My body (before tanning, now I look better): As you can see I am a really hot guy. The thing is that too many girls who are ugly or average believe they stand a chance with me even though this is obviously not true. Here are my dating standards:
Body: -Must be thin but not too skinny. Bony or muscly is a dealbreaker. -At least 5'4'' or taller. If she meets other standards I can overlook it though. -At least B cups, perky boobs. -Butt that is not too small and is perky. -Perfect smooth pale skin. If she is overall good then I can consider a darker-skinned girl. -Slim waist, wide hips. Hourglass shape.
As you can see, my standards regarding body are not that high. Most girls who take care of their body meet these standards.
Face: -Good facial bones without any recessions. -Almond shaped eyes with good under-eye support and not much upper eyelid exposure. Blue and green eyes are greatly preferred even though it's not a requirement. -Perfect smooth pale skin, no acne. If she is overall good then I can consider a darker-skinned girl. -Thick long hair, preferably blonde (not a requirement though). -Small or medium straight nose. -Forward maxilla, good jawline. Chin must not be too small, but not too big. Medium sized mandible. -High prominent cheekbones. -Feminine fat distribution. Buccal fat (chubby cheeks) are OK, but she needs to look really youthful and feminine. I don't require a modelesque face like mine, cute face is good. -Plump feminine lips.
I don't think these standards are too high, but for some reason girls who are way below my league think they deserve a hot guy like me. I am not a hypocrite for having these standards because I meet the male analogue of them.
What do you think of these standards? Should I be more picky or is this enough?
You deserve a girl like that.
You need to raise your standards even higher.
You are shallow, you need to lower your standards.
You are a hypocrite because you don't meet the male analogue of these standards yourself. You are ugly.
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People who call me ugly, may I see your faces? I have a guess that you look like shit compared to me and try to belittle me by voting I am ugly.
Here are my dating standards. Is it bad that I won't accept a girl who doesn't fit my dating standards?
I don't think it's bad to have standards. It's what you DO with these standards that could make it "bad." E. g., picking on others who don't meet your standards; getting frustrated that no one meets your standards, and taking it out on a segment of the population. Doing THAT would make you a "bad" person.
Frankly, we ALL have standards. If we all sat down like you did and put our brains to it, most of us would turn up a list as lengthy as yours, if not lengthier.
MY question, however, in response to yours is this: What's the point of listing out these standards and sharing them publicly? If you're truly stuck on these pre-reqs and can't find someone physically attractive unless they meet them, then why ask for opinions if there will be no opinion that can change where you stand? Asking this sort of question suggests that you require some sort of validation for your standards. And I'm genuinely curious--not picking on you here--as to why you need this validation?
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Well, you’ve really thought about this, haven’t you? Good luck finding a girl that meets those standards. I think you’re gonna need a mail order bride buddy, because most women are pretty unattractive if we’re judging by your standards (with the exception of models, actresses, and a few young women here and there). I believe I saw another post of yours in which you said that too many ugly girls hit on you. Not surprising considering the majority of women aren’t built like goddesses, have funky features, imperfect skin, etc. If you DO happen to come across someone who measures up, I’m sure she’ll go for you as you’re a very good looking guy (though it’s obvious you were flexing in the last pics). I would say you are incredibly attractive compared to most men, but you certainly aren’t the best looking guy in the world. Google Travis Fimmel- he’s perfect looking, not to mention he seems very humble, unlike you. Best of luck. You’re gonna need it.
I wouldn’t say you look like shit next to him. But if you were standing next to him and I had to say who was better looking I’d say him. You’re more of a conventionally attractive, Kohl’s magazine model type of good looking (meaning in big cities where there are more attractive men, you’d be one of them). His good looks are more one of a kind.
Tall enough I’d say. Plus he’s a farm boy. But to each his own. When it comes to men’s faces, anyway, women aren’t as specific. Evolution has led us to choose our partners not entirely based on looks but more on his ability to protect and provide (well, we do it subconsciously). That’s just the way I see it though.
This guy is going to do fine. The most attractive trait in a man is a sense of entitlement and general lack of self-awareness, and this guy has both in spades. His standards wouldn't be this high if they weren't working for him. Women are just as shallow as men too by the way. That "ability to protect and provide" thing you mentioned is bull-shit. What your cave-woman brain wants is someone who is BIG, because big men can obviously eat a lot themselves (provide) and have a weight advantage (protect). However, the bridge between the subconscious approval of largeness and the conscious desire for security is a little ill-defined.
I would not mind that if it was just you bring into girls of that type. It is completely fine. Not everyone likes everything.
What is disturbing is the fact that you believe you deserve a hot girl cause you are hot yourself and average or below average girls are way below your league.
You are quite shallow, tbh. If you even said you generally prefer a cute/pretty girl it would still be fine. There are girls who do not meet most of those requirements but still look more beautiful than some other girls who do meet your primary criteria.
Also, although I don't care much about attractiveness of a person, tbh I laughed where you wrote you're quite hot. You are far from attractive in my eyes. It shouldn't matter to you at all, just saying you are not as attractive as you think. But again, I don't know. Depends on where you live.
Well with a whole list of physical attributes on your list you come across as shallow. Also just coming from a girl myself I don’t like guys who are vain which you also come across as. The problem you have is your a good looking guy and you know it but you are completely disregarding that this can come across as cockiness and is very unattractive. So to find a girl who fits your perfect girl will be hard... and when you do she will probably be vain as fuck and that’s a really ugly attribute to have
Well, you're arrogant to think that you know what a woman wants. You're not wrong to have whatever standards you want. But, basically, you're showing off and you are a touchole.
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They can make really personnalized sex dolls nowadays you know
Hey, it’s fine to have high standards, a lot of us have them. Just recognize that by being so shallow in an attempt to find perfection, you may be missing out on a lot of great opportunities.
These are VERY specific, and it's unusual for anyone to be this specific regarding ONLY appearances, so it is a bit shallow considering I didn't see one requirement for her personality/mentality. But it is YOUR love life, so you can be as picky as you want. That doesn't mean it isn't shallow, though.
Good for you if you can find that, you do come off as a little shallow tho. But everyone has a type and you're just being really honest with yours, so I personally see no problem with it. On the comment about how "girls way below your league" don't deserve a "hot guy like you" too be frank, you seemed kinda like a narcissistic asshole when you said that but I digress. everyone notices more when they are shown interest by someone they don't find attractive, your brain acknowledges it as gross, and I would be willing to bet it happens to most girls way more often than you. I am saying this as someone who grew up around a lot of traditionally attractive guys on the same level as you who have a lot of experience with this same concept.
Good luck. If you're that picky you'll never find someone like that. And if you miraculously do. Womans physical attributes change with child birth. So what will you do when her butt and tits are no longer perky, she has stretch marks, and her waist will never be as tiny? Are you gonna leave the mother of your child for another woman you think is perfect? Of course it's important to be physically attracted to a woman but the most important thing is who she is.
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No, I won't, but if she takes care of her body she will look good even is she is 40 or 50. And our children will be beautiful.
My point being who a person is even if who she is includes wanting to exercise and he right is what's important. No where up there in your description did you say for her to be witty or funny. For her to be able to have an intelligent conversation with her. The only thing you are focused on is her being your arm candy. Don't you want someone you can laugh with and who's like your Bestfriend? Like for instance you. You might be a good looking guy but your shallowness makes you unattractive to me at least.
The guys who met my standards looked hot, but I didn't liked any of them. Now, I fell for an amazing guy, he might not have a model face and doesn't meet all my old standards, but I love him. He's handsome, intelligent and treats me like a queen.
I wish you can meet a person that makes you happy and that you feel meets your standars anyway. I respect your opinion.
You can have standards like that all you want but don't be surprised if you find it hard to find someone who fits all your ideals AND have the personality you like, AND let's not forget, have a compatible sex life.
But just cause you're hot doesn't mean you deserve or is entitled to a hot girl with a great personality, what do you have to offer in turn except your looks?
Is this a troll? If you’re actually serious then okay I accept you have standards, everyone does. It’s normal for people to have standards but just at least leave your mind open. You could see what you’d call an “average” looking girl In the street who could actually have a great personality. This post was quite shallow.
He does fine. He's not going to change, because he doesn't give a shit. He probably gets laid more than 99% of men you know, that's what gives him this sense of entitlement.
I don't think that's too high a standard... possibly normal even. But your arrogance is a turn off. You have a handsome face but from what you've said here I don't find the personality aspect appealing and your body and looks aren't my type - not that that's a bad thing though as plenty of girls will see you as their type.
While it may came off as shallow but hey there are infact women who really cares for looks as well and nobody shame them, why should it be any different for men. So yes we all have our own standards and I believe you should have a girl who fit that description but at least try to have an open mind though you might know you might find a girl who clearly interested you.
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Anonymous
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Mmh.. I admit that the standards you asked aren’t that high since a girl who take care of her body can reach them, and when you talk about height, hair and eye color, and pale skin, you mentioned that it was just a preference, it’s also normal because you can’t control these things, unlike your body. But the way you described her face to be is kind of creepy, but it’s your choice.
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But when you said average girls don’t deserve a guy like you you’re definitely wrong, cause I have seen better looking guys than you who care more about the personality
I guess it's ok. If you can find anyone that meets those standards it's perfectely fine. It's a bit shallow I'd say, because you're not ugly by any means, but can't say I find you that attractive, but that's just me. I like your eyebrows though, and you do you.
Standards are normal everybody has them so it doesn't actually matter. But girls you think are ugly or below your standards probably don't see they are not that pretty. I mean who would look in the mirror and think they are ugly.
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Anonymous
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There is nothing wrong with having standards or a preference but look life is full of wonders. Iv had standards and dated guys that I liked and prefered but one day I found a guy who wasn't my standard or my preference but we mentally clicked and I liked for who he was. And he was really good for me.
What I'm saying here is that you should try being open minded.
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Anonymous
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Just no... Your busted as fuck and your retort to someone telling you so is that girls on tinder like you, the wife up one of them tinder is a smash sight, those girls probably couldn’t get past your stellar personality to even set a date.
Never said it isn’t fucked up for women to have ridiculously high standards either. When someone is willing to demand such physical perfection before even learning what one offers intellectually they further the body shaming we have today forcing many young girls to anorexia nervosa and bulimia.
My standards have nothing to do with anorexia, girls who are too skinny are a dealbreaker for me. I had lots of complexes when I was a skinny guy because girls shame skinny guys and they don't care that the guys are hurt. So why should I care when some ugly girls get hurt by my standards? If they don't meet them they should either improve their looks or find a guy who is not that good-looking. What's the problem?
You shouldn't have insulted me. Just because you are not that hot it doesn't mean you have the right to insult me. You are entitled to your opinion but I am entitled to not agreeing with it. There is nothing misogynistic about standards.
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