways. So this bad date I was on become a point of conversation of other tables and people where probably laughing because I stuck it out for as long as I did.

[bayoubob]

@Gloree How is that harsh?

[Cathy7734]

Was this the first date? Or have you known your date for awhile?

[Gloree]

@bayoubob because you didn't try to warn her not to do it again or tell her that you don't like it.

[Oigit]

It's not something you should have to warn someone about. Because it comes down to treating someone with common courtesy and mutual respect. Ignoring the person sitting across from you in favor of your phone throws common courtesy and mutual respect right out the window. So you can't expect the person on the other side of the table to treat you with any common courtesy and mutual respect. If anything you should expect them to not do so because you are not showing them any.

Also I stuck it out and attempted to get her to engage with me more then her phone for more then 30 min before I left. I even tried asking if she had some kind of emergency on her end and offered to reschedule if need be. Only answer I got back was no, no, no.

[Gloree]

Okay. You have a point.

[proNutro]

Honestly no, you go on a date and the person does that to you? Walking out is the best answer. I’d just walk out of the person was on their phone the whole time. I’ve done it to friends who sit on their phone the whole time while out. It’s like why did you bother making plans with me if you’re going to be stuck on your phone. It’s INCREDIBLY rude. Sure if they had to do a quick text back to something then whatever

[peedy]

Unless its your mother and there is a family or other emergency I consider it rude defeating the concept of "the. date" which is spending time with and getting to know the person
Texting other is taking away the attention that should be focused on the person that your with

[OlderAndWiser]

A date is an occasion when you spend time together, talking and getting to know each other, exploring to see if there is mutual interest in a romantic relationship. If you are going to be on your phone texting, why does the guy need to be there? Is he supposed to wait patiently until you are ready to talk and then be grateful for whatever time you have alloted to him?

If you did this to me on a date, I would walk out and go home alone and I woldn't cate if you had to walk home in the middle of the night. This is EXTREMELY disrespectful.

But at least it is a clear signal to a guy that he needs to stop wasting time with you and look elsewhere for a real partner.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

It's very rude... Put down the phone and pay attention to your date people or why even go on a date if going to spend the whole time texting other people🤷🏼‍♀️
If someone spent the whole date with me being on their phone or texting other people, I'd get up and leave so they could carry on.

[Moose304]

Texting is just how people seem to want to communicate in the 21st century. I think my take on this is going to be a bit different because when I am out with a lady she is a mother of teenage kids or a grandmother. I can't expect her to turn off her phone when with me. So I am OK with some limited texting. I try to look at this from her standpoint. I have taken some ladies out and had them make quick texts or simply call and tell them to knock it off. A young person male or female on a date needs to turn off the phone's ringer and enjoy the night. To do otherwise is just rude!

[Emiliamazing]

I think if you’re texting on a date or even an evening with your significant other you’re showing them that your attention is divided. If you both are doing it, what’s the point in trying to have a nice evening together? Perhaps if you’re trying to make plans with other friends for later in the evening, that might be OK. All in all though, wouldn’t be a fan

[Bubbles45]

Well the way I look at it is if something on your phone is more important than the person who you're supposed to be dating then maybe it's just not going to work out... The whole reason a date exists is to get to know each other, not to get to know your social media bubble better. :P

[glennos89]

If it happens I wouldn't be really happy about it propbably but I would accept it without making problems about it. Depending on how much time she spend on her phone..

In my opinion you don't do that on a date and people can wait till after the date right?

[godfatherfan]

Unless you have kids or elderly parents that you are responsible for, and the texts are from those people, there is zero ZERO reason you should even have a phone out during the date. I had one date where she spent the whole time on the phone. I left early and there was no second date.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It depends on the circumstance.

She could be waiting on urgent news in which case I would have no problem with it, or the opposite end of the spectrum where she spends the entire evening glues to her phone.
I would obviously find out what was wrong. If there was nothing wrong, I wouldn't hang about. I'd be out of there.

[Squaresquirrel]

The only time I think it is acceptable, when you start the date like
"I'm sorry to leave my phone out, I am waiting for an important/emergency/family text, sorry about that"
Otherwise, NO.
Or do text, at least I can see immediately we won't have a second date and I won't feel I need to be polite.

[lightbulb27]

the very first thing you do when you meet someone new... sit at the table with them... send them a text saying it's nice to meet them! it should be a joke. then put your texter away.

put them away other than bailing out or for informing bailout friends that it's all ok.

[jshm2]

Unless you have a business to run, or a sick relative on the cusp of dying, who the fuck is important enough for you to be texting when you're dating a prospective life partner?

It's stupid priorities like these, that are leading to you leading stupid lives.

[Phoenix98]

If I’m on a date I don’t look at my phone unless I’m looking at the time which would only be to make sure we weren’t late to a move, reservation or you know something related to the date, itself.

Otherwise my attention is all on her. I think it’s rather rude to be constantly looking at your phone and checking messages on a date.

[andreasderjuengere]

If it's important, it only takes a ''Please excuse me for a moment''.
Myself - I'd switch my phone off before a date.
A personal contact always will override an electronic communication in my own ''old-fashioned'' world :)

[crossdressingrihno]

For the most part I totally agree it's bad
Though theirs such thing as emergencies and it's unreasonable to just not touch your phone when theirs a phone call

[ElvenMr]

It is definitely rude. Especially when they try to downplay it, not paying attention at all.
If she really need to text someone, just tell me what are you doing on your phone and i won't get annoyed, but if she takes her time, and kinda forgets about the date that's really rude.

[CallmeTheKnight]

To me, it shows that I don't have your full attention. What's the point of the date if you're not focused? If I don't have a good time, then you're paying for your own meal

[Pyrofox]

IF you text on our date I'm gonna just dump a 50 on the table and walk out.

[Bluemax]

To a point it's ok. Beyond a certain point it becomes rude.

[kahouuu]

It’s disrespectful!! It pisses me off. Like. If u really wanna talk to this other person — u shoulda gone out w/ them instead of me.

[Vegasrunner]

@kahouuu TY for sharing that. At some point in every first date I always stop to answer or send a text, because I want to gauge the girls reaction. If she acts like how you mentioned then she's out and it's on to the next one.

[Gloree]

@Vegasrunner what is the purpose of your test?

[Vegasrunner]

@Gloree My time is valuable and I dont want to waste it w/ a woman that behaves like that. I'm a busy and important man so any women that gets my time is going to need to be mature enough to understand that, and that's something I want to find out immediately. Fortunately no woman has acted like that because they realize what they would loose. Something most men dont realize is that if a woman really likes you she will break all her rules for you.

[Snsl153]

It's extremely rude. If this happens to me, the other person can expect to have the salad tossed over his head!

[melanieeeB]

It's so rude, I understand when they pick up the phone cause of an emergency and all but I personally always put my phone away when I'm with other people

[Kiss_Me]

VERY Rude!

I would abandon a date if she was spending time on her phone instead of interacting with me. Especially first dates.

[bolverk]

If I'm on a date with a woman and she is in her phone more than she is in the same room with me they I can guarantee that she will be alone before the night is over. I’m libel to get up and walk away, leaving her to play with her phone.

[MountAverage]

It's not like the only two options are strictly no texting and texting frequently during the date. If my date says "oh sorry, I just quickly need to reply to this message" then who cares if that's all.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Some fuckin bullshit! This is a potential interview for having a chick or dude for life. You text, I'm rolling out after appetizers.

[TrulyPink28]

Anyone who says it's okay, hasn't been taught their manners, tut tut

[genericname85]

Generally that's a red flag for me. Like if she has a really good reason, I'll tolerate it. But i think it's totally fine while one goes to the restroom.

[ArtemisSilver]

If you're using a phone to pay or call an Uber or book something then sure.

Otherwise it it's just the behaviour of an addict or a disinterested jerk, neither bring particularly great option.

[Alwayreckles93]

Extremely rude and disrespectful. I would have walk out.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I try to not text at all when I'm with someone or driving. Focus on them instead.

[Xtendable]

I voted B, but only if it is agreed to do it now and then, not taking time away from each other

[SunnyCaliGirl]

It’s rude and I will leave a date if they decided to be on their phone. It’s a waste of my time

[AlwaysBelieving]

It’s rude. I will even ask “do you mind if I show you a picture”? when even hanging out with friends.

[finding_yourself]

I would walk the fuck out there, I see her glued to the phone. I'm trying to know her, the phone is getting all the attention. i'm out, next girl.

[grega239]

1. Say you need to pee
2. Sneakily pay for your own drink.
3. Sneak out without your date noticing

[bayoubob]

Fuck that. That is one time I will stiff everyone in the joint. May throw down a fiver for a tip. Toss it in the air. It won't go to the joint, it will go to the next luck person to pick it up off the floor.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t like that kind of stuff makes me mad it probably won’t be a second date

[KrakenAttackin]

I would assume she is setting up a D appointment after our date.

[Bklynbadboy12]

It is very disrespectful to text while you're on a date I want to undivided attention and if I can have that the dates over

[dolemite89]

unless it’s an emergency, if a girl is on her phone during a date i’ll get up and say i have to go to the bathroom and just leave.

[dragoblack]

Literally means they don't find you worth their time and/or boring/uninteresting

[Guanfei]

It's a big no. If I'm on a date, my phone is face down, and I won't look at it until the end.

[Paul09]

Id lose my shit. So disrespectful. I'm not sure what if do or say. Maybe id just get up and leave?

[Tmblgrl]

dishonorable behavior. I am very sensitive about this.

[mandyfire98]

Ridiculously disrespectful.

[Tiptoetamm]

I think it's incredibly rude

[TheLoneTerran]

Situational, like most things.

[sassyredhead]

It's rude and for me a dealbreaker

[douride2]

It's rude & may be a deal breaker.

[TacosRAwesome]

Couple texts are fine. Constantly texting is rude.

[KostasKouvalis]

Makes me think they're uninterested

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Indescribably UUUUUEGHL

[Gloree]

What is uuuuueghl?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Just…. Disgusting. Unbearable, unbelievable, absolute BLEEEEH, straight Titanoboa poop

[Likes2drive]

That’s definitely rude

[Pudsmucker]

Stay focused on your date nobody else.

[exitseven]

See ya later.

[Kingofkings1992]

Of course it’s rude barring some kind of emergency

[MysticDevice]

That is a huge no-no

[Slim57]

Turn off, rude

[Uptowngirl88]

Rude

[alance99]

Disrespectful

[SignedAutographs]

Eh, depends