Guys, do you care if your girlfriend/wife/ date post revealing pics online?

[Chelsdope0]

What’s your reason behind it? Why would it bother or (NOT) bother you.

[ShadezMcgee]

Yes, I would mind.

Here's the reality of the situation. Social media has created a gateway with access to women all over the world by the use of a single message and button. To go with that, it has exposed a lot of women doing provocative pictures for exposure to maybe get modeled or get attention and fame via use of exploiting their sexuality to create thirst traps for men to earn a quick buck.

Now, we as men see women that do this as attention seekers and not ones to be taken seriously in a relationship for a few reasons.

1.) Attention seeking and doing these kind of pictures will only invite unwanted men a gate into the relationship via message and comments on the pics.

2.) She does not value the relationship between the man and herself.

3.) For what reason does she need the photos up there outside of validation?

So back to my view here. If my girlfriend started doing revealing pictures and posting them online to whatever platform she is using like IG, OnlyFans, or whatever, I will end the relationship. I will respect her decision enough to do it, but I refuse to watch my girlfriend disregard my values and keep our relationship exclusive and secure from outside interference. I look at that and think. Why do you need to do this? Do you not care about our relationship? Am I not enough for you? Why are you flaunting something that should be seen only by the person you are in a relationship with? You don't value me or the relationship if you have to do this and open the floodgates for other men to comment on your pictures and reach out to you via messages trying to flirt and shoot their shot with you.

Again, if you want to do that, fine. You will just be doing that on your own because we are done.

[RavVid]

I think both guys and girls would be unhappy if the partner flirted in front of them and gave every impression of trying to get off with someone else. Most want manifest fidelity from a partner they are investing in.

Revealing pics is in this exact category and amounts to casting your bread upon the waters. So I don't see why girls would expect their guy to be happy with it. Some guys might be happy sharing their girls body via image and take likes as compliments to them but a lot won't and will regard it as bad partner behavior.

I would see a deeper problem in that desire for male attention reveals her character is strongly based on seeking gratification. That is a poor characteristic to have in a partner.

It is all about her. I think a relationship is You, Me and Us and this shows only the Me is important to her and the You and Us isn't.

In that case you don't have a relationship in reality.

[argot]

It would mean she's a narcissistic attention whore with potential personality disorder which comes stacked with low-self esteem, depression, and erratic psycho behavior. It's a mental sickness... Just like when someone is coughing during flue season and you back up because you're wired to avoid sickness, the same goes for mental illness...

[argot]

*"flu"

[Mr_twoface]

I might be one of the rare guys who is OK with her revealing pics or whatever else online as long as I am informed about it. I believe my past relationship experiences have influenced my thoughts and beliefs.

[FunkyMonkee]

I've never had to deal with such things but, I kinda think I wouldn't give much of a shit about it. It's her body and if she wants to show it off, that's fine with me. If I advocate public nudity, why would I get pissed about someone doing it, even if she WAS my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I'm against it. I don't think I could stay with someone who continued posting that sort of thing after I made it clear I didn't approve.

I'd consider it evidence of either:a deep-seated insecurity, orpre-cheating behavior.

It's inconsiderate unless you're a swimsuit model.

[JacobJordan]

Do I care? Absolutely. Can she? If she wants. But the relationship will be over before that picture finishes loading. I am not about to married to a hoe

[Chelsdope0]

How is that being a hoe?

[JacobJordan]

Why is she showing off her body to strangers when she is in a relationship? Because she wants attention and validation. That is precisely what hoe's do. The only person a man or woman should be receiving attention and validation from in a relationship is the person they are in a relationship with.

[Chelsdope0]

Oh. Well I’ve never had guys care so I didn’t know a lot of men felt that way.

I only had one guy “insult” the way I dressed. He asked if my father would approve of my pics … but the real question is.. why would he go on a date with me if he felt that way 😂😂 why bring it up now…

[JacobJordan]

That is an odd situation. I would not presume to tell a woman how to dress. She can dress however she wants. How she dresses will just determine if I intend to pursue a relationship or not. Sure women that dress revealing are sexy and lovely to look at but I prefer women that dress modestly. My wife for example dresses modestly. In public at least.

[Chelsdope0]

Lol good for her. We are entirely different people.

[Chelsdope0]

I think you’re insecure tho

[JacobJordan]

That's why I am married cause I am insecure lol

[JacobJordan]

You just couldn't help yourself could you. Had a pleasant respectful discourse and you had to try and throw in a dig. Figured you might given your choice of dress. Don't worry my wife doesn't like to dress like a skank or a slut either. She is a traditional feminine woman. The kind most guys want because they make the best wives and mothers. And she is the best wife and mother. I am quite happy that she choose me of all the men to be her husband.

[Chelsdope0]

Lol imma let you have it because you seem to really love your wife. I love that for you lol

We just have different views on this. I love showing my body to men.

Again, the men I dealt with didn’t have an issue with it… so I feel like they aren’t insecure.

[JacobJordan]

Not surprising they didn't have an issue with it. They didn't marry you. As I said I personally don't care how one dresses. Dress however you want. How you dress will determine if I or any many sees you as relationship material, something to get our rocks off or nothing. I don't view intimacy like most men so I only see nothing or relationship material (meaning marriage) a lot of guys. Especially guys your age are not too concerned with marriage they just want a woman to sleep with and if that means tolerating her posting half naked pictures they will because they have no intention of marrying the girl. They are just waiting until they find someone else.

[Chelsdope0]

And that’s fine because I never said I wanted to be married or have kids.

Are you implying that a guy who wants more will have an issue with it?

[JacobJordan]

Implying? No. Saying? Yes. Sure some may not. But quite a lot that do want more will have an issue with it and they make it quite clear that they do.

[Chelsdope0]

Oh okay.

I didn’t mean to offend you. You’re right I never experienced certain men… but I’m also not looking for them.

[JacobJordan]

I am not offended. Worry not. Just making sure you understand that there are different types of guys and they will want or expect different things. For women that want to be married they are expected to be a certain way to be considered. The same way women expect marriage material men to be a certain way.

[Chelsdope0]

I feel like you don’t respect me because I’m a “slut.” Lol

[JacobJordan]

To be honest I have no opinion about you one way or the other. I don't know enough about you. All I know thus far is how you like to dress and that is not sufficient information to form major opinions on. For all I know you could dress revealing and be a virgin. You could dress revealing and sell yourself. You could dress revealing just for pictures or just in public etc.

[DextroShade]

@Chelsdope0 you are the very definition of "recreational use only", women like you tend to die alone.

[Chelsdope0]

@DextroShade 😂🤷‍♀️

[aceleon]

because i am not a cuck i don't want some low life loser to eye fuck my girl and i am not interested in sluts either.

[Chelsdope0]

Sounds insecure… it’s her body

[aceleon]

nope, the day she decided she wants me beside her it is not her body alone anymore, it is as much as mine as hers.
for the insecurity shit, i am so tired of girls like you trying to blurr waters by equating jealousy with insecurity, no, it is not, i am not afraid of losing her to another guy or such shit if she wants to be a slut like this i would bemuch better off losing her anyway, it would be like losing weight.
jealousy is an emotion even non-monogamous animals feels which makes them not let any other male around their females. insecurity has nothing to do with it, i have a very hard time a male lion has any insecurity in him, or a gorilla and before you say we aremore evolved, no, we are not, we can come up with different loads of craps like you putting jealousy/possesiveness in the same place as insecurity but our natural instincts that is engraved into our dna doesn't change, it is there as long as we don't have our brains damaged or washed like you just did.

[Chelsdope0]

Well most guys I deal with don’t care. Only one guy I went on a date with said something a bit demeaning about my pics. He asked if my dad would approve

Lame 💀

[aceleon]

you are the lame one here because the one syou were dating were either brainwashed cucks or just fucked you and moved on with their lives.
in short one who reduces herself to an object can't call anyone lame.

[DextroShade]

Yes because that would mean she is advertising herself to other men which is completely unacceptable. If she wants to do that then to the streets she shall return!

[Chelsdope0]

Sounds insecure

[adam6402]

If a girl feels like she needs to go out wearing revealing clothes or post revealing pictures even while she's in a relationship... THAT'S insecure!!

[DextroShade]

@Chelsdope0 that doesn't mean anything when it comes from feminist thots who think that any man who isn't a cuckold is "insecure". In truth you have completely wrong: a man who is willing to kick a woman to the curb for these sorts of hoe behaviors is very fucking secure because he knows he can replace her.

[Chelsdope0]

I just don’t see it that way. The guys I dealt with don’t care

The guy I recently went on a date with kind of said something… he asked if my dad would approve of my pics… I think that’s an insecure and hypocritical thing to ask a woman on a date. Esp if he knew she dresses like that

Low jab for nothing

[DextroShade]

They care, they just won't tell you because they are trying to smash and little else. The guy who commented on your slutty clothing was the only one who was being honest with you.

[Chelsdope0]

No he wasn’t he was being a jerk bc he probably couldn’t smash.

Why would he talk to a woman like me to begin with and then try and put me down and include my father?

[DextroShade]

If he knows you aren't going to have sex with him he no longer has any reason to be nice to you and feed you comforting lies.

[Chelsdope0]

True that’s why I’m saying he doesn’t care but he’s the first guy to mention it.

[bowenw]

If you are talking about something like OF, it would probably bother me if friends saw the pics, but it boils down to it being her body to do with as she pleases.

[Chelsdope0]

I agree

[tremendousfern]

Yes, I would care. I'm not interested in dating some stupid slut who exposes herself to other men.

[jahaims]

The only reason to do so is to seek sexual attention from others which is cheating.

[Chelsdope0]

It’s not cheating

[jahaims]

Says every slut

[Chelsdope0]

Something a simp would say. 😂

[jahaims]

Yet another whore phrase. Keep proving me right.

[Chelsdope0]

You do the same 😝

[CVNT5]

I would, cuz she is mine or is gonna be mine soon. eventually my wife, the mother of my kids and it is important to protect the dignity and the sanctity of my beloved💕

[adam6402]

Yeah because she's my girl, not everyone else's out there...

[Anonymous]

If the photos clearly identify her, it really woudn't be a good idea. Unless she was a porn or only fans star, in which case it would be her business.

It would be kind of hot knowing guys are looking at pictures of her while jerking off.

[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely, positively, unacceptable.

If she posts hoe pictures she can pack herself and GTFO.

[TheSpider]

Yes. My wife would never do that. But she will make me jello.

[Anonymous]

Yes. If you don't get why it'd be pointless to try to explain it.

[Chelsdope0]

I don’t get it lol 😂

I’ve never had a jealous/ insecure or possessive man. They usuudon’t care how I dress

[Opinion Owner]

Then don't worry about it.

[Chelsdope0]

I did ask if you could explain…. I’m not a man so I wouldn’t understand. I would like to know your perspective

[Opinion Owner]

But that's what I'm saying i wouldn't be able to explain it to you because it wouldn't compute. It comes down to self respect. If I told you this you'd only read it as an insult. So why not just avoid this conversation and you keep living the life that suits you.

[Chelsdope0]

Lol I don’t offend easy. I have tough skin. I had a guy throw an insult my way on a date and my pics so im good

Please share.. even if you feel I’ll take it hard. (I won’t)

[Anonymous]

No that’s not appropriate that’s like asking me if she minds me likening a bunch of hot girls photos and commenting on them

[Notverynice]

I care. That would be unacceptable. Im possessive, that is all mine 🙂😈.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's not happening, period.

[Chelsdope0]

Why? Lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

No not if she talks to me about it first.

[Chelsdope0]

Eww, why should she have to?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause I'd want to know just how revealing these pics are. Wouldn't you want a heads up

[Chelsdope0]

Mmmm no. Lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

Okay cool so let's flip that say your amongst friends and family and you get a notification that your significant other posted something you go to look at it with your friends and family looking over you shoulder the Bam her tits or ass is exposed in the pic they just posted. Do you think you'd want a heads up now? 😉

[Chelsdope0]

No, because I just don’t give af. That’s just me.

If I post it I’m not ashamed.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Okay cool I like that you March to the beat of your own drum

[Bklynbadboy12]

What's the most revealing pic or vid you've posted

[Chelsdope0]

Now why would I tell you that lol 😝

[Bklynbadboy12]

I was just curious and this is a question and answer. So what better place to ask than here? But if you don't want to answer, I totally understand.

[Chelsdope0]

I just like to tease. I don’t fully show anything

But I was just wondering how guy’s feel about it. A guy I went on a date with asked “what would your dad think about those pics” lol I still don’t know how to feel about that.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's sexy I like that hope to see some of the pics or vids you post one day. Just promise me one thing.

[Chelsdope0]

Sure lol

[Chelsdope0]

He was also black… coming from a black man what does that mean?

[Bklynbadboy12]

That means he can't handle it and don't ever change I like the fact that your not letting society dictate to you what you can and can't do as a woman

[Chelsdope0]

Ouuu my type of guy