Do you think it’s rude that my coworkers didn’t give any condolences to me when my mom died?

[Anonymous]

So when I came back from town from going to my mom’s memorial, not one person acknowledged me. They looked at me and just ignored me. My boss told me welcome back and get me things to work on. I guess that help me to keep busy. My coworkers I work with didn’t say anything. No condolences, no welcome back, NOTHING! I’ve known them since 2022. Even before when I announced my mom had passed, a few said “My condolences” but not a lot of people said anything and avoid me. Some didn’t even wanna be around me.
I got ignored and put to work right away. When I said good morning when I came back, they ignored it and said, “We need copies and staples. No time to waste. We are very busy today!” I when I was doing it, I broke down crying. In my mind I just wanted my mom back. Two female coworkers said behind my back, “Oh god. Here’s miss moody bitch here.” And another said, “I hope we don’t have to hear her cry for the rest of the work time.” My boss said to get it together and get to work. He said he already gave me two weeks off and I’ve grieved enough. The assistant boss doesn’t really say good morning to me anymore ever since she heard the news about it my mom and she did not ONCE gave her condolences! She’s only worked here for a couple months but still. She did for someone else that lost their dad.

[PastDue]

Well your co-workers are shitheads. Really. I'm sorry to hear you lost your mom. You shouldn't have to bury your mom at your age. That isn't the norm where I work. Everyone would offer sympathies even management.

[Asker]

Thank you. I’m going to be 25 soon but it hurts so bad. My coworkers don’t even care that my mom died. They said they don’t wanna be around a grieving person. The assistant principal is such a bitch to me. She doesn’t say good morning to me anymore. I don’t understand. We were fine last semester. Now since my mom died, she barely speaks to me.

[PastDue]

Just forget about these people, grieve silently, and do your work. Your mom would probably want you to do that. And I'm sure she would want you to eventually press forward and make a life for yourself.

[Zestyassmf1997]

Welcome to the modern workplace. Nobody gives a shit about you. You’re just there to make money for some CEO.

[Asker]

Wow, that’s….. very harsh. I mean it’s true but that’s brutal. You’re right they don’t care. How can someone not care when my mom died. I don’t think the assistant boss likes me that much. She gave condolences to a coworker last year when her dad died so why did she ignore me? Can’t believe nobody told me welcome back. It’s so brutal 😭😭💔💔💔
Even my sister warned me about not expecting everyone to care and send condolences because everyone mostly cares about themselves and making money. She warned me and I don’t listen and had my hope up but unfortunately she’s right.

[Zestyassmf1997]

That’s life.

[Asker]

So nobody really cares if you lost a loved one, even parents?
Shit my sister was right. At least I had support from family. Can’t believe I actually believe that my coworkers would care.

[verylovelyguy]

it's a tough question to answer. they shouldn't have said that stuff but at the same time there's not much you can really say. it's a very sensitive topic. i feel like it's better to say less

[Asker]

I understand death is an uncomfortable topic. I wish my coworkers would be more empathetic.

[Jamie05rhs]

They are all a bunch of cunts. I hope they all get herpes.

[Asker]

I’m thinking about resigning because I’m sick of them not respecting me. When another coworker had a loss, they were supportive

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah, I don't blame you.

[Asker]

Thanksb

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome. 🧡