Am I the asshole here?

[Koneko911]

Well to start for those who dont know i work at a daycare. So a child came in yesterday had a diarrhea blowout within maybe 30 minutes of being at the center. Okay cool I change her, things happen. Okay maybe less than an hour later it's playtime, she needs to be changed again as I see liquid all on her outfit. Check and change her it's diarrhea again and even more liquid than before. Okay this is now twice, and we require three times to send a child home. We'll not even ten minutes later she needs to be changed again and it's all on her clothes. Change her, get her a new outfit which I payed for because she didn't have anymore and the daycare was out of extra clothes. Call her mom to pick her up letting her know she has diarrhea. Mom brings her today with an attitude to me claiming she didn't have diarrhea yesterday it was just a blowout. That she works in daycare and knows the difference. No ma'am, I've worked my job 8 years I know diarrhea at this point. And it was just that. You literally have her soiled clothes you can see it all on it. And don't lie she didn't go again yesterday cause I 100% guarantee she did. And you're just mad you had to get her. But this mom kept fussing with me, and I had to accept the kid even though we have a policy saying they stay put 24 hours after being sick. So she wasn't supposed to come today. And now my boss is bitching at me like I sent a healthy sick home for no reason. Like no, she was sick and still is. Girl literally has mucus running all out her nose yet I'm the bad person for sending her home because she has diarrhea?

[AviatorTom]

Seems to me you followed the rules. Kids with diarrhea and funny nose should not be around other kids, who can catch what they have.

You are not the a*hole here, however...

You might have been calmer talking to the mother. When dealing with these kinds if conflict situations, it's best to just state the facts, don't try to assign blame. For example, you could have calmly explained to the mother the 3 diarrhea rule, and that you had no choice but to call her.

Taking care of kids is hard, and stressful. But sometimes it's better nit to be t on a pare t. Vent on your boss or coworker instead.

[Koneko911]

I wasn't really rude. I just told her she did it three times, all liquid so she was called. Mom said she didn't at home and I just told her I still had to send her home because of our illness policy. I tried being nice actually and just took the kid and walked off. Because by policy I was supposed to not even take the child today

[jennifer_bloom]

You did the right thing and maybe your boss knows it but is looking for an excuse to add to your work load by demanding you concede to the wishes of unfair parents. Next time take a photograph for proof and hide it in a hidden folder on your phone so that nobody can accuse you of humiliating their family or kids if the photo is exposed for every passerby to see, then show it to your boss privately if she wants evidence your telling the truth. Do not photograph the face or hands, but photograph the soiled clothes to prove you're being honest.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You followed all the protocols well and sent the kid home and yes she had diarrhea, I know for myself I had diarrhea enough that ended me up at the ER, and they took a stool sample, and it came back that I had a virus found in my stool but the nurse who gave me the report over the phone said, make sure you wash your hands before eating, there is no one cleaner than myself, and I am always washing my hands when I prepare dinner, but the Hospital doesn't want to hear what you have to say. But you did more than your best :)