How to cope with knowing you wasted your 20's while you see the younger succeed?

[blazerock44]

Im soon turning 27 and i feel like a big fail in life..
Not hating on my self but its true. I only enjoyed till primary school, the rest is spending energy living with social anxiety until i got no energy left to study..
I really wanted to be a good student and succeed and i had dreams even if i dont remember them now, i can say i was sort of a dreamer.

I also somewhat got bullied and that took all my self-esteem.
I went to industrial school because i heard it has less students and easier subjects, not because i wanted an easier route to engineering or whatever but just it felt easier on my anxiety thats all.
Then i went to college as a computer engineer and i finished it with no friends or whatever and i also didn't learn anything.. again due to being scared and how to spend lunch break with my self mostly.. i forgot about learning and leveling myself
so i can say i have zero experience..
And no friends.. and got nothing to do..
At 27..
I see students 18 19 years going to college and medical field and etc..
I just wished i was like that..
Especially a girl i like i see her pass and went to study medicine and really disciplined and motivated with her life..

Now its been about 3 years as a cashier in a supermarket..
Really miserable and the circle at work is just.. not my type with no degree and no hobbies and nothing to achieve other than talking about woman and f@king them
and i feel im better than them, i want a life.. but i dont know how..

I wasted the best decade of life.. i know there are people worse than me and older.. but.. I don't know

[PeachyPie93]

Talk to a doctor about your anxiety nothing holds you back more and makes you waste your life more than anxiety does. Don't feel you wasted your time tho, look at JK Rowling she didn't get her first published until she was 31, lots of people don't become who they want to be until their 30's or people change their minds and do something else later. Don't try to force or rush things, its all good lol.

[exitseven]

Okay, You can never relive those years. I am usually the last person to tell you to seek counseling but you may get some benefit from it. 27 is still young, you have a long way to go. I do not understand how you went to college and graduated without learning anything. You have the degree and that is worth a lot. You can find an entry level job in computer engineering. There is still high demand in that field.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[AviatorTom]

I didn't waste my 20s.

If you think you're wasting your 20s, turn things around... don't waste what's left of your 20s, and enjoy your 30s.

[Abbycado]

You have three years, THREE YEARS, left in your twenties. Get motivated.

[AI Opinion]

I understand your feelings, and it's important to recognize that 27 is still young. Many find new directions in their careers and lives in their late 20s and beyond. What matters is taking small, positive steps towards change. Start by identifying areas of interest or skills you'd like to develop. Consider seeking professional help to address social anxiety if possible. Remember, no experience is truly wasted; your unique path contributes to who you are. You have time to explore new opportunities and create the life you desire. Stay patient and compassionate with yourself. Life is a continuum of learning and growth.

[GuybrushFunkwadd]

My 20s were my most productive years

[Anonymous]

It's not easy, I know how you feel.

[theautomemoriesdozz]

I cry every day