Would you snitch on your coworker?

[DizzyDesii]

I hate how my job can’t keep anything confidential. It was bad enough when i told someone in HR about my sup fcking up my checks and then she told the sup I told on her.

Then there was this girl who makes promises/deals to applicants of offers we no longer offer. I told the team lead in confidence but then she three-wayed me in a virtual conference with the girl and told her about me snitching. I only snitched because it put me in an awkward situation having to tell the applicant the offer was no longer valid.

And now the girl has fcked up AGAIN, not even a month or two later. She promised the same deal/offer to someone new and now I have to deliver the bad news again. I don’t like risking anyones job but it keeps affecting me directly because I have to play messenger and get snapped on by applicants because of her mistakes.

This old lady used to make similar mistakes and I tried to tell a team lead in hopes they’d help her but she's been out a month now and i think she's fired 😭 I’m a certified snitch now ugh #FeelFreeToList

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Definitely time for a new job. So not only did the girl talk her way out of it but Someone logged in as me and forwarded out some shit in regards to her mistake… i dont like crooked ass companies like this

[DJB72]

Not only would I, I'd change all my passwords to something random then resign the second my paycheck cleared.

Getting a reference for another employer is straightforward enough. You just need to keep the new employer from contacting the old one. I'm always straightforward in applications. I'll say my reasons for leaving my previous employer were owing to personal circumstances and provide character references instead of previous employer references unless I've been in a post under two years and left the last job on good terms so I use them.

My worst experience was working for a medical insurance company and having to tell someone with stage 4 cancer the company has no further obligation to cover 100% of his chemotherapy treatment - and knowing they're calling to make sure their family aren't going to have unpaid bills in about two months when they die. I quit after that call. Not because of the call, but because my manager told me to "shrug it off".

I spoke to HR about it and they couldn't see anything wrong.

My resignation letter went to the managing director and was four typed pages.

[DizzyDesii]

Holy smokes

[DJB72]

That was just the last straw 🤣🤣🤣

Shitty place to work and shit pay too.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that's super crappy what's going on at your job. It doesn't sound like a fun place to work if people can't keep anything private between each other. I don't blame you for feeling frustrated about having to deal with problems that other employees caused, it's not fair that you get stuck cleaning up their mistakes. Snitching usually isn't cool, but it seems like you were just trying to let the bosses know what was happening so you didn't get in trouble for stuff that other people messed up. I'd be pretty annoyed too if I told someone something privately and then they went and shared it without asking. How are you supposed to trust people or feel comfortable going to them with issues if they're just gonna blab everything to other employees? And it really sucks that someone actually logged into your account and sent stuff around about that girl's mistake - that's so not okay. I can see why you wanna get outta there, a job's not worth the stress if you can't count on people to have your back. Don't let them make you feel bad for "snitching" either, you were just trying to help fix problems so you didn't end up dealing with the fallout. It's totally reasonable to want things run better at a place where you spend so much time working. I hope you're able to find somewhere new with people who actually keep things private and act professionally, sounds like that's long overdue for you to get away from all that high school level drama. Your coworkers and managers should have your best interests in mind too, not just throw you under the bus. Fingers crossed you find a fresh start at a job that treats people better very soon!

[DizzyDesii]

Thank you 🙌

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem! Happy I could listen and try to understand where you're coming from. Job stuff can really stress people out, so I'm glad venting about it helped some. Hopefully changing things up with a new opportunity is all good from here on out 🤞

[DreamLife7]

I mind my business and do not talk to coworkers on that level. Remember, coworkers are not your friends. They will throw you under the bus for money. I don't associate with coworkers like that, I get my money, and clock out. The only people I deal with are the ones that are cutting my check which is the work office. other than that I don't mingle with coworkers

[DreamLife7]

They don't like you and you're too trusting. They're playing you

[DizzyDesii]

How am i too trusting? Im the snitch lmao

[DizzyDesii]

Ion like they stank ass either. Just 3 more months to go before i feel comfortable quitting them. Tryna make the resume look good

[DreamLife7]

You're talking too much to too many people yet offended, not happy about the fact they're putting u on blast. you gotta get some discernment. You're treating this like high school You're in your late 20s.

[DizzyDesii]

What are you even talking about? How am i talking to too many people? We’re told to report stuff to our supervisor and team leads. I reported to one team lead who clearly logged in as me and she told the supervisor, other team leads and the girl who made the mistake. Im not gonna keep getting yelled at by clients for someone elses mistake. Im far from offended

[DreamLife7]

I'm not saying this to be rude. What I'm saying is you're talking to too many people. They're playing games with you and I'd get out of there before they try to fire you. Don't give them any ammunition towards you. But I'd leave and not saying anything else to them

[DizzyDesii]

In the past I’ve quit before having a backup job. I can’t Afford that this time around with how layoffs are going. So i feel like im gonna be here for the next few months unless i et a really good offer somewhere

[DreamLife7]

Cause with you wanting a kid you need a steady career and some income. These people are not long term.🤣 and my bad if it's coming off as rude from what I'm reading is that they've been screwing you over and seems like everytime you speak up. it gets worse. That's why I said don't talk to too many people

[DreamLife7]

This is what I mean lol desi.. please think like an adult. You're saying you can't afford to leave without a back up but if they're already logging into your email , sending out emails from your account like it's you. What so you think their plan is? They're building a case against you so they can fire you. Like girl wake up lol think

[DizzyDesii]

Fckk

[DreamLife7]

Yes!! This can mess up your employees' history, is what im saying. Sorry if I'm coming off rude. im just trying to get you to see the big picture. You need steady employment a reliable job. This place is not long term and already setting you up for failure. Them sending emails from your account they're building a case against you. A paper trail when they fire you. Not trying to make you paranoid if you want to stay but just tread lightly.

[DreamLife7]

Cause I've never had an employer send emails from my account they're trying to set u up. The only reason I can see this doing this is to have ammunition towards you when they fire you

[DreamLife7]

And you want kids. So I'm trying to get you to see and find somewhere where you can set yourself up for success when you're ready for a kid. Have money stashed up. These people are messy

[DizzyDesii]

Yea im not taking any of it as rude. I just didn't think about that. And i never saw them as longterm. Def a year long at the least

[DreamLife7]

Yeah, just shop around. I've seen many of your post where you've told them several times your concerns yet they turn around and do this. They aren't willing to fix the problems.

[DizzyDesii]

All the sups and team leads are too buddy buddy. I think most are related and its not even a fam company. I think its relatives with different last names so they can all work together

[DreamLife7]

Omg desi😭😭🤣. They all have different last names and related lol omg. Yeah just shop around for jobs right now. Do you have too put them down as a reference?

[DizzyDesii]

Yea just to show i didn't sit out for a year

[DreamLife7]

Yeah and who knows what type of reference they'll give. I don't know it's up to you at this point can't tell you what to do. They just seem unnecessarily messy.

[Ms_Facesitter]

If they start sabotaging my performance and results at work, I will without hesitation.

[DizzyDesii]

Its mire so the fact that her mistakes cause me to get angry clients coming my way because she's informing them wrong

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes I personally wouldn't hold back.

[AlexEfron]

I don't butt in if it doesn't affect me directly. If it's affecting me indirectly, I will responsibility and get things done my way and how I see fit. Just a couple days back there was some task that I needed to do. Some gap analysis for some 1900 odd packages and it was assigned to two people - my senior and I. Anyways, everyone is my senior in the team. But I disagreed with the way she approached the task. I wanted to do things simultaneously and only look into stuff if it needed to be looked into. But the senior wanted me to do all 1900 individually. I did not like the idea as it was prone to mistakes. But I had no choice. I discussed it with the lead, but didn't get a clear response. I started doing it my way. And the very next day that senior was out sick and the customer spotted some mistakes she had done (which was expected, I knew it'd happen). That gave me an opportunity to propose my way to the lead again. And I got it done in one day, pointing out all of the mistakes she had done. I don't mean to belittle someone who's more experienced than I am, but if your way of doing things hinders mine, I'll definitely do something about it

[DizzyDesii]

100%

[JustinTheGreat]

It really depends. Majority of the time, no. I’m not gonna go snitch if you’re breaking some rules. I break the rules too.

but there are certain situations that managers have to be aware about. Like one day a guest ordered a non-alcoholic Pina Colada and they were accidentally served an alcoholic one. Thats a huge no no. Luckily the guest was fine with it but god forbid that was someone who was sober, or pregnant, etc. Shit like that, I’m sorry but we gotta tell a manager. You fucked up lol. The bartender told the manager and they ended up losing their job.

There was this other time at my old job where my manager left the premises on her break which isn’t allowed. At that point, I was on my way to being a manager myself so she trusted me with her keys and her manager code in case anything happened.

My coworker would constantly mess up orders (she had autism so it’s not really her fault) so when she messed up and realized the manager wasn’t there, she freaked out. She ended up going to the higher ups and told them that she left. So then they went to me and asked me to confirm. So I said yes.

And then my other coworkers were acting like I was the one who ran and snitched on her. Like what was I supposed to do? Lie? It’s not like I ran to our GM myself. If I said no, then it would seem like my coworker is a liar. So clearly I’m an asshole no matter what answer I gave lol

[DizzyDesii]

Damn providing alcohol on accident is definitely a big deal

[SamIam96]

Desi, you're too fvcking good and the place is a sh! tshow.

It sounds like you actually care about the applicants. If you can, just deliver the information, it's bad news, but you're a good person, you didn't screw them AND, you aren't responsible for cleaning up the mess. Be kind and move the process forward.

WRT, your fckup coworkers, not your problem. If the company doesn't care, you aren't being paid to either. Don't bother trying to fix the place -- unless you're ready to commit to being the big boss.

[DizzyDesii]

Thank you

[RavVid]

Someone logging on as you and mailing out is nasty and evil and someone is not to be trusted.

On the initial question, it would depend on how bad it was, how deliberate it was and the impact on me. What you are describing would meet my threshold though I might have taken it up with the person directly initially. That would depend on their personality and whether i thought they could take criticism/complaint.

If not closing a deal reflected badly on you, as well as making the customer snitchy, than you were forced to I'd say.

[DizzyDesii]

I just find it weird that emails were forwarded from me while i was away at lunch

[RavVid]

Odd isn't it? Has it caused you much trouble? Any suspicions of who did this?

[DizzyDesii]

With the timesheet it was my supervisor. But I don't know who fwded the email. Its out of my sup and her two team leads

[A_Nihilist]

Sounds like you need to take things higher and higher every time. I'd personally be out for their jobs if I was in your situation.

If people want to be toxic to me in the workplace. Damn skippy I'll aim for their paycheck and hit them where it hurts.

People should do the job they're paid for and not take the work for granted. Let alone bother their coworkers in so much as a minor capacity.

[DizzyDesii]

You’re right

[MicahRaine]

Lol honesty is the best policy but snitches end up in ditches so use your discernment

Personally though it depends. If I cab handle it 1on1 with that person than I will. If I can't deal with it alone I either fire them or have someone else deal with it quietly (preferably the latter)

[DizzyDesii]

My ex and my dude just said the same “snitches end up in ditches”… wtf happened to stitches! I ain't tryna die 😭 But then my dude said he’d handle some shit if that happened 🤣 I told him to just stop talking lol… and i wouldve liked to tell the girl 1 on 1 but didn't think about that because its my job to contact the applicant

[MicahRaine]

Oh lol I always grew up saying ditches lol I don't know why

Ngl I'm a big fan of handling anything that comes your way but also not making yourself a target

Also gotcha re girl and also yeah get a new job

[Titanic1912]

It depends on how serious it is. You know what they say. Snitches get stitches! That’s a bunch of petrified horse shit! If it’s like a stupid argument, work it out. If it’s something that’s going to cost someone big time, then it’s appropriate. Tell your supervisor or the CO. They’ll be the ones to solve the problem.

[DizzyDesii]

My supervisors are often in on it. I went to HR once but i think she turned out to be my supervisors sister

[Wiredone]

In your situation, yes I would rat her out. You're having to tell the customer that the information that was given them was incorrect. You're trying to do your job the right way. My dad always told me " You're not at a job to make friends, you're there to do your job ". I lived by that rule when I worked for someone else. Now I sometimes have to work with people that I don't get along with but I have to get the job done

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i dont even try to make friends at work. People are too messy and fake

[Wiredone]

Yeah there are a lot of fake people out there

[kellytheman]

I have which I hate also doing or being that guy. The only thing I really snitch on is maybe someone not wearing there uniform properly or not at all we are supposed to look professional security guards. I also snitch on somebody who had weapons in his truck (multiple guns, baton, knives) where are policy is we should not have weapons on certain properties and sites

[DizzyDesii]

I understand weapons but how did he wear the outfit wrong? Shirt not tucked? Lol

[kellytheman]

More like it wasn’t clean ( had a food stain, his badge was on the wrong side, wearing not right color shirt underneath and shoes, not wearing uniform pants. His uniform was also not tucked into.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn

[Anonymous]

I snitched on someone at my first job for taking money out of the register I was signed into. I wasn't getting blamed for it. I became a supervisor at that same job so it was kind of my job to snitch. I always gave them several warnings before I writing them up, though.

Now, I would probably only snitch if my boss came up to me and asked if something did or didn't happened. I don't like anyone enough to get in trouble for them.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i def dont like anyone enough to take the blame for them. This girl trained me in September and we haven't talked since except for a month or two ago when she made the same mistake she made today.

[RHK36]

Anytime someone does something that'll effect my work if they don't act right I'm hella snitching. I've gotten lazy people fired and told them to their face it was me. They never wanna meet me outside if they have a problem with it 🤷🏻

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao

[JacobJordan]

Depends on the situation. Most situations no but if I am being faulted for something that I didn't do or cause I will defend myself and if the person who is responsible tries to join in I will throw them under the bus with gusto

[Texasgal95]

I mean, probably if I know they’re doing something that goes against company rules, and guidelines. I don’t have a very good poker face either even if I tried to cover up for them, I would give away.

[iron_ninjs]

Depends if they did something illegal or not. If they did, I'm probably gonna snitch. If they didn't do something illegal, but it was against company policy, I wouldn't

[alice55]

Never, I'm not one who do this kind of stuff even if a person is an assholes I wouldn't do it.

[TaureanBull81]

I keep my head down, stay out of the office politics, do my job and then go home 🏡

I'd prefer not to give any of my superiors an excuse to give me a hard time.

[worldscolide]

It depends. If it puts the company at risk, yes, I like my job, I don't want to lose it to someone else's stupidity.

[DizzyDesii]

Makes sense

[NathanDavis]

if they're working against me... I will do something about it

[Phoenix98]

No not unless it's affecting me directly in general I'm not a snitch.

[DizzyDesii]

It was causing chaos between me and clients

[Phoenix98]

Then it's fair for you to snitch.

[exitseven]

Yes, I would rat them out no problem. I would do it on the DL and stand back and watch

[DizzyDesii]

Everytime i do it on the DL, they bring the person into a meeting with me and snitch

[DreamLife7]

Yeah but what are your thoughts on them sending emails from her account to people as if they're her? Doesn't that sound like they're setting her up?