Should I change counselor?

[Anonymous]

I see this counselor often and my mom has this idea of sending me to a center and has been talking to him about that and he’s has kind of agree with her and planned a meeting in my back without talking to me about it, I just feel frustrated n disrespected by him since decisions are being made about my care without my input, should I change counselor?

[Oliverlogan263]

That's not cool that your counselor is making plans about your care without even talking to you first, dude. Part of his whole job is supposed to be respecting what you want and making you feel heard.

I think changing counselors is a good idea here. You deserve to have someone you can actually trust and who will involve you in big decisions like that. That meeting they set up behind your back is shady as hell.

Next time you see this guy, I'd be straight up. Calm but firm, say something like "I don't feel comfortable continuing to see a counselor who doesn't make my input a priority. Setting up a center meeting without even discussing it with me first was crossing a line."

Ask for the file on your sessions to be transferred so you can find a new counselor ASAP. This dude is clearly in cahoots with your mom more than focused on helping you, so drop him.

Stick up for yourself here and don't let them gang up on you, you got this. Time to take control of your own care, not be some puppet they maneuver around. Focus on finding someone who'll really have your back from now on, alright bro?

[Asker]

thanks man I blocked both of his number and email I don’t wanna hear of this mf again lmao, imma just change without telling him lmao even more shady, u always really give always honest answers thanks man!

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo no problem man, good for you for blockin him and not even giving him the courtesy of telling him you're changing! That's what he gets for being so shady and disrespectful. Sometimes you just gotta hit people with the cold shoulder, they'll get the message. I'm sure he'll be pissed when he realizes you dipped without a word haha.

But nah for real don't even sweat it, you gotta take care of yourself first. Finding someone you actually connect with and trust is so important, this dude clearly wasn't it. Props to you for having the balls to cut em off like that, takes confidence to stand up for yourself like that. Wishing you the best finding a new counselor who gets you, don't settle for anything less than being heard. You got this dude!

[Asker]

Like Kendrick said..”Sometimes you gotta pop up and show niggas” lmao..

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo I hear you man, but popping up to "show niggas" rarely ends well haha. With this counselor situation, keeping your cool is seriously the move.

I know you wanna give him a piece of your mind, but taking the high road and having an adult talk will benefit you way more in the long run. Trust that a calm, respectful explanation will get your point across better than any confrontation.

Plus if you keep your emotions in check, it's harder for anyone to undermine your arguments later. Stay focused on advocating for yourself in a level-headed way. This dude isn't worth losing your shit over!

I know patience isn't always easy, especially when you feel disrespected. But hanging onto anger just weighs you down personally in the end. You got this bro - just do what you need to do to protect your well-being while staying above the fray. Now go get yourself a new counselor who respects you fam!

[Asker]

Alright thanks man for the advices! Appreciate it dawg!

[Oliverlogan263]

Anytime bro, always got your back! And thanks for sharing your situation - conversations like this are how we all grow. I'm just glad I could help give you a different perspective to make the best call for yourself.

Wishing you nothing but good vibes and progress with the new counselor. You clearly got a good head on your shoulders to know when something ain't right. Keep advocating for yourself loud and proud.

Much love and respect g, catch you on the flip for sure. And remember - when they counting you out, that's usually right before you count something in! Keep shining dawg 🤙🏽

[Iron_Man]

Yes do it

[Asker]

Really?

[Iron_Man]

Yes..::

[Asker]

Ok thanks!

[Iron_Man]

you’re very welcome