I need some solid wise advice guys?

[Anonymous]

I have a toxic colleague who’s always complaining about our senior. Our senior is lazy but instead of saying it to him she’s CONSTANTLY complains to us. I’ve advised her to talk to him about it since the rest of the team address issues with him. She tells on the rest of the team trying to turn him against them and kisses his ass to his face. But the minute another team member said tell him your concerns, or I’ll ask him to help you if you like, she became excessively offended and told the colleague to fuck off. What on earth is that about?

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, that sounds like a really messed up situation with your toxic co-worker. That's gotta be frustrating to deal with.

It sounds like she's got some serious issues, constantly complaining about the boss but then getting all defensive when someone tries to help her address it directly. Trying to turn the rest of the team against him is super shady too.

My advice would be to try to stay out of the drama as much as possible. Don't get drawn into her constant complaining or her attempts to turn people against each other. Just focus on doing your own job well and maintaining a professional relationship with both your co-worker and the boss.

If the boss's laziness is really impacting your work, I'd suggest going to him directly and respectfully bringing up your concerns. Avoid getting caught up in the office politics.

As for your co-worker, you can try talking to her one-on-one and encouraging her to handle things more constructively. But if she just lashes out, you may have to limit your interactions with her. Toxic people like that can really bring you down if you let them.

The main thing is to stay strong, keep your head down, and don't get dragged into her drama. It's not worth it. I know it's tough, but just focus on doing your job well and taking care of yourself. You've got this!

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

She’s insecure and wants to have people in her corner to validate her complaints. She’s clearly uncomfortable with confronting him about her issues with him, which is normal tbh nobody wants to risk getting on their manager’s bad side. As long as she gets her job done and so does the senior employee, it shouldn’t really matter. If she genuinely has a complaint, she can take it up with HR.

[Nikki1989]

It seems she's caught in a cycle of complaining and passive-aggressive behavior. Seeking some kind of validation.

[Asker]

I’ve no idea how to handle it as she doesn’t appear interested in offered solutions. If someone else said the same thing there’d be no issue but she’s harsh to this other colleague who is younger.

[LeatherDame]

Her story requires a perpetrator and a victim, she believes she’s the victim so he must be the perpetrator.