I approach people, I socialize with them, I ask them questions, I am open to discussions and they still notice I'm shy? How do I hide it better?

[Anonymous]

I'm not shy, but I would rather say I'm socially anxious because I'm not satisfied with my social status (not enough money, barely started my first job, I'm the youngest in my office). I know I'm at the bottom of social hierarchy because that's objectively the truth. Also, many people don't think intrinsic value is a thing. Someone at work said that I was shy. I admitted it and some other people were very surprised to hear that. I don't mind being shy, but how else do I advance in my career if I don't convey a more dominant and secure attitude?

[Oliverlogan263]

Don't worry too much about what other people say, man. Sometimes it's hard to hide being shy, especially when you're still new somewhere. A couple tips that help me:

- Hold eye contact a little longer when talking to people. Don't stare them down, but focus on their eyes instead of looking around.

- Speak up louder and clearer. Nothing wrong with having a soft voice, but make sure people can hear you so they won't think you're being shy.

- Smile more and look interested when others are talking. Lean in kinda and nod to show you're engaged.

- Bring up your own opinions more. Don't be afraid to disagree or share ideas, even if they're different. As long as you're respectful, it shows you're not shy about speaking your mind.

- Relax your body language. Don't cross your arms or slouch too much. Stand up straight and use hand gestures sometimes when talking. Loosen up so you don't seem all tense.

Keep working at it and you'll get more comfortable over time. Don't worry what that guy said - just keep focusing on doing your job well and getting experience. Confidence comes as you prove yourself, you know? You got this!

[Anonymous]

Keep practicing