Do you have a colleague that you hate? and why?

[Gloree]

I have one that I don't like. He is a Know it all. One day he talked to me and I told him plainly that I don't like him.

How do you deal with yours? Because we are now paired to work on a project and I smell disaster.

[BullShark]

Well I wouldn't use "hate" here, but there is one I dislike now. And this may come off as weird because not too long ago, she was also a crush of mine as well and I was on here, asking a question how to get her back and why she's acting a certain way.

Turns out, she probably just hates me because.. well, I don't know. But when someone's talking to your best friend/colleague next to you about you, ignoring your existence in group conversations/discussions, doesn't appreciate or pay attention to anything you have to say, gives you the cold shoulder, gives you the most uninterested look, ignores you when you guys cross each other in the hallway and moves away and stands elsewhere the moment you enter the room/area, that's a clear sign of hating anyone if I've ever seen one.

And no. Before anyone chooses to come on here, telling me that maybe I should just talk to her; already been there, done that. She's made it clear she doesn't want to talk to me on countless occasions, walks away whenever she sees me, and even changes the topic and acts oblivious when a mutual friend asks her why she's behaving this way around me and if there's something I did. So yeah. Now, I just keep to myself as well and ignore her back. If and when there is a conversation needed between us, I keep it direct, one-worded and as neutral and professional as possible.

[MCheetah]

Not currently. All of my coworkers are chill. But prior to this, I used to have at least one jerk at work in every job I had. Hopefully I'm not the one everyone hates, cause there's that old saying, "If you get along with all your coworkers; you're the one they all hate." But I've asked them what they've thought of me and they honestly seem too into their own world to hate me or see me as that "one guy" at work. They'd more apathetic to me than dislike me. But I don't think they're apathetic to me either.

My 2020 job had several people i hated though. One was a brown-nosing kiss-ass who'd throw everyone under the bus and talk behind their back but act like friends to their face. And another was just a womanizing extremely-selfish piece of sh*t who was also dishonest unless he was drunk. Hell, the two "best" coworkers at my 2020 teaching job were boring. Yes, the best personality traits about them were being boring as at least you could say they weren't extreme assholes.

[MCheetah]

Thanks for the MHO.

[CateM]

Yes, 2 of them. I liked them at first but their true colors eventually started to show. Billie and Jean (fake names!). For Billie, she was a little pushy in the beginning, but at school she and her friends asked me if I had a boyfriend yet. (I'm not looking for one so I was taken aback when she said "yet") they flagged down this boy and asked if I thought he's cute, then asked him if he thought I'm cute. I was mortified. 10 minutes later, my friend found me and they asked if her hair was real. My friend is black and has straight hair, and yes, it's real. I guarantee you they wouldn't be asking ME that if my hair was straight. I wanted to slap Billie, but took a step back and confronted her the next day. I asked her not to say those things to my friend, but she denied everything. For Jean, one day I refused to put the anchovies on a pizza for her (I was never trained to do that in the first place.) She then took a picture of me at school without my knowledge or consent, and included it in a tiktok. I only found this out when another coworker sent it to me. I threatened to report Jean to the office if she didn't delete it by morning the next day. The tiktok got taken down but I'm so sick and tired of their BS

[sunflower00]

Yeah one colleague who I believe is actually like a sociopath.


He is power hungry, sneaky, just plain rude, genuinely thinks he’s better than everyone and has said some concerning things to me about his relationships and personal life that deeply concern me. I live in a small community where everyone knows everyone, and any time I have mentioned him I have not had a positive reaction at all.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah two.
One is a older woman who criticizes me all the time for the stupidest stuff, that has nothing to do with my work and runs to my employer behind my back to tell him that I'm incompetent (like once for muting my phone for an hour, what is allowed), we don't really talk anymore but she keeps looking down on me

The other is her work bestie, she also runs to my employer behind my back and told him twice how awful I am and I shouldn't get any work... why? Cause once I didn't book one thing the way she would have booked it, but it was correct and the second time I did a mistake but instead of explaining me my mistake, she stood there in the hallway loudly being so upset with me, that even other work colleagues came to me afterwards and said like how sorry they're and I shouldn't listen to it

... now they wonder why I quit haha

[ARWINGx1]

Does one's boss count?
In short, I used to work at one school, (as a kitchen assistant) where my boss there knew how to handle autistic people like me. BUT, I were then forced to transfer to another school. And my "new" boss there, who claimed that he do know how to handle autistic, did it all wrong. As if I were simply an idiot.

In other words, he kept criticizing me over everything that comes with being autistic.

If not, I can't remember much, but at another workplace, there was one that did all kinds of weird sh-- to me. For one, using one of those snap blades as a joke. I mean, he pretended to stab me in the leg with one. Of course, I reacted to it strongly, but my boss "ordered" me to let it go. (I mean, wtf?)

[Moose304]

Hate is a VERY strong word. It is also NOT the opposite of Love. When you hate someone this means you are allowing them to live rent-free in your head. I actually stopped doing business with and stopped bidding on contracts because that business contact person was/is an asshole. I just did not need their business that much. If you have such a colleague an adjustment needs to be made. I once had an employee ask me why I was so gruff with her. Her question shook me. I asked her to come into my office and explain her position to me. After we spoke both of us walked away with a better understanding of each other and became friends. If you can't "lance that boil" then you might want to explore changing jobs. Trust me on this, stress is a slow killer and it can come as a surprise how it can affect you.

[BigschlongEnergy]

If your being bothered at work Act like you have no emotions your just there to work and that’s all you don’t have to like your co workers I heard in a tv show ounce. Let’s get 1 thing clear I’m not your friend i don’t like you I Just work here and that is all.

[BigschlongEnergy]

Tv show was saying You don’t have to like your co workers you owe them nothing you are simply a Employee if they get hit by a car and die you won’t care because Your just there to do 1 thing and that is to get paid that’s what the tv show was essentially saying when it said that.

[Bethany22]

I hate colleagues that are too task-oriented and who don't think they need to ask questions about their colleagues well-being, yet who still seem to get promoted.

[BlueScorpio]

You smell disaster bit I smell a rom Cindy getting ready to happen lol jk um I really don't hate any of them, I've had a few clashes but I tend to get over it eventually or learn to stay away from the person.

[BlueScorpio]

*romcom

[Guy13]

I actually do not but we are a small group of six that can crossover tasks and function as family. I’m very fortunate

[Drumlin2001]

No. Been working in same organisation for over 20 years, worked different roles across different teams, can't say I've ever fallen out with anyone

[Chris_u006]

I do not hate anyone I do not even hate people who I consider evil.
However I can count the people I trust on one hand, my biological family is bigger than that.

[Becky316]

I have one that does the same fucking shit. I've chewed him out twice, the next time it will definitely not be pretty.

[ZenJen444]

I dont work beside any colleagues instead I work independently me and my patient. Now the patient families will drive me crazy and nurses who worked prior to me when they don't do their job

[Anonymous]

No one left for me to hate. I killed them already.

[Heolurt]

I don't hate anyone, hate is too heavy a burden to hold

[Anonymous]

Hate is a strong word. Dislike. Yeah

[dophix]

My toxic narcissist boss.

[peedy]

No if I dont like itni don't buy it