Are You A "Talker" On The Job?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I may talk a lot sometimes, but on the job, I don't really talk much unless it's work related (on the job, I'm all about the job)... But man the one chick just won't shut up, and bad enough she talk way too much, but then she's not actually DOING any work while she running her mouth while others busting their ass.. Had to restrain myself from taking a tape gun to her mouth🤣

[TsundereMatrix]

I personally don't talk much even in my personal life but I had a coworker in retail I had that did and he mostly brought up really racist stuff with customers. Customers complained about him a lot, yet the boss still kept him.

Basically to this guy, your nationality described you. For example, my ancestors come from Germany. So when he found out I'm German he thought I loved Nazi's and hated Jews and constantly talked about it like I enjoyed it. I would tell him what I like and what interests me and he would tell me Germans don't like that stuff.

He did the same with customers, labeling them by the origin of their first or last name. He just said way too much. He got a lecture from the manager many times for telling people everything bad about our products and not actually trying to sell anything or mentioning the good aspects of the products he was selling.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yikes.. Yeah that's not good

[Cynicaldreamer]

No. I'm that person that comes in, does her job, and goes home. My mom used to tell me, "You work to pay the bills, not make friends." So yes, I'll speak... if spoken to. Otherwise, I mostly keep to myself at work. I've noticed the "talkers" at work mostly have or cause drama, stir up mess, or are the types other people avoid being around.

... yeah I don't want to be in that category, lol.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Right! Same here. If it ain't about the job, save it for break or after work...

[Floppy2112]

Used to be. Then #metoo and cancel culture hit. I keep my mouth shut, now. I don't trust anybody. All I talk about at work is work. Besides, co-workers are people you have to deal with, not people you want to deal with. Conversation can make work more pleasant, but it's not worth the risk of getting canned because people get offended. And work doesn't pay me to chit-chat, they pay me to work. It took the rise of the nanny state and postmodernism to shut me up, but it work.
I let others talk. I'll even ask questions if they bring it up, but I am a mystery otherwise to my co-workers. They don't know anything about me and I don't care to enlighten them.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Me too hasn't affected the flirting that goes on here at all🤷

[Floppy2112]

Yeah, because its online, anonymous and you can pretend. Would you prefer people didn't flirt with you?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I meant here at my job, not on GAG.. And funny, guy at work tried to get my number, I didn't me too or report.. Just simply told him I don't date Co workers and I don't shit where I eat... But he says? "I don't give up easy"... See you guys on here paint women as the problem, but it's not ALWAYS women...

[Floppy2112]

What problem are you referring to? And it’s sad that you not reporting a guy to HR just for asking you out , is to be lauded. Not that long ago, it was perfectly normal for co-workers to get together. Lots of marriages came from the work place.
You sure have a lot of rules for your dating life. Is there something wrong with the guy?
Why not give the guy a chance?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I don't date coworkers.. you do you.. me I'm there to do a job. Not flirt on the job... It's called work ethics

[Floppy2112]

Would you consider dating him, if he were in an approved setting?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

How do I know? I don't even know the guy.. He don't even work on same side of building as me... He just makes a point to try to come find me... But on the clock, I'm working not chatting trying to get to know someone... I don't date coworkers... Not my thing🤷

[Floppy2112]

-part 1-
How do you know? Do you find the guy attractive or not? It's a simple question.

I am going to say some stuff that you will probably piss you off, but I am going to say it anyway. Maybe you will think about things. It's just information, you can do with it what you will.
It seems to me, that you are operating out of fear and you are moving like your 25 not 48. Like it or not, your opportunities are dwindling. You are in 'no man's land' heading straight on into 'spinster-ville'. I think you make these arbitrary rules, because you are afraid to get into a relationship. So you make it so impossibly hard, that it likely won't happen. Which means you are looking toward a future of being alone the rest of your life. Whatever beauty you have to capitalize on, is going to go away soon. And what your left with is just being an elder statesman on GaG. If that is what you want, fine live it and enjoy it. But if you don't want to live alone the rest of your life, your probably going to have to take some chances; get out of your comfort-zone.
Insulating yourself, like you do, will protect you from bad relationships. It will likely protect you from all possible relationships. You can't move like your 25 because you are not. Again, if you want to live alone the rest of your life, more power to you. But given that you are on here, garnering as much attention as you can muster, I don't think that's the case.

[Floppy2112]

-part 2-
The rules you make for yourself are arbitrary, your just making them up, you don't have to have them, they are not written anywhere. It's your wall, your protection, your teddy bear. But everyday, your options are dwindling and going to continue to dwindle. It doesn't seem to me like you are thinking about the future, hence moving like your 25 and have all the options and time in the world when you don't. Again, if you want to be alone for the rest of your life, by all means, I won't get in the way, that's for sure. That's where you seem to be heading and it's by choice.
Back to your work rule... You can make whatever rule you want to protect you from possibly having a bad interaction. But that rule is a man's rule, hence a masculine trait... You're moving like a man.


Men can't/ shouldn't date people from work because its a life ruining proposition if it falls on the ears of the wrong woman. Simply, a man can lose everything, simply for asking a woman out, it's not worth it. But if it happens to a woman, it's not the same thing. Nothing will happen to you. This isn't a rule for women unless you choose to make it one.
This is just some food for thought, you can do with it what you will, or simply repeat your mantra 'I don't date at work'. Fine, your probably not supposed to be on GaG at work either and you are. Now, if you aren't attracted to somebody, fine. And if you want to draw arbitrary lines in the sand to protect yourself from a potential bad, that may not be bad, well spinster-ville is right around the corner and you won't have to worry about any man, ever again.
Just food for thought, I sure it will piss you off if you read it all the way through, but I got nothing to lose and I think people need to hear the truth and make the best decisions possible based on truth, not arbitrary lines.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

So only men can have work ethics? I don't have time to answer this fully.. So short version=😂😂😂

[Floppy2112]

No, it's a masculine trait to hold that view. It's totally up to you, I am just giving my thoughts on it. You can engage them or not.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Omg that's such bull.. So it's a masculine trait to be more concerned about making sure I have a way to pay my mortgage than to flirt with some dude on the job? Or to be a good employee? Omg get out of here with that😂😂 I'm masculine cuz I'm responsible and have work ethics? Dude whatever you smoking or drinking, share cuz I need some of that good good LOL...

[Floppy2112]

Nice try on the deflection. Yes, you are moving like a man, in that sense. And no one said you were flirting. The guy asked you, did he not? Is answering his question 'flirting'?
So, what you are saying that if the man of your dreams, handsome, intelligent, sparks flying, engaging, someone you could spend the rest of your life with, someone you find yourself super attracted to, regardless of any attempt to suppress that feeling. That if the only issue was he was only available at work, and he made all the effort and asked you out, that you would decline him simply because of work? Bull. Shit.
Must be a hell of a job. Are you making life saving medicine for children suffering from cancer? Are you cracking the human genome to find out the difference between life and death? Important stuff.
And if your job means more to you than anything else to you, then get a cat or a dog and live alone for the rest of your life.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You really have issues... See my job pays my bills and keeps a roof over my head and yes that's important to me... It's called being a responsible adult🤷 But I'm done responding.. You just want to argue and insult and I'm not on here for that.. Nor do I care to deal with people with bullshit double standards.. I don't deal with ignorance

[Lliam]

I can be kind of a talker. I've had jobs where chatting didn't distract from our mindless work. Some people are fun to talk to and it can take your mind off of what you're doing to make the time pass more quickly. But I don't just yak for the sake of hearing myself talk. And people who do are often annoying.
But I'm also one who likes to focus when I need to get something done. I can also be ok with thinking instead of jabbering. I'm okay with being alone.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[ArztSchlachthof]

When I work, I tend to not react to others or just somehow survive the onslaught and visibly give them a clue that I don't want to be disturbed, since it might be destructive. However, if they need help, that's a whole different story and I would provide all that I can.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Agree.. I always help others on the job...

[billyates55]

I spent many years in the Air Force performing an intense and crucial job that required my utmost attention most of the time. I found that too much talking gave me too much distraction and I could become susceptible to mistakes, or just taking too long on a task. I won’t get into the old time honoured debate about men or women cannot do two tasks at the one time. That is not applicable to this. For practical reasons, it is better for all people to concentrate on their work and talk at a minimal level, I feel. There are some jobs out there, however, that allows for all the talk in the world ie: Politicians. They are full of talk. Hairdressers tend to be able to talk and cut at the same time. 🙏🏻

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Agree with this💯

[ohshee]

Only when I get to work,, I might say Good Morning, and when I'm leaving work I say Have A nice night , and sometimes fuck you lmao,, see you tomorrow ,😊 I do more talking on here than I do in real life, so sad,, not unless I have to be really serious about something. And then whoever is going to hear me. And whatever I have to say it's going to be pretty deep

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Fuck you lmao 😅😆🤣 no I hear yah

[ohshee]

Lmao see you just made my day now I can smile all day yeah I hate the person that wants to talk to me all day long about nothing it drives me crazy because I end up doing my work their work

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Right🙄

[PaynefulPleasures]

I think they might lock me considering there's no one to talk to, but I do have my momentshttps://images.app.goo.gl/nGg37Tiw67fxMYos9
https://images.app.goo.gl/Sapu2tve9hwxg3RQ6

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lolol

[ariadneR]

I talk if I have to, but other than that keep my mouth shut.
I have one manager.. the stupid shit he asks me drives me insane, and then he'll ask me the same thing reworded multiple times. He won't even leave a good amount of time between the questions. It'll be like 5 mins that I'm repeating the same thing to this man. Everyday he's like this. And he only does this to me... fml

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That meme tho🤣

[FatherJack]

Nope , say very words , I dislike inane " small talk " , but do like a " banter break " with an exchange of insults and Your Mum jokes , away from oversensitive wussies. I just get on with it , praise be for Spotify , phone & in ear bass buds !!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah, breaks are different although I usually spend mine in my vehicle

[TonyMetal___86]

A housewife should only talk about muffins when she's making muffins 😁

Do you know why miss brain's vintage radio is off while she's on?
It's because the radio doesn't have enough channels as spongy forehead and cannot sustain a 24/7 talking nonstop like her without running out of battery 🤣🤣

📻 👀

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣

[james_d0007]

Lol I hate it when anyone talks while I am working
When I am working I want to be fully focused on my work, bcoz I dont want to get an error or do something that will screw up my performance or reputation.
Hence prefer to ignore my office colleagues at times just that they get a hint its time to stfu and concentrate on our work :P

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Right lol if someone talking too much, I sometimes just say oh yeah as walking away lol

[james_d0007]

🤣🤣🤣

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😊😊🤣

[Kaamraj]

For many years of my life I worked with high voltage wirings and machines. Most of the repairs would be done with the power or movement off. But some would be done with them on so that we could finally check our work. So there was a work culture of absolute silence and concentration, as one mistake can main, disfigure, disable but most likely kill you instantly. We had an attitude of work hard and party hard. As soon as our shift was over, we signed off, we enjoyed.

[Paolaa988]

No i dont really talk much. I also dont know a lot of the people well and im not really that social so I mean i only really talk to the customers a lot since i want our store to look good and they get that service.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Considering thats all i do at my job (restaurant server/bartender) is talk to people, there's nothing like getting off shift, going to a bar & enjoying my beer in self imposed silence.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I hear that

[Nikola321]

Well I talk sometimes, w certain people I'm in good relations with :D
But ofc, I don't talk too much, nor do I stop doing work

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

See yeah, there's nothing wrong with that..

[MTC29]

Early in my career I did a lot of talking; primarily because junior engineers (I always hated that job title) shared workspace. As the years- and promotions, rolled by I eventually got my own office and I actually felt isolated.

[Dinklex3]

Depends on who I'm working with.
I'm quiet, but once I get comfortable ith you I can be annoying.

[IAMNathanael]

Heh not really. I can hardly talk and work at the same time or I'll lose track of what I'm doing. Then again I don't talk much to begin with, or at least I usually don't start any conversation.

[cth96190]

No.
I prefer to not talk, other than what is necessary to get the work done.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

👍👍😊

[Massageman]

If I am focused on something hard, quiet.
If I am doing something easy and repetitive (folding laundry, etc) I can talk too.

[Massageman]

On a REALLY good day, I could even chew gum too!

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Lolol

[Wiredone]

I am a talker but 99% of the time it is work related. I do b. s. with the other people on the job but I do it while I'm working.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well yeah, if you can talk and work, nothing wrong with that.. This chick, she'll actually sit down and let work fly right past her, like she at home visiting instead of on the job

[Wiredone]

I wouldn't put up with that crap. I'd fire her

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

So would I if I was the manager... There'd be a few that would be gone lol

[Wiredone]

👍💯👌

[Max100AD]

I do not talk much on the job. I am very quiet on the job. Some people call me a 8 ball. I has make a lot of mistake cooking. Some was to much lettuce or to many onions. When a beautiful person said hi that is the only time everything come out perfect. Do not ask me why. My manager can ‘t Understand why I been there 6 years.

[JosyJosy]

I am the 'Talk when Talked To unless there's a problem' one

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Yeah I'm that way too