Questions: Dating

I have heard about it. Men saying that it is women mistake if she is single is her 30s or late 20s. but how?

Because she was dating good looking dude? So women shouldn't date someone who they find attractive? Because for some reason a good looking can pump and dump you?

I mean if I started relationship with long term intention. Then isn't it his mistake if he lie?

And they always talk about giving chance to uglier nice guy. But how do you know if this niceness is fake or real. And ugly guy are capable of doing too. And second I used to be fat. I was bullied by guys because of it. I seriously don't want to have kids with a ugly dude. Because it could mean a ugly daughter. And ugly women suffer.

And why would I date someone if there is 0 attraction. Men never do it. Why should women?

If I like his personality but don't find him attractive. Then he would be a friend. I like many men and women personality. Lol

Men always imagine that it happen because women were only into short term relationship. Dude I never have been in short term relationship. Have 0 interest in hook up. But it is possible that I might be single at 30s. because men lie/cheat/abuse you. I don't think it would be good idea to stay with a guy if he beat me. Because he can beat our kids too. I don't want that for my kid's. How is my mistake if he lied about being interested in long term relationship? Or cheat?

I mean people change. And some might do it because they were desperate like for their father medical treatment.

If they don't do it now

Crush found out I like him through friends of friends and knows that I am a hopeless romantic. Now I see him talking to his friend while sneaking glances at me from afar every time I see him and sometimes staring at me on purpose. I feel like he is contemplating how to approach me which I find surprising since he always likes at least 3 girls at a time and doesn’t seem to be a relationship Kind of guy. Also he has a (girl) friend he recently went on vacation with alone (they both posted it on their insta) and he goes to puppy yoga with. I feel like he flirts with any girl that pays him a tiny bit of attention and doesn’t really know what he wants. Given these circumstances do you think he would approach me, a hopeless romantic, if he only wanted something casual with me? Apart from relationships with girls he seems like a serious and decent kind of guy

You go on a third date with a guy. It ends with a make-out session. He is repeatedly kissing you over and over. You cuddle a bit. You go home to find hickies on your neck. You don't think about it until the week progresses and the emotions sink in. You are curious about how he feels about you. Possibly if a relationship is forming. However, you don't want to ruin things by seeming to want to put a label on it. So you are stuck with whether to say nothing and see how things go. Or the next date or time you talk to ask how he feels.