What is even going on?

[Anonymous]

This girl asked if I was into her like multiple times. Last weekend when I admitted it, she asked if I was joking and how serious I was and now I have no clue where she stands.

I don’t know what I expected but this is certainly odd right. Last Monday she again asked if I was serious when I told her that this weekend or if it was the alcohol.

I mean she kept asking and it is the truth, I really got the impression like I am 10% certain she wanted to hear it was her I was into.

So what do I do now or what is likely at play here?

Updates

10 mo

As you might understand I feel odd, like I don’t feel rejected but also not the way I should feel

[Vevv123]

Well we can easily convince ourselves someone doesn’t like us… easily. So she probably just needs reassurance, if you do like her, reassure her without her having to ask you.

[Asker]

So you think I should just tell her myself instead of it being an answer to her question?

[Asker]

Not only do I like her, I really fell for her. Years ago already but those feelings just all came back

[Vevv123]

I see, well tell her this. Sounds like she's your friend still, just take the initiative to start the conversation and tell her exactly how you feel and this is where you can also ask her whatever you need to ask her so you can also have more clarity on the confusion you're feeling. Because as far as the repeatedly asking you, she might just feel very unsure and probably doesn't think you like her, sometimes actions speak louder than words and she is probably overthinking about things. But honestly that's just my perspective.

[Vevv123]

Yes, definitely tell her yourself because her asking you continuously without you asking her might make her feel like she is pressuring you and it might make her feel like you have no other choice than to respond something that won't hurt her feelings.

[Vevv123]

I meant to say without you taking the initiative to start that type of conversation, not asking her.

[Asker]

Thank you very much for your advice i will definitely apply it

[Asker]

The thing is we have been into each other before but never admitted it to one another and just kind of orbited each other over the years.

[Vevv123]

Yes, that's seems like a good sign. Then I think having this conversation is good, it gives both of you clarity and she won't feel like she pressured a response from you and you can kind of set expectations from there.

[Anonymous]

You have a child-like mentality. You are not ready for dating.

[Asker]

What makes you say that and draw that conclusion?

[Asker]

Sooo?