Should give up on dating altogether?

[Daniellep1995]

Now 28 years old and feeling defeated. I’m rejected by the guys I like or pursued by the ones that are extremely boring (no personality) or crazy.. my exes appeared to lose interest in me after a time and totally discarded me. I know it’s not like I didn’t anything major wrong. I think I just wasn’t exciting enough for them as one said they didn’t feel the spark anymore and the other one saying I did not show enough enthusiasm at times. I’m left feeling pretty rejected and like I’ve been dealt a bad hand. I just feel like my personality and appearance is not your average guys cup of tea and that stinks because I feel I’ll be lonely and overlooked forever. I feel stuck in my own body and it’s a really bad feeling. Mind you despite my bad experiences I’ve tried to do good like grow into being a better person, pursuing goals, keeping myself healthy, working on mindset although today after being rejected again it’s triggered the same past feelings. I’m ready to totally give up.

[TooHot2Care]

Oh look, another one of my female halves….

How ya doin?

No, do not give up.

I’ve been where you are, and I’ve seen new peaks.

I also saw new valleys and new lows.

There are things you can do to attract guys: gym, yoga, surgery.

just like a guy who wants to attract girls he likes but can’t in the moment needs the gym, better clothes, better hair, better game, maybe a persona.

Also, what do you do besides dating and finding guys fun or boring?

Im into aesthetics, art, poetry, fashion, and learning mathematics, science, physics, etc.

Point is I’ve got a lot to me and a lot to talk about with the other person….. and I’m hot as fuck.

The girl I loved most …. Yeah, she had a big booty but she also got fat….. But I spent some time with her and took her to the gym and I fell for her before she even had a chance to get a transformation.

She was fun, she was flirty, she made me laugh like a Hyena, she would talk about political things with me and had a measured view of it…..

She was an amazing woman. *sigh*……

But it’s not about me.

it’s about you, so what do you do besides dating? What’s fun for you?

[Daniellep1995]

Thanks for your advice. I do all I can to improve all aspects of myself. I’m in the best shape of my life, I know this post came off negative but I do my best to stay positive and work on mindset-I’m just jaded because the guy I cared about told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship because he was lost and not over his last one. Yet he said I’m the whole package. Anyways, I love all styles of dancing, baking, being active, photography, travel, and mindset/neuroscience topics. Anything around growth.

[Daniellep1995]

I also have a podcast.

[Anonymous]

I could rant at you for a really long time about how much better off you are than almost every guy out there but ok, you are having a bad day and apparently your genitals entitle you to a helping hand so here it is:

You are free to do whatever you want, these your consequences and as such, your choices.

The world doesn't owe you anything.

I can't imagine why you give a single shit about whatever the fuck an average person is.

You are framing things negatively, that isn't helping you.

It might turn out later that the hope you had previously was a lie but it is vital to understand that it was never a waste because you can't go on without hope.

[Summeroflove]

Maybe you need a break. You will find the right guy someday. But sure. Take a break but don’t give up keep praying. If you’re really searching for love I feel deep down you’ll find it

[molonski2]

You have no reason to " give up " , just because the correct person has not come along at this point of time doesn't matter , you are doing all the good stuff , keeping fit and healthy being the best person you can be , I'm going to say be a little selfish and just focus on " you " , What do you really want? What do you want to do? etc , you'll be surprised when the correct person comes along , but try not to put too much pressure on yourself , you are a great person , you know that , out there , the correct guy will know that also , focus on you , and be ready , dont give up.

[YourExLover69]

I have also experienced same situation in my life. Tried to talk with few girls they responded temporarily but then either ignored me after few days or weeks or ghosted me completely. Especially in online world. So I feel like I should completely give up on girls. There is little bit hope in my life.

Guys like me want enthusiastic, friendly, loyal, persistent, approachable, caring and open minded girls in their lives. Of course relationship needs time, efforts and working.

[Anonymous]

I’m kind of shy, and I hate long distance relationships, but if you want to meet me, just let me know because I think you’re really beautiful from your picture. And you honestly sound just like me. I know I might be a stranger, but don’t give up. You have a lot to offer.

[Shy_Steve]

No, Your still young so just try to have a break for Dating for a while and then see if someone you like comes along and just start Flirting with him, But don't do it with a Guy who talks to a lot of other Girls because you will be wasting his time and especially yours.

Your Attractive and you seem like a nice Girl, Nice Pretty Girls like you seem to be already taken near me so i don't understand why your Single.

[MementoMori777]

Why would you give up? What exactly is there to gain from that? That's not just comfort, cause that comfort won't satisfy your soul, giving up just assures you for loneliness.

[Uenvy694u]

What u do is take ur time. Have some fun live life. Worst thing is 2 rush in a relationship. Especially like a rebound. Cause soon or later it will come back 2 haunt u.

[VikingWarLord]

You've gotta make a guy excited to look at you. I can see from your avatar you're miss plain Jane, which could be good if you're tryin to date a Youth Pastor at a church, but I sense you don't want that either.

DM if you want advice

[ohsheeT]

Never every give. Take a couple steps back and remember this is just a moment in time and when you allow it to pass there will be a new moment

[MrCommodore]

Don't give up, just change approach and environment, you will meet somebody.

[mommymommymommy]

I mean, if you think you should.

But, that would just show a defeatist attitude. Do you really want to be known as a failure?

[Anonymous]

Okay... Tell us one thing!
Why are you tell us all that... Do it ot don't do it, it's your choice!!!

[Opinion Owner]

If 20 people here say yes and 2 say no, then what would you do?

[Anonymous]

Told you ages ago - you should have dated me! :) Forget the age gap.

[Anonymous]

You're not beautiful either you should give up is the best option for you. 😊

[shades777]

Have you tried looking within? Just a thought

[Daniellep1995]

That’s all I do as an introvert

[shades777]

What makes you happy?

[Daniellep1995]

Friends, family, travel, dance, nature, writing, creating, baking and peace

[shades777]

I think the man your compatible with would be related within those activities on some level, dancing attend some salsa dancing, or any coop dancing, nature, parks, biking trails, baking, perhaps a cook.

Just throwing out examples

[Adogdog]

Never give up!

[idontknow100]

The one that ends up losing there is you, move on

[Anonymous]

Yes.