Do you think its rude for my godmother to ask me that question on my fathers funeral?

[Anonymous]

I was at my funeral. And me and my sister was sitting beside us and my godmother asked me why Im not crying and my sister is crying?

[Geckoman]

First off, you might want to edit your question. It's hard to be asking this question if you are at your own funeral. But to answer your question, I think it is a bit insensitive, and my answer to her question would have been that everyone grieves in their own way. It doesn't mean that you aren’t upset. It means that you aren’t outwardly expressing your feelings.

[Asker]

It was last weeks

[NamerOfStars]

Yes- but I'd call it acceptable, and for exactly the same reason that you not crying is. Grief is HARD, and it's always hard to know what to do at funerals, especially when consoling the bereaved.

[slatyb]

Yes, extremely so. People grieve in different ways, and to different degrees. That's a very intrusive question today should never be asked.