Everyone at work I get on really well with and have positive working relationships with colleagues. Except my manager. She always points out all my mistakes and flaws and never says a nice thing about my work. When she was training me on the job, she kept pointing out that I was incompetent and couldn’t work my job. I was quite nervous in my training and maybe made a lot of mistakes. However went on live at one point to work with people after my training I felt anxious on a call and made a mistake and she face palmed me to suggest I was failing.
Now I’m on the real job, and she keeps saying things which make me doubt my performance. The other day I dealt with a safeguarding query and tried to do the best job I could. Instead she just said to me “I don’t want anymore disasters from you today” and then she proceeded to “joke” about me being stupid and making mistakes, which made me feel uncomfortable and bad about myself
The other day she called me dummy out of nowhere over the phone when I asked her a question, which took me by surprise, and then on a separate occasion she said to me “you aren’t as dumb as you seem”
why does she call me stupid all the time?
People that are insecure in the first place or that have a certain anxiety about a new employee because this new employee could possibly cause them to be seen as inferior or pausing a threat to their own job will compensate this insecurity by putting this employee down in front of other co-workers.
This manager has achieved her position not because she was exceptionally qualified but because she had either good connections or because of seniority in the company.
She simply sees you as a threat to her own job and needs to pick on details because she has no other grip on you. She is emotionally unstable and fears that her position may be in jeopardy in the future.