Acceptance always comes first.
- Accept that you know little and will need to learn a lot from others, so don't be afraid to ask for help, put your pride aside.
- Accept that in order to learn the harder but more important lessons you will fail in many ways and many things. So try to keep the perspective in everyday-life that in order to get what you want (no matter what it is) you must risk looking like a fool.
Risk is inevitable, accept it and get on with it.
- Accept that habits are going to be formed whether or not you like it. So decide for yourself what they are going to be because it's way harder to unlearn them.
- Accept that the way you meet and treat other people and how you think about them will reflect back to you, so keep good intentions in mind.
- Accept that the people around you are examples of how your actions and inactions bring you to different places and that you could occupy any of them in a not-so-near future. So humble yourself and know that things will not simply solve themselves, but don't overthink it, you still need to act.
So..
There are two roads in front of you..
1. You know what you want:
Reality is..
We may think we know what we want, but we haven't achieved it yet so we don't really know what it entails, we just like the idea.
But it is well worth finding out by doing it!
So plan ahead and set up some goals.
But keep in mind that goals exist for you to get closer to where you think you're supposed to be aiming for. Don't be afraid to change those goals, but also don't use it as an excuse to not put in hard work. The only way to know if it's worth it is to go through it, and then decide where to next. Finish what you start.
2. You don't know what you want:
The only bad decision is to make no decisions. So think less about what interest to commit to and get on with trying something out, find out if it's for you by doing it. You'll sooner find your way while exploring than sitting around wondering.
It's not wrong to have many different broader experiences than narrow in-depth ones.
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1. Your decisions now can affect your whole life. Take the time to consider the consequences of your actions before making any important decisions.
Example: Casual sex can prevent you from ever being desirable to a good mate for an exclusive LTR. Make sure to pick a guy that you hold to the same standard as yourself.
Example: Taking out student loans may hinder you financially for many years afterwards. Schools are run like a business. They will tell you anything they need to in order to get your money.
Example: Partying (drugs and alcohol) can irreparably damage your eggs/future children. That is one of the main causes of learning disabilities in children. It can also lead to an early death, or becoming easily confused in life. Even after someone quits using drugs, the damage is permanent.
2. Most "friends" are not friends, they are acquaintances. If you need someone to help you fix something, or help you move to another place, most of your "friends" will somehow always be unavailable, but the real ones will help you.
3. Get an associate's degree in general education. You can get it for free with PELL grants. If you ever decide you want a career degree for something, you would already be half way there. It only takes 2 years, so if someone does it right out of high school, they would only be 20 after getting it.
4. Keep at least 3 weeks worth of food, water, etc. at home, and medicine for pain and sickness. That way if you get sick, you have the supplies you need.
5. Budget your money. Figure out your monthly expenses, and each month when you get paid, whether your bills have come in the mail yet or not, set aside the amount for your monthly expenses before spending or saving the rest.
Party hard! ✔️
Do not get pregnant! ✔️
Get that degree! ✔️
Enjoy your life while you’re young! ✔️
Build your credit! ✔️
Get a job if and when you can! ✔️
Save money! ✔️
Don’t let a relationship ruin your life! ✔️18 is the gateway to endless possibilities. Your life is just beginning 💕 Make the best out of it. 💕
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You don't have as much time as you think you do. Every year goes by faster than the one before. The time between 10 and 20 is astronomically longer than your 20's- your 30's will come, and all this time you thought you had to do this, or do that, isn't going to be there anymore.
You'll sincerely regret nearly everything you do after saying YOLO. Much of it will actually impact the rest of your life, and may actually ruin your life.
Control your sexuality, there is no such thing as no strings attached. Guard your heart, because it can only get broken so many times before you have nothing left to give.
Don't cheat- bad things become a habit so much easier, and "the one" will leave you if you do this to her/ him. There's no such thing as unconditional love- a mother's love comes closest.
Save your money, even a little, and put it into some form of investment that you can't touch for at least 5-10 years (buy a cheap house if you can).
Tell your parents/ grand parents you love them, and listen to them instead of watching TV, playing on your phone. They'll be dead before you know it, and you'll never get the chance.
When you don’t know what direction to go in life, when you don’t know what to do in life, when you don’t know what to do in any given situation…
Strive to become the best version of yourself.
Do what the best version of yourself would do and act as they would act.
See in your mind’s eye your true potential and step into who you were always meant to be.
Let that be your North Star that guides your way when nothing else makes sense.
Chaos and disorder will come your way in life.
Your center, your anchor, your North Star will help you endure all things and rise above the coming storms.Don't ride the cock riding Carousel. Find a good Christian husband possibly an older man.
1) Don't marry until 30
2) Place an extremely high priority on education
3) Serve your country
4) Culture the habit of saving money
5) Only use a credit card in case of extreme emergency - and pay it off within 60 days.
6) Do not purchase what you cannot immediately pay for (education is an exception)
7) Avoid any woman whose biological clock is a higher priority than common sense.
8) Don't waste your time on deadbeats or debtors.
9) If you have kids, their development, success, and well-being are your priority - above all else
10) Know how to defend yourself.
the list goes on and on...Don't believe the Media and the Government. They both lie to you
Don't trust the internet for answers. You never find the real truth that way
Learn to live without nothing. No cellphone, no Internet, no electricity, no luxuries of the modern world. One day these skills may save you're life
Live everyday like your its your last day on earth
Stay away from dope and drugs. It will shorten your life a 1000 times faster
Learn to control your emotions. Forget about the 95% of things in life that don’t pertain to you that you try to fix or correct. For me watching the way other people’s kids acted irritated me. People stealing, just walking out bothered me. The way people drive like crazy. A lot of things bothered me. I said fuck it it’ll catch up to them one day so long as it’s not hurting me. Much much happier. Also read. I hated reading, still do but I listen to audiobooks now. So still don’t like reading but I found an alternative. I don’t mean fiction either, I mean things on finances, real estate, fake money, shadow banking, why the world is the way it is as far as who made it this way. We aren’t taught finances in school for a reason.
Don't worry so much about what mountain to climb so to speak. Just start climbing. No one expects you to have it all figured out. Virtually none do at your age. And the most interesting people I know today still don't know fully what they want to do with thier life. You always feel like you're getting nowhere in life in your twenties and thirties. Then one day you wake up 40 look back and realize how far you've actually come. Life is SHORT stop worrying so much and smile and enjoy the ride. Most things in life are not as bad as they seem and most times you have very little control of anyhow.
get rid of all of your media but one Like twitter, facebook, tictoc, don't give your virginity to just anyone. You will never get it back. and be good to people.
Ah, come on now. It’s not that bad. I’m sure you’re lovely lady and too hard on yourself… You need someone to grab ahold of your leash? I love that pic 😂
Don't worry about the immaturity that others throw your way, it's never worth acknowledging.
A true mark of maturity is sacrificing short term gratification for long term benefit.
Open a fcking free Vanguard or Robinhood account. And turn on auto deposit. $10, $50 per month whatever you can afford. Make it automatic and you’ll forget about it. Then shit happens and you log back in and find a few grand to help you out.
Buy the best you can afford and start on your pension
Don't work hard, works smart and retire early.
Don't trust anyone who doesn't love you.
Don't save, instead invest, and start a business.Explore, take some risks, learn from mistakes, know what you want, focus.
Life is not fair, just do what you have to do.💃
baby Alligators and crocodiles may be a good idea for a pet.. but just remember they grow up!
Brush more, run more and do not hook up M****** she is not worth it
Embrace simplicity. Its not as bad as you think. All things in moderation. Be kind. Live.
My advice is more for 18yr old introverts. Which is make sure you have at least one extroverted friend to drag you along everywhere because otherwise you'll never go out and never meet new people.
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