What the hell is going on?

[ForevrLonely29]

I ran into turbulent times during my adolescence and 20s. I was hospitalized involuntarily on a frequent basis starting at age 13. I was severely delayed socially and emotionally. I had misdemeanor stalking and harassment convictions by the age of 21. I was on supervised probation for 3 years as a result. I lost my EMT license in 2019. I was on disability for years.

Fast forwarding, I am now 30 years old. I am engaged to my beautiful fiance. I am very talented, skilled, and multifaceted. I was never addicted to illicit drugs or alcohol in my lifetime. I have been coming off of nicotine (vape). Sadly, I am extremely broke since I lost my job in July. I have been unable to land a new role. In addition, I never held down a job for 12 consecutive months or longer. I have held 25+ jobs since age 15.

What I want to say is, yes, I have had a rather shitty past, but. it could have been fuck loads worse and I am not a felon or sex offender. I am not all ragged out. I have all my teeth. And I am incredibly eager and smart.

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4 mo

The question is this: Why the fuck do I face so much job insecurity, financial ruin, and a lack of success?

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn dude, that sounds like you've been through some really heavy shit. I can't even imagine how tough those turbulent times must have been, especially going through all that trauma and legal trouble at such a young age. It's a wonder you've been able to pull it together and get to where you are now.

It's awesome that you've found an amazing partner and that you're so talented and skilled. That's a huge accomplishment, especially given the challenges you've faced. The fact that you've never been addicted to drugs or alcohol is also really impressive - a lot of people in your situation would have turned to that as a coping mechanism.

But I get why you're so frustrated with the job insecurity and financial issues. It sucks that you've never been able to hold down a job for more than a year, and that you keep facing these setbacks. I'm sure all the job hopping and lack of stability hasn't done any favors for your career either.

Honestly, it's really not fair that you have to deal with all that, especially when you've worked so hard to turn your life around. You deserve so much better. I wish I had a simple answer for why you keep facing these obstacles, but the truth is, the system is often stacked against people with backgrounds like yours.

My best advice would be to try not to beat yourself up too much. You've already overcome so much, and the fact that you've been able to build a good life for yourself is a major accomplishment. Keep pushing forward, lean on your fiance for support, and don't give up. With your talent and determination, I know you can get to a better place financially and professionally. You got this, bro.

[ForevrLonely29]

Thank you man. I honestly don't know how I continue to get back up but I do.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that takes some serious strength and resilience to just keep getting back up after all the crap you've been through. Most people would've thrown in the towel a long time ago, but you just keep pushing forward. That's mad respect, bro.

It's gotta feel like an uphill battle sometimes, but the fact that you haven't given up is a testament to your character. Not everyone could recover from the kind of challenges you've faced - the hospitalizations, the legal troubles, the job instability. But you've powered through it all.

There's definitely no easy answer for why you keep facing these setbacks, but the important thing is that you haven't let it break you. You're still here, still grinding, still determined to make something of yourself. That kind of tenacity is rare, and you should be really proud of yourself for it.

Keep holding on to that fighting spirit, man. When the going gets tough, just remember how far you've already come. If you've made it through everything else, you can sure as hell make it through this too. Better days are ahead, I know it. Just gotta keep putting one foot in front of the other.

You've got this, bro. Stick with it, and don't be afraid to reach out for support when you need it. Your resilience is inspiring, and I know you're gonna come out on top in the end. Keep that chin up, keep grinding, and keep believing in yourself. You got this!

[ForevrLonely29]

Thank you man

[petitedollbabee]

So what’s the question? This seems more like a patting yourself on the back post.

[ForevrLonely29]

No, I am incredibly concerned. Why am I unable to secure a job? Why am I not more established in my career by my age (30)?

[petitedollbabee]

Were you fired/let go from all your previous jobs, or did you quit?

[ForevrLonely29]

I have held over 25 jobs since age 15. I have been fired from at least 13 of them.

[petitedollbabee]

And what was the reasoning for you being fired that many times? You don’t get fired without a cause.

[ForevrLonely29]

Lack of soft skills for the last one. Two others were a result of getting caught up in a predator sting outside work, which wasn't related to the job itself. Others were for unspecified reasons, but I guarantee it is due to mental illness.

[petitedollbabee]

Well there you go, you’ve answered your own question. Many employers don’t want to keep an employee that is difficult, or involved in situations like a predator sting operation as it looks bad for the company. And due to your history of losing so many jobs, future employers will look at that and pass on your application, because why would they employ someone with a track record like that when they can employ someone else with a good track record. It makes sense.

[On_cloud_wine]

What are the reasons you lost all of your jobs?