Telling my mentor about a crush on a classmate?

[JHNS98]

Apologize in advance for this lengty post - so much contect to explain - here we go:

So I started university in late September this year, for a bachelor's degree in human geography and urban planning. I also took part in the customary student orientation activities that run parallell to the first two weeks of studies - though on evenings and weekends.

This period of student orientation is colloqially referred to as nulling (Swedish: nollning). The way it works is that the freshman students are divided into small groups (teams), each of which are assigned a group of mentors from - in the case of a bachelor's program - the junior year. These mentors are supposed to oversee the freshmen within their team regarding alcohol safety, as well as dealing points for each activity as well as any additional "specialty" performed by the freshman.

My nulling experience wasn't that great because I don't drink, but mainly due to my social awkwardness, as I barely engaged in any conversation - neither with my peers within my team, nor with my mentors or any other student in general.

One Saturday evening we had a themed party in a small downtown party hall that the mentors had rented from the local housing co-op. I mostly felt awkward as usual, hiding in a couch with my face in my cell phone. This was slightly alleviated by one of my mentors coming up to me asking how things were.

I told her that I was shy and all that - but what I didn't tell her was that I had been struggling with a bit of a crush on a student - one of my teammates even so.

Should I tell my mentor about this other side of my struggles during the nulling period? I've been thinking about doing that ever since I had processed the feelings themselves.

Updates

+1 y

I told her about it today, and we had a good conversation. Kept it on the surface, avoiding any psychology rabbit holes or anything like that.

[thedaffodils]

Hi!
I read the whole paragraph but I didn't understand almost anything 😞


All l I understand is that you are an introverted person.


Kind of associal.

[JHNS98]

Sorry I didn't get my message across to you. I had it written more clearly in the itteration of the post, which I ultimately forgot to save in my drafts.

[thedaffodils]

No prob.. be confident and talk to the girl 👧

[JHNS98]

Which girl? I did already tell my crush, but I haven't told this mentor - who is also female - about said crush. My then-crush was apparently talking to someone else anyway.

[Anonymous]

We don't like lengthy posts, especially unnecessarily lengthy posts. You can ask this question in one succinct sentence.

[jacobsontom]

yep, why not?

[JHNS98]

I'm just not sure it's relevant... well - it kind of isn't - because I don't have feelings for that girl anymore. That's kind of the point I'm trying to make here.