Polls: Dating

I think she said it beautifully.

It’s that anyone MUST initiate. But rather, to wait just for the sake of waiting. For permission. To live. Is detrimental.

“Q : How do I ask a guy out on a date?

A : Did you know, that when it comes to psychology, when you say to someone you’re attracted to them, this increases their curiosity to you and even gets them thinking you’re attractive. It can, if the person sees you attractive already at an unconscious level, get him to start thinking of dating you.

Did you also know, that most men, the confident ones, whether it’s a bad boy or someone who is just confident guy, will be very impressed by you asking him out.

Did you also know, that you can tell if the persons values, the world is positive or stinks, shallow, by asking them out on a date. If that person who is a friend or someone you just met starts acting weird, ignores you, this tells you a lot about how deep down, they are not really good person. They judge people a lot, they are shallow.

A person who takes it as a compliment, even if they say they are not interested will be nice to you, and when you see them again, they’ll be looking forward to saying hello to you. That shows they have goodness inside them and they feel a lot of empathy.

Did you also know…the experienenced, confident guys or guys who have never dated, like open communication. They don’t like the games, the hints. Many guys are like that anyways.

When you say it, it is a relief for them because they know you’re not into the mind games, you’re not insecure and you are sincere.

Did you also know, you’re not the only one attracted to the guy.

There are women who are and so, if you don’t make the move then you make it possible and increase the chance to 95% that the other, whoever she is, who asks him out, gets the guy.

Did you also know, whenever you don’t take action on something or someone you want, your growth is slowed down. You’re not learning, growing in confidence. “

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#1. How do you ask a guy what he wants from you?

Just ask the question. That’s really the best way to find out anything. You could play mental gymnastics or just be authentic and ask the question straight out. It may catch him off guard but the only way to find out where a relationship is going is to ask what they are looking for.
If they are not looking for the same thing you are, then why waste your time pursuing a relationship with them?
Be friends, but move onto someone who is looking for the same thing.

#2. What is the best answer to say to a girl when she asks what you want?

Dodge the answer everytime it comes up. The moment you laid down your feelings and wants, she is bound to screw you up.

Girls are 'seduced' by an element of mystery.

Let them keep guessing , wondering and one day out of intense curiosity they will eventually give up their ego and open up their vulnerable side to you.

#2 B)

Hello friend. A girl asking “what do you want from me?” is unsure of where you stand (she can’t “read” you ) and this is the way you should be in a relationship or when you are interacting with a “potential girlfriend” . Great job.

keep doing what you are doing , keep her unsure of your feelings towards her and this will attract her even more.

To answer her question just say something like “ nothing serious for now “ or “ i am not looking to get into anything serious “

You will be perceived as “higher status” and more relaxed.

the ones who push for a relationship are never the ones who actually get the girl ( more specifically the girl’s attraction ).

So keep up on being the cool guy that you are and keep on doing what you are doing. Answer her questions without pushing for anything , especially if you like her too. Her asking you this question is a big indicator of attraction.

ALSO be sure to check my profile out for some tips and a couple of courses that I have given my insights to, so anybody can get the woman they want and keep her.

30F either DA or FA, want to say I’m some kind of avoidant. Based on life experiences, are these pretty tell tale signs I’m probably…well not attractive? I’ve always questioned how almost every pretty woman I’ve come across is always in a relationship with an equally attractive guy. When I was chubby younger, I thought losing weight would solve everything and it hasn’t. I feel like regardless of what anyone else says, I’ll always wholeheartedly believe attractive women have no issue finding a partner & they have life easier. I’ve been told I’m attractive by a variety of people for most of my life, even when I was chubby. I’m not thin, 5’7 women’s US 10 so midsize but I have that thicker thigh/flatter stomach build. The only time I get attention from guys I find attractive are on dating apps and that’s not telling in my opinion. I’ve been told this guy looked at me/this guy found me attractive from other people but the guy never makes it known to me. And there’s been very very few times where I would see an attractive guy making eye contact with me or at least caught my gaze but I just look away b/c I don’t see the point. I’m anxious/reserved but a lot of people with anxiety are in fulfilling relationships.

Last thing I’ll add was being bullied pretty badly as a kid, again I was chubby so I know this played a part. Worse in middle school, I didn’t have to be homeschooled but it still sucked really freaking bad. And in HS but not as extreme as middle school, HS was more mean girls if anything. As an adult at old jobs, I did have confrontation/clashing w/personalities too. And let’s not forget shit bosses. Since I’ve worked remotely for the past few years, I haven’t had drama with coworkers or mgmt. Let’s hope it stays that way, I’ve had to deal with toxic family members too but that’s a thing of the past.

I’M SO CONVINCED THESE THINGS DON’T HAPPEN TO ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE

I always said that I’d be willing to date someone with 1 child as long as that kid was young enough to accept someone coming into their parent’s life but old enough to already be potty-trained.

Last year I was on the verge of dating a guy with a kid, and they both got really attached to me like literally week 1. The child turned out to be bad af and had a habit of wetting the bed. But I still cared for her and her dad. Oddly enough, he and I even had the same birthday. But I only saw us being friends. And then the kid started telling me stuff that made me fear he was abusive like his ex said. Anyways, I had to get away from that.

Now I’m kind of interested in this one guy but I just found out that he has 3 kids, all boys, and they all look old enough to be potty trained lol. I found out about them elsewhere, but he’s yet to mention that he’s even a da. I assume its cause we’re pretty early into getting to know one another and maybe he thinks women will run once they find out. But I don't know we’re getting along pretty well and I’m just wondering if I want to go this route of possibly dating someone with kids, especially with it being 3 kids. If I do this, he’d definitely be the exception to the rule… I just hope there’s no baby mana drama
#FeelFreeToList

If you liked a girl’s personality and got along with her well, but had no physical attraction to her, would you still pursue a romantic relationship with her?

i’ve been seeing a man for about a year now. We hug, hold hands, kiss, even sleep together sometimes (literally sleep, no sex), but he will not be sexually intimate with me.

any time i question him about it, he will get annoyed and shut down. My only theory is that hr does not find me attractive. Because i’m fairly certain he’s been intimate with previous girlfriends. And before we got together, i overheard him make sexual innuendos around guys, so i know he has an interest in sex… just not sex with me.

Normally , I just delete questions when I don’t like how they turned out. In this case, the question was very clear in my head, but the way that I wrote it, I don’t think got to the essence of what I was trying to illustrate. I wanted to pretty much delete it immediately after I posted it. 🤦🏻‍♀️

However, sometimes someone will have put a lot of effort into an answer soooo I’m checking with you guys first 🙂

I can’t copy the link for some reason 🧐 but this post:

”Morality & s t d aside, what do you think is the essential difference between desiring a HUG and desiring SEX?”

... no, I'm not kidding!