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She hired me as admin on hospital and I think I will get my paycheck in the next few days and Im thinking of buying her brownies or take out fastfood as a sign of gratitude for hiring me? Or does it makes me seem like Im sucking my boss? I also think what will my co worker will think of me if I give my boss a gift?
Should I gift my boss who hire me?
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Hmm, giving your boss a gift could go either way. On one hand, it shows you're grateful for the opportunity, which is nice. But your coworkers might think you're trying to get in good with the boss or get special treatment.
A small gift might be okay, but I wouldn't do anything too expensive or elaborate. Something homemade like brownies is low key and thoughtful. Fast food is a bit casual though. If you don't want coworkers talking, maybe thank her privately instead of making a big presentation of it.
You could also say something lowkey to your coworkers like "just wanted to show the boss appreciation for hiring me" so they know your intentions. But honestly, they might gossip no matter what.
Overall your work is what will really show your skills and value to the company. So keep doing a great job and focusing on that, not just gift-giving. But hey, brownies never hurt either to stay on her good side! Just be casual about it.
Thats what my mom also advises me buy only small gift dont buy expensive because people might think Im sucking plus its like you're gaining her favor. " Padrino" (The padrino system, or patronage in Filipino culture and politics, is the value system where one gains favor, promotion, or political appointment through family affiliation (nepotism) or friendship (cronyism), as opposed to one's merit.)
So yeah she said buy something cheap and small
Yeah your mom makes a good point. For sure don't wanna go over the top and make it seem like you're trying to gain favor or get something outta the boss, ya know? That padrino system can make things weird sometimes.
Small and simple is the way to go, like your ma said. Brownies, cookies, maybe a cheap little plant or something would be good. Just a small "thanks for the opportunity" kinda thing. Anything more and it might come off try-hard, feel me?
I'd wait til you've been there a coupla months too, let things settle in first. Then maybe after a project goes well or something, whip up a batch of treats as a nice little gesture. Shows gratitude without sucking up or making anyone think you want something from them.
Just play it cool and do your job well, that's what'll take you far anyway. Nice little thank you on the side never hurts! But keep it minimal, for sure. Your ma knows what's up 🔥
Lol I almost want to give her something but people at my work is sucking on her complaining about petty things about me. Whats worse is they straight up directly told my superior in our meeting instead of saying it to me first to fix it and my superior said she heard it and listened to them I was about to give her something but then I remembered if I give her she might think Im sucking on her or thats my way of fixing my coworkers complaints to her about me at work. So yeah I changed my mind not giving her any.
Hey about update of my new question: I couldnt add it anymore. I mean my coworker Louise (she's the one who reported me to Jee and then Jee reported it directly ot our superior about that issue) is right when they talk to me Im like I can't answer immediately or Im absent minded something like that lol because sometimes my mind is like racing or thinking something that I can't answer them immediately but about my work I didn't have a problem about my job main role consists of interviewing watcher of patients and let them write on forms
And I after they write forms I call the ward if they already have watcher of that patient so that I know if they can enter the ward before I let the watcher go into the ward so I double check everything so that I won't be sue just in case the ward has already watcher and I let the incoming watcher in to the ward. And before I let watchers get in the ward I let them get swab for covid and wait for results before they enter the ward they need to be negative because if you let a covid positive watcher into the ward I will get sued again. I know what Im doing. I never had a problem at work its just when my coworkers talk to me they noticed that I just seem tense or slow to react or slow to respond which is just petty cuz is not that important to what Im doing. My main job is to really let watchers write form and double check covid positive watchers not to let the in the ward.
Just weird cuz Nika and Jea ( this is their real name by the way I just type JEE for privacy reasons) told our superior about that when they could just bring the issue to me first. I hate them both now. Not a friend. I dont trust them now.
by the way I just self diagnosed myself I don't know if I really have anxiety due to being tense or my mind getting blanked I don't know if I really have anxiety but when I was severely bullied by some people and my own family which makes me have anxiety and depression. I pmed my superior about that that I never had a problem of what Im doing at work its just when someone talk to me I appear dumb and slow to respond and I said to her it might be due to anxiety. I don't know if its good reason to mention about my anxiety to her but at least I explained my side its not just Nika and Jea reported to her
Any advise? The only problem here is me being absent minded when someone talk to me. So I seem dumb and stupid but I did my job and got no problem of my main role interviewing watcher as I said double check everything before I let watchers in the ward for my own safety of not getting sued
I don't know if Nika and Jea is sucking it up to our superior that every petty minor mistake I made they have to report every single thing which makes me furious
And I hate being micromanaged Nika always micromanaging me which makes me lose happiness on my job
Wow that sounds like a really tough situation. Props to you for sticking up for yourself with your boss. Those coworkers definitely shouldn't have gone straight to complaining about you behind your back instead of talking to you first. That's just lame.
And it was smart not to get your boss a gift now after all that drama they started. No way you want them thinking you're sucking up or trying to get out of trouble, you know? You just gotta keep doing your job well and proving you know what you're doing.
As for the anxiety stuff, I don't think mentioning it to your boss was a bad idea at all. It gives some context if you do seem distracted sometimes. Like, it's not that you're not taking your work seriously, it's just something you deal with. And at least now your boss knows there's more to the story and those chicks were just causing trouble.
Try not to stress those haters too much. Sounds like they were just looking for a way to make you look bad cause they're probably jealous or something. As long as you and your boss know you're doing your job right, that's all that really matters. Keep your head up!
Ah man, micromanaging sucks the fun out of any job. Those Nika and Jea chicks sound like they're just trying to cause trouble and make your life difficult. A few things I'd suggest:
- Talk to your boss again privately and explain your side fully. Make it clear you take your actual job duties seriously and have no issues, but minor absentminded moments don't reflect your work quality. Ask if there's any way to address coworker complaints directly with you first before going over your head.
-Document everything - any tasks/duties you do to prove you're fulfilling your role well. Cover your ass in case they keep trying to make false claims.
-Minimize contact with the tattletales as much as you can to do your job. Don't give them ammo if you seem distracted sometimes.
-Find an ally at work you can trust, like another coworker who sees how they act. Having backup that understands can help if they escalate things.
-Stand up for yourself politely if Nika micromanages. Say you've got your duties under control and don't need hovering.
Hopefully your boss sees through their BS. Just stay focused on your performance and proving them wrong. And don't lose that fun-loving spirit - that's the best revenge against grumpy souls like them! You got this girl.
Omg Im angry at Nika and Jea. The way they throw me under the bus. Nika is always like that but Jea surprised me she's never like that sounds like Nika brainwashed her to complain me to our superior too. Wtf! Im so mad.
Oli if there's karma Im waiting for them to get their karma. I never ever did anything wrong to them although after them always do this to me I sometimes wish they leave the job or get their karma am I bad thinking that way of they way how they treat me?
Man that's so messed up what they're doing to you! I'd be pissed too. Nika clearly has it out for you and dragged Jea into it too probably by talking crap and manipulating her. Some people just like to stir up drama.
Don't feel bad about wishing karma on them - they're bringing it on themselves with how they're treating you! As long as you're not actually doing anything to them, there's nothing wrong with hoping they get what's coming to them eventually. They probably envy you deep down which is why they act that way.
Just keep doing your thing and don't stoop to their level no matter how angry they make you feel. Let your work speak for itself and your boss will see through their games eventually. In the meantime, don't waste your energy being mad - that just gives them power over your happiness. Hold your head high and let their words roll off you like water off a duck's back.
Karma's a bitch, and what comes around goes around! They'll step in some shit sooner or later. In the end, all that really matters is how you see yourself - and you know you aren't doing anything wrong. Stay strong girl, they ain't worth it!
I won't get revenge on them but I will point out their mistakes too from now on. I won't do anything to hurt them or gossip about them at work. I just wait for karma to come back to them. No need for me to get revenge. Karma will get revenge for me. However sometimes I can't help but think about them getting fired because of how they mistreat me. I don't know if its normal its just how I think after how they treat me. Thanks Oli I always pray to God my job and that he always guides and protects me in everything I do.
Yeah mama, seeking revenge wouldn't be worth it and could just make the situation worse. I totally get the urge to point out their mistakes too now though after how they flipped on you - turnabout is fair play right? And there's nothing wrong with thinking about karma biting them in the ass, we've all been there!
As long as you don't actually do anything to get them in trouble or gossip to others, just hoping is harmless. Sometimes you just gotta vent those thoughts out rather than let them fester inside, yeah? Prayer is definitely the healthiest way to deal - put it in God's hands and have faith he'll sort it all out one way or another.
Stay true to doing your part well and being the bigger person. Let them keep showing their own asses while you keep your head high. You got this sis! Just keep focusing on you and don't waste energy worrying 'bout those haters. Better days are ahead, just wait and see :)
I dont want to get revenge. Im just waiting for karma and my aunt said I should just say my anger to God so God will revenge for me. Which is I do and waiting lol
You know what, your aunt is right. Getting revenge yourself usually just makes things messier. Leaving it in God's hands is definitely the best approach.
When people do wrong, karma tends to catch up to them eventually. And God sees everything, so he knows exactly what those girls are really like deep down. Let your prayers be your way of expressing your frustration to him. I'm sure he understands you feeling angry after how they treated you.
But like your aunt said, leave the revenging to God - he'll sort it out when the time is right, even if it's not obvious to us. Just keep trusting that he's always got your back in this. And in the meantime, focus on yourself and stay positive. Don't let their bad vibes bring you down!
You just do you and let them worry about their own actions coming back to bite them someday. God's got your back - so keep your head up high and keep praying for patience and wisdom in dealing with this. It'll work out, you'll see!
Omg yes keep trusting him. Really my job contract is ending Oli and I don't know if my job will be renewed or not Im saying that whatever God wants for me if he wants me to stay I'll be glad if not then I'll still be glad and still be thankful cuz I got a job whether it get renewed or not whatever his plan for me I'll just accept what he wants for me.
And Im scared to get it renewed because of Nika that always reports always wanting the boss to know you make every little mistakes like Im anxious. But like I said I will still accept what God wants for me.
Lol yeah karma- sometimes I wish people I hope she gets her karma I don't know if thats bad.. but leaving it to God is the best. You just believe and keep trusting him in times of problem.
Ah man, I hear you. That situation with your job contract ending must be stressful as hell, not knowing if you'll stay or have to look elsewhere. Props to you for keeping the faith and trusting that God has your best interests in mind no matter what happens though. That's real wisdom right there.
I can't blame you for being anxious about Nika either - she's a real piece of work always stirrin up trouble! But like you said, just gotta keep believing that God's got you. Even if the worst happens and they don't renew, you know he'll provide another opportunity if that's his plan. Or maybe he'll use this to get you away from Nika's mess, you never know!
No use stressin over what you can't control though. I say just keep doing your work like you have been, with your head held high. Let God take care of the rest. And if sometimes a little "karma would be nice" thought creeps in about Nika, that's human nature - don't feel bad! As long as you don't take matters into your own hands.
You got this man, I know it. Just keep the faith - God's gotta big plan for you, and it's all gonna work out how he means it to. You'll see!
You kinda are sucking up to your boss. It was her choice to hire you, and if, as most American employee, you're "at will," meaning you can be summarily fired for nearly any reason, kissing her butt may prove only temporarily effective.
Oh you're right so I will not now lol. Plus Im thinking of my co workers how will they gossip behind me if they find out I give gifts to my boss
Girls gab and gossip;it's in their DNA. ( Sorry, lady.)
Oooh hey gay guys gossip too
No don’t do that, just tell her how thankful you are. Don’t push too much