Polls: Dating

This chick and I have known each other for a pretty long ass time. We just insanity clicked with each. We would talk here and there and it always great. Then one day we started talking more and more then flirting started than pictures then we kissed and been fucking ever since.

We talk every day now all day. From the moment we wake up until we go to bed. We finally talked about feelings and shit. She said she is really catching feelings, I am hella catching feeling too. I've asked a girl out before this isn't my first rodeo but never a girl that I already had a connection with and we already have been having sex.

We haven't went out on a date yet but we have just chillled without fucking and just talked and had a great time. She sends me pictures like "oh I was thinking about you while taking this" or "miss you, wake up already" blah blah blah but the thing that is throwing me off is that I don't want to be rejected. She talks about other guys as I do girls but we both have said we aren't fucking anyone else or trying to talk to anyone else like that. It just kind of bugs me a bit when she talks about other dudes but I try and stay that supportive person "oh maybe give him a chance" "maybe you'll like this other dude" lmao I don't know.

Am I stuck in this friends with benefits as only a fwb? I want her to be my lady but I don't know... so many mixed feelings

Is the gym also fair game, what would be the best way to approach indirect or direct? Have you ever cold approached at the gym, what would you say? Girls would you mind if an attractive guy at the gym hit on you, not during a set of course. also is it ok to hit on the workers they're some cute 1s there. they're usually not busy at night so they have time to talk but I'm thinking would they give out they're # if they're on the clock?

How I have been told, advised, experienced... Is the best way I have come up with to go for a shy girl.
Step 1 approach them consistently and warmly
Step 2 Become their freind until they warm up about 7 months
Step 3 Break the touch barrier
Step 4 lightly flirt she will react or won't but she won't show you or tell you if she did not like it
Step 5 try asking her out and hope that she has a crush on you cause other wise you just wasted 7 months and you lost a freind.

So how far off am I? What do you think about this list? What are your thoughts or advice on shy girls?

I was flirting with this one chick and she was very pretty but I saw a pic of her on instagram with armpit hair and lost all interes. Anyone else agree. Opinions on armpit hair?