Should I feel resentful towards my family?

[Anonymous]

So for a backstory, I moved from Canada to Portugal when I was ten because of financial difficulties, I’m 16 now. The move there was extremely difficult because I didn’t know the language and Covid had just begun right after I arrived.
I was out of school and “homeschooling” up until mid 2022 so it was about two years I wasn’t getting a proper education.
I had an extremely difficult time in portuguese public school with bullying and other things that are expected when not knowing a the native language in a new school and on top of that I was held back two years because there was no record of education from the two prior years. I was VERY isolated from other kids at school and was not given help with schoolwork whatsoever for about three years. I barely passed the 5th, 6th and 7th grade.

last June I moved to France and my parents STILL haven’t enrolled me or my siblings in school despite us being obviously very unhappy staying home all week without friends, family or activities. I feel extremely isolated and stressed about this because I’m scared that because I wasn’t enrolled in school again this year that’s I’ll be held back yet again meaning that I’d be three years behind. Next year I’m supposed to be in 11th grade and I only have a record of finishing 7th. Me and my siblings have expressed multiple times how stressed we are about our education and my parents keep telling us not to worry and that they are looking at schools but we’ve been in France for almost a year now and still nothing has been done.

I’m worried about colleges and it’s very important to me that I get into a good one, the chances of me getting into college at all are extremely slim and I feel as if I’ve been set up for failure.
what should I do?

(my parents aren’t screwed up or abusive, they are great people. They just aren’t proactive)

sorry for the long read.

[Makeushiver]

If you try colleges known for their liberalism you have a better chance at getting them to understand your plight. You have a few things working in your favor. Your travel- even with the interference in school work will look good on an application. COVID ensured that many people in your age bracket will have some weirdness on their CVs.
Smaller schools where you stand a chance of getting to an interview are a better choice than larger schools that rely on scores and GPAs. Enrolling in a community college that has privileges with some of your target Unis might help in your situatioon & will definitely help save $. Don't be too worrid about acceptance at a prestigious school. Once you are actually in school transferring- if you have the grades etc. is easier than getting accepted in an incoming freshman class. It also gives you the chance to get to know instructors since classes are more likely to have 15 not 150 students. Once you're in check out where your instructors went. Often they will have worked at or attended some of the schools you want and cultivating a good relationship might get you a recommendation that would be a big help. Are you applying to European or US schools?

[jennifer_bloom]

I know more than one person who was delayed 6 years or more while doing their bachelors degree and the longer the delay and the older they were, the higher their grades were in comparison to the other students, because life experience and emotional maturity affects your grades.

My friend had a professor who spent 10 years doing his bachelors degree, but now that he was an educator at a top school, nobody is judging him for graduating college with a bachelors degree when he was 31 years old.

There is a very very famous Harvard professor who waited over 8 years to enrol in a professional program because he took ten years off formal education to work as a professional saxophone player with a school band. He began post high school education when he was almost 30 years old. Now, he is a professor at Harvard Business School and even 0prah has co-worked with him on projects because of his extreme skill and academic background.

[PeachyPie93]

Go talk to a school close by and enrol yourself. Your parents sound like idiots.

[Asker]

The online schools I live close to are private and French. I honestly don’t know what to do about this like they won’t even find me an online program to do

[Asker]

Only schools*

[PeachyPie93]

Then push them everyday about it because clearly they don't care..

[AI Opinion]

It sounds like you're in a really challenging situation, and feeling frustrated is completely understandable. Instead of feeling resentful, focus on taking proactive steps. Communicate openly with your parents about your concerns and the urgency you feel. Research local educational opportunities, such as online courses, local schooling options, or language courses that can help you catch up. Express your long-term goals and seek their support in achieving them. You might also consider reaching out to local community centers or online platforms for guidance. Prioritize learning and ensure you are proactive in your education journey.

[Heusus]

Actually, idc