Do you think I should just give up on dating?

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I’ve been dumped, rejected and humiliated. Blind dates I get shamed for my height and some guys “pretend” that they had to go to the bathroom and left something so they leave and never come back. It always happens to me. I admit I had some faults too. Plus some guys I rejected because of their horrible attitude, and insulting my height. I had to let them go. My boyfriend of a year in a half dumped me because he was embarrassed of having a girlfriend with a masculine height and other harsh things he said. He seemed fine and didn’t care about my heights. He’s 5’7”. I am a 6’4” woman and I am so done with dating! I’m done! What’s the point of men that refuse to take the time to get to know me and look past my height. No I am NOT shallow, I’ve had tee shorter guys. Tall women get shit for preferring tall men. I prefer taller than me but I’ve kept an open mind and that’s what I’m doing for now on. As for now, for dating I’m calling it quits.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

First thing , stop going on blind dates , most blind dates are horrible to begin with, it’s a slim chance for it to even come close to working out , How did you meet your first boyfriend? Try going back to that time when you met each other. Don’t let your height effect who you are as a person , those guys’ you dated wouldn’t have been with you to begin with , if they felt your height was a turn off to them , it sounds like they just used that as an excuse to break up with you , because they met someone else , They basically hit ya where they knew it would hurt you the most , especially if you told them before , that you didn’t care for your height , so it sounds like they just used that as an excuse to break up with you , so don’t think to yourself that your height was the reason , most people are assholes when they know they are wrong , so they. point fingers at something they know that bothers you because they don’t have the balls to be honest with you , about their selfish decision of meeting someone else. So again don’t let your height be the reason you don’t want to date anymore , not everyone on this planet is a complete asshole , even though it seems like it lol The most important thing for you to do is to learn how to love yourself , accept yourself for who you are as a person , understand you are a beautiful person and treat everyone the same way you want to be treated in return, not everyone is going to like you but you will eventually meet people that do , that actually have a heart that accept you for you , people that are judge mental that think their shit don’t stink , are in for a rude awakening , because those people are insecure about themselves , it makes them feel better to put someone else down to make themselves feel like they are better than everyone , little do they realize they are nothing but a joke. When you come across those Type of people remove yourself from those insecure people and surround yourself with people that accept you for you that bring positive and happiness into your life. When you learn how to accept yourself , that’s when you become more attractive to other people that actually have a heart. I was always a chubby broad kid growing up , I thought no girl would want me because I was broad and chubby , so my self esteem was very low about myself , my friends would make comments and jokes to me about my weight and size , making me feel even more worse about myself , until I realized fuck them , I am who I am , if you don’t like it there’s the door , Once I got past that low self esteem phase and started accepting myself for who I was and treating people the same way I wanted to be treated , I started meeting people that brought positive energy into my life , Girls were approaching me , flirting with me , I was shocked thinking what in the hell do these beautiful girls’ see in me? that I don’t see on myself? to finally realize , it was my heart and personality and accepting myself for who I was , When you become your own worst enemy , like many people tend to do , you attract enemies pretty
Much , people that have negative energy about themselves that are judgmental and insecure about themselves , people that thrive off of putting you down and being judgmental , when you accept yourself and love yourself as a person and treat people the way you want to be treated you become attractive to t people
That have positive energy about themselves and those people want to be closer to you because you are throwing off positive energy as well. I know it sounds weird , but it’s actually truth , People that hate to see you smile that hate to see you have a good time are people that are jealous of your positive energy , they wish they could be like you but they can’t because they are insecure about themselves , If someone doesn’t like you and tries to bring negative energy to you , Walk away from them and act like they don’t exist , surround yourself with people that want to be a part of your life , I guarantee you will find yourself a partner

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Tall woman are hot.. Plus we'd match.. I'm 6'4 too lol

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Give yourself a break from men. You sound emotionally exhausted and there’s just no reason to keep putting yourself through the wringer like this because there’s no rush to be in a relationship. Even if you feel like you’re at ready for one, this may be the universe trying to tell you that it isn’t time yet.

razelove · Answer

When your attitude turns sour like that I would say yeah, distance yourself from dating for a while. I've had the mentality that "no matter what happens it's going to be shit". Surprise surprise, while thinking like that all my dates and hook-ups amounted to nothing more than shallow encounters.

Wait until you're not framing other people and yourself so one dimensionally before you throw yourself out there again. Unless you're just looking to hook-up, having the mentality that things are going to fail anyway is completely fine in hook-up culture, as there really isn't a winning condition there.

I only ever dated one girl taller than me, it was a novel experience, I'd do it again, but I don't think most women prefer it, nor is it something I'd seek out.

jshm2 · Answer

Maybe go lesbian?

Joking aside, You don't find diamonds by looking at the ground, you need to mine the dirt. Sure you've got bad experiences - everyone does - but when you stop looking is when you stop getting closer to the real diamond soul mate you are after.

You probably have a shit preference in men. You've seen what your preference is really like, and it's time for you to switch things up. Height doesn't really mean shit, you want personality and charm as that is the type who will give a fuck about you.

Sameone · Answer

No no no
Listen my dear
I was Ben regectd many tims because i have sex problem ( small peins). Everytime not working whit women
More than this i get cheating many times so i didn't give up
Until i meet this woman who aim whit her in relationship she okay about my problem and she is tall the me like 10 or 15 cm and it's okay all but when she wears heels 👠 i have to jump for kiss her 😅😂

So my dear is not your problem you are tall is they are problem short guy's

So don't give up because you are going to find right person who is going to love your soul not your body

But if you want tall guys vist holland (Pays-Bas) min high ther is 180cm i don't know how much in feet and for women 170cm

Wish all luck 🤞

exitseven · Answer

I cannot believe how many jerks are out there. Guys that would reject a girl because she is tall are just insecure. I liked a girl who was tall. I thought she was beautiful. Unfortunately she just thought of me as a friend. Everybody is not like those guys.

Berethor · Answer

I guess, finding someone taller than you is hard, and a man should be taller than a woman.

Drew-1990 · Answer

I don't think anyone should give up you will find someone that will either be taller or shorter and doesn't care at all. I won't lie I would probably not date you for being taller but I would never shame you for it or leave a date because of it that is just rude.

MrNameless · Answer

Don't give up. You're young. Those guys just have self-esteem issues, immature and can't handle dating women taller than them. Perhaps they get pressure from it. I don't know. It's not your fault.

Have you tried online dating with a subscription (coffeemeetsbagel is good)? Cause that could help you filter out what you want.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Any woman who prefers taller men is technically shallow regardless of height…it’s just that for you it’s pretty hard to find taller men…are you sure he dumped you for your height alone? Maybe you are obese? like personally I wouldn’t dump a girl for being too tall ever…but I would if she got fat and didn’t do anything to lose the weight

Pohjolan · Answer

You shouldn't give up but recognise that you are competing for the top 0,5% of men just in terms of height with the majority of other women.

If you'd cut out 80% of that pool based on other factors it would be 0,1% or one of a thousand.

It is going to be hard.

DARKCLOUD1945X · Answer

I wish I was 50 years younger I would love to date you just for being you. I am 6ft tall am I am the shortest and oldest of the bunch. We run from 6ft me to 6ft 7 and 1/2 and there are girls thrown in the mix too. Tall women are nothing new to me I used to get my ass beat by everyone. Knock down crotch grabbing punching fights no quarter given girls got as good as they gave. I love tall women

renodnol32 · Answer

You should take break. Focus on what you like. What you're doing in life. Take up some hobbies. Keep dating as secondary for now. You're young. Eventually things should and will fall in place for you. For now focus on living life at your terms and do what makes you happy.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. Just realize that most people are probably not going to make good partners. There are lots of people out there who might treasure you for who you are without being hung up by your height.

shortster · Answer

No, you just need to look for different guys. Guys that are more mature than the ones you have been dating.

DextroShade · Answer

You are choosing the wrong men, either lower your standards or buy a dog and die alone.

Twalli · Answer

I don't care too much about height, but I think you'd care about mine. Stick a ruler on top of my head and it would reach your height.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

have you tried online dating or dating apps? just asking because most people agree that women are bombarded with options on there

TheSpider · Answer

Might as well. Have you thought about what you want for breakfast?

noohair · Answer

Guys are jerks, some are worse. I am 5'8" and I wish I was young enough to meet you.

rebeliouse · Answer

dont do that im sure your very well worth getting to know

Anonymous · Answer

What is your heritage or ethnicity? Is a guy who is 5'7 too short for you?

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