Were you popular in high school/college?

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nightdrot · Accepted Answer

Yup. Don't ask me how, but in both high school and to a slightly lesser extent in college, I had a large circle of friends and seemed to be genuinely liked.

Not entirely sure why. I certainly was not trying, but I seemed to get along with everyone, even those with whom I would have thought I had little in common.

Example: In my day in high school, there were the "burnouts." Those were the folks who smoked - and probably not just cigarettes. I was not a "burnout."

Yet, I would walk through the school or head out to the smoking section - our high school had one, (this was the late 70s and early 80s,) - and we'd joke and get along. I remember one time one of the "burnouts" actually came to me to ask me some advice on some issue or other.

Go figure.

Anyhow, it has lasted to the present day. I am still in frequent contact with former high school teachers and friends. Ditto college. In fact, of all my 5 godchildren, all but one are the children of friends and are not actual family.

Not sure why. I try not to think about it since I tend to be opinionated and outspoken - just ask my long suffering girlfriend. (When I get on my high horse, she just rolls her eyes, smiles at me and kisses me on the cheek.) My only redeeming virtue is that I also try to be polite.

Still and all, not sure how I managed it and certainly did not think about it at the time. However, looking back, I guess I would qualify as popular.

SlimeC0RE · Accepted Answer

I was not really popular, as I was always hanging out with my little gang of outcasts.

I was, however, pretty well-respected, thanks to my prowesses in class. When I made some efforts, I was quite good at team sports, and I seemed to be the only one who understood in history class, all the while being more efficient at maths and sciences, being called by the teachers to explain the problems, or raising my hand to propose a simpler way to solve it than what the students at the board had done. I also had a good attitude, not insulting anyone and being respectful of others.

SammyGurl · Accepted Answer

High School, I was popular, I was a cheerleader freshman and sophomore years, also on swim and fast pitch softball teams. Got involved with just about everything that high school had to offer; which Introduced me to lots of people whom I made friends with.

One day I would sit at lunch with my cheerleader friends and another I might be with some nerdy (smart) gals in the same classes I did. I guess you could call me a social butterfly, I like to talk to people and get to know them, something that I don't really see in the "social elite" crowd, they seemed so shallow to me. My Mom is, a, well liked and respected English/Litrature teacher, so when people made the connection I got a little boost because of it. My older brother also helped, he's a good looking popular jock with brains to go with those looks, girls fall all over themselves when they're around him! LoL!!

College/University, about the only thing I really got involved in were study groups in my Engineering program. I could have had a scholarship playing softball but chose not to because of other comittments, I applied and was accepted for a full scholarship for women in STEM fields. Which meant that I turned into a recluse girl who studied more than anything else!

Kay_Swiftie1989 · Accepted Answer

I was never popular in high school. I was friends with a lot of people, but I didn't fit in/belonged with the "top of the food chain" type of popular. I'm not popular at college either. But a part of that is due to my social anxiety and I don't trust people easily anymore. But I'm currently friends with people who are in the same careers group as me, guys who I train with at martial arts and I'm friends with nearly everyone who are in the same gaming group. So if anything, live is almost better since I left high school

Marrry · Accepted Answer

I wasn't really. I had chances to be I guess becasue the famous kids liked me but some times they behaved in a bad way towards my other friends who were commoners lol. Once they even told me that if I want to be with them I must stop hanging out with my other friends. That was the breaking point. I avoided them and they started treating me in a bad way too for some time but I was always unaffected (well I wasn't but I showed them I don't give a damn ). Eventually every one grew up and stopped these pathetic games.

CandacePerry · Accepted Answer

I wasn't popular with girls but was popular with boys in highschool & college. I like more male hobbies more then I did with girls. I understood guys dirty joke more and Toliet humour.

StephenCF · Answer

I was neither popular in high school or college. In school, I had no friends from class (only friends a year older/younger that I grew up with) and I always spent lunch break alone eating or catching up on homework. I was an easy target for bullies too for my sensitive vibe, often being called homophobic names (though I wasn’t gay... shows how clever they were) and shoved against walls or lockers.

College wasn’t any better, only different. I developed a new persona to try and start fresh and become popular this time. Slowly things were going well socially, but my biggest problem was the fact that I shared classes with girls now... and that’s when I discovered the serious envy within me. I became disliked not for the same reason as school, but rather the affect it had on me. I was more temperamental towards guys who were more popular with girls, and pejorative to the girls in general when they talked about guys they fancied which didn’t include me. I became the hate figure and inevitably dropped out for my own sanity.

I work full-time now and have matured a bit more, as I’m more socially involved with girls (not at the level I’d like to be yet, but it’s a stepping stone) and am less envious about them hooking up with other colleagues since I’m friends with many and therefore support it, not like how it was in college where I felt ostracized and came to hate everybody who didn’t praise me more than other classmates

humptydumpty01 · Answer

I guess I was in high school
And now in college too, but this time just in my class
I got about 90% votes for being the class representative, so I am pretty popular
I really don't know how I got so much recognition
I'm so bad at dealing with people
I'm seriously surprised

MrOracle · Answer

I was not popular, but everyone knew me (literally the entire 2600 students each year I was there) because I was involved in a lot of things.

Popular to me means the football team and the cheerleaders - and a few others - and I wasn't one of those, but I DJed most of the school dances and did the sound for nearly every school function and I was in the school bands.

Most of the parties I went to were band parties, as we spent a lot of time together (we also traveled together to lots of events), so I was definitely in the second tier behind the jocks.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't say I was popular. I was maybe a bit more well known then some of my friends because I came out as gay and trans in highschool. So it wasn't popularity because I wasn't cool, it was more like people talked about me because I was an oddity to them. No one was ever mean though, just curious

Mark_C · Answer

Fairly popular. My high school was kind of small but a lot of underclassmen knew me more than I knew them so I'd say that's a sign. lol. And hanging out in the halls was welcoming and generally a good feeling. I always kind of felt like I wanted to be more popular though.

15Nightingale51 · Answer

When I think of popular, I think of someone who is a trendsetter. I am definitely not that. I don't have the trendy shoes, or shirts styles. Not very popular in that regard. However, I try to be nice, so I might be viewed as popular in the area of likability.

BoSvenson · Answer

My brother threw a party at his lake place. He told me that a hot cheerleader from back in the day, was asking about me. Do I care? No. Do I want to see her? No. Do I care about her? No. If she was on fire, would I piss on her face? Probably.

Hans222 · Answer

No, I was your typical low profile person... concentrating on my studies and having a little fun in "the club" at university but I was fairly passive in the crowd.

Mr_Mystery · Answer

Yes. I was the most popular child in highschool. In primary school i was a geek/nerd so all girls were humillating me and not liking me because of my lack of social power. In high school on the other hands girls sucked my dick on breaks even though i treat them as shit. So i have expirienced both worlds and i can tell you humans are disquasting creatures.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd like to call it popular among the unpopular. It sounds sad but is quite nice actually. You don't have to feel like everyone's eyes are on you. But you still have people that look up to you

brendon76 · Answer

I was neither popular or unpopular. I kind of rode in between. I had friends who were very popular and friends who were hugely unpopular. I often excelled in school so that the girls who didn’t do well would ask for me to help and tutor them. I was shy but it was my way getting to talk and know the popular girls.

Rica_ChicaUSA · Answer

I was very popular in high school, since everyone knew my parents and how successful they are. There were things people liked about me separately (like my car), but I think my parents were the main reason. College has been another story, considering that it's a high-class college and pretty much everybody is the same way I was in high school. Nobody really competes for popularity here because everyone on the outside knows where we go to college and automatically considers us popular.

Salmon4056 · Answer

Popular? No, but many people talked about me a lot especially when I wore a cute outfit or something. I'd say some of the popular boys talked about me and one of them, who was prom king, had a big crush on me and kept sexually flirting with me and had tried getting my attention.

Paris13 · Answer

Pretty and Popular, I Mixed and Matched with Everyone under the Sun, hun. xx

Dtegesd123 · Answer

I guess I was popular. I had over 30 friends. But I only hung out with a group of 6.

fonduegirl · Answer

I was known around by the name of Popular Nerd of High School. The teachers are sick of my intelligence and the students have love hate relationship w me.

I love my middle school years more for that cause. I use to be a loner then.

Spotlight is certainly not my thing.

the-mad-german · Answer

ehh not really =) i was the kind of guy who allways was best in class and trolls everyone. Most of my classmates dont liked me very much...

ZeussLightningBolt · Answer

Hey. Long time no talk.  High school, YES. Pretty popular. In community college no Then in university I was popular again.  Yourself?

MsPinkUnicorn · Answer

Currently I'm the quite girl who sits in the back😂

PsychNerd02 · Answer

I was never popular in popular in high school but for some reason I was in college

princessfromjupiter · Answer

In my last year of high school I sort of was.  In university that attention on cool kids really dies down A LOT, I think this is where we’re all popular within our own social circle

Wharvey98 · Answer

Highschool definitely no. College, I wouldn’t say I’m unpopular, but I’m definitely not super popular either. Man, highschool sucked ass.

cth96190 · Answer

Popular? Hell no! I was the friendless nerd who spent time in the library. There was too much effort involved in dealing with the knuckle-dragging retards at the school.

Iwant2kno · Answer

Yes, I was the popular nerdy girl 😂😂😂 and there was no way to hide with my uncommon name! Also because most people knew where to find me (library/computer lab) and my friends always need “help” with assignments, so who had the answers?🤣🤣 yup me!

asianfreak · Answer

No. But I made a reasonable amount of friends in high school. I did not go to college, however.

NovissimumVirorum · Answer

People thought I was gonna be the school shooter...

lacaras · Answer

I was not popular in high school at all, total shift in college, I was one of the most popular people at my college, after being a social outcast for most of high school it was weird having people recognize/know who I am and I had no idea who they were

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Well yeah I was popular. Almost everyone in my highschool knew me but not everyone of them in person.

Secret6620 · Answer

Definitely not. But became popular in college after I grew up. My appearance changed a lot. From new teeth, weight loss, and clear skin. Full 360. And apparently that's all popularity is about. How you freaking look. So annoying.

Muhammad1999 · Answer

Kinda, a lot of people knew me because i won the arm wrestling tournament.

OhSnapItsHer · Answer

Nah I wasn't, I'm one of the norms, I don't like being the center of attention.

METALHEADi · Answer

Hell Yeah.. i was shortest one in school , high school , the entire university , all my friends xD

coolbreeze · Answer

I was very popular in both college and high school.

LeeKenz · Answer

Oh hell no. But I did have a lot of friends in different groups, but not enough to claim I was "popular"

Jjpayne · Answer

Nope, OutKast :) but I was fine with that, maybe I should have joined a school club though

Rangers · Answer

No, I was an outcast, and I'm more of an outcast now than ever before.

Soporific-san · Answer

I was not popular. I knew most of everyone and I was just the person who had no problems with anyone or got into fights. I lived a drama free in high school.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Not so much in high school, but I became popular in college. I remember two girls arguing about which one knew me the longest. It dawned on me that I was becoming popular... LOL

Love4Roses · Answer

Yes I was popular in high school. i didn't like the attention though. i used to ignore people to spend time with my guy friend.

Furuok · Answer

The kid who cusses and sleeps in certain classes. Always at the parties, think I'm the one who started the word "Lame!"  Popular? Ugh.  Made fun of? A lot!

Anonymous · Answer

I used to be the kid that dressed in black an would wear trench coats to school there was a point when I was called on Cause everyone thought I was gone blow the building up

Later around my sophomore year I was was the one to sell herbs and powders to my clients wich the entire school soon knew I was the one doing business so instead of looking like a school shooter I was seen as a business person

cheer4life_xo · Answer

I was considered in high school but mainly because of cheer we always got invited to everything and parties. In college I wasn’t and I’m happy about that I felt like I was able to be and find myself.

tartaarsaus · Answer

Nope, never been popular. I didn't have issues with anyone though.

ccal28 · Answer

I was fairly popular and smart in class. Considering my high school had like 250 people in my class lol.

Dav1ss · Answer

I was homeschooled but I was pretty popular around high school time I went to prom and played football so I was  I'm in college now and I'm invisible

hellacray · Answer

In middle school I was kinda popular.  In high school I was kinda just there. I wasn't as wreckless in high school cause I knew my grades actually meant something if I wanted to go to college.

brittslitt · Answer

I was all over the place. I was an athlete, a band geek, and a punk

Scarecrow13 · Answer

Sort of, it's difficult to explain. Everyone knew me, I was well liked, but didn't really have many real friends, no one would invite me over to their house etc.

scooogy · Answer

I think that "popular" thing is some illusion from US media

Alice2398 · Answer

For all the wrong reasons... Yes

Kas19 · Answer

Meh. I know a lot of people and I'm on good terms with most. I wouldn't call myself popular though.

lark7 · Answer

Somewhat popular, but i didn't care about popularity, i cared about my personal interests (that i rarely shared with others) way more

intjgamer · Answer

In high school yes. My relationships were pure gossip.

ffld_01 · Answer

I wouldn't say I was popular but everyone knew who I was, mostly because it was a small school.

imredheaded · Answer

What is your definition of popular? I had a lot of friends but I never really classified myself as popular.

laurececarl15 · Answer

I'm well know in college but i was a mong in school

BookNerd20 · Answer

Nope. I don’t think people even knew I existed.

Exterminatore · Answer

Yeah. But I never wanted to be or tried to be popular.

Anonymous · Answer

I was well known, but not because of the usual reasons but for being a high achiever.

Lance1965 · Answer

Not at all but it was mostly my fault. I was a loner by choice.

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