Should I lower my goals in life?

[jennifer_bloom]

I was inspired by rich guys I see in social media accounts to try to become professionally equal to that and also equally rich but I realized - I might not be capable of that level of power and might not want to do what I need to get there even if I was capable.

Like people who can afford expensive cars are probably too busy earning money to enjoy their cars more than an hour or two a year. People who can afford to vacation in Tokyo are probably too busy earning money to go on vacation more than two weeks a year.

I never give up unless I'm forced to give up, so it seems strange that I might willingly give up a goal I had. I gave up on school cause I was forced to give up when my admission was withdrawn due to poor preparation beforehand. I gave up on my job cause I was forced to through lay offs when covid came up. I only give up when I'm forced to give up. I never give up willingly.

[ProbablyClueless]

Maybe not "lower" so much as broaden your range of acceptable outcomes.
If your dream is that 8-figure salary, with the gorgeous spouse, the fast car, and the regular luxurious vacations; that's an extremely small subset of people who can obtain that lifestyle and many times, those people's actions had very little to do with them getting to that point.

There's nothing wrong with wanting that stuff, but you need to be content with the possibility that you probably aren't one of those people.

It's not realistic for most people to hope for those things out of life.

So maybe you just shoot for a less detailed picture of what success looks like for your own life.

[Christoff92]

Depending what goals you're talking about and which goals of yours need a little break 😊

[richardcory]

Money causes people to use more time for things like work, but it also frees up time because they can spend money to save time. Wealth allows people to buy new cars that break less often. Buy food that is quick to prepare or eat out. Hire maid services, higher plumbers, auto mechanics etc.

Overall I think wealth allows more free time, not less, but there is a tradeoff