I was born in 2001 and I have no idea how its 2022 and I'm going to be 21 soon. it feels like the last memory I have is from 2019, how can it be 2022 now lol.
Most newschool rappers are now younger than me, most lead actors in netflix are now all 2000 to 2004 kids. I'm going to be a 21 years old female and I have never ever had a boyfriend in my life nor a best friend. That's crazy. I wasted my best years at home watching netflix and reading fanfictions because of my anti-social personality.
It feels like dealing with such a natural thing as aging would be a lot more easier if I was an outgoing person. Like when I try to remember my 19th age, all I can remember is the studies I've done and the movies I've watched in this year. I didn't really make memories. I can't get over this. How do you deal with it?
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How do you deal with getting old, especially when you believe you wasted your young years?
I try to do more—massive action❤️I’m the same age as you, but I make sure to have an adequate amount to show for it (all the traditional things). I’m going to college, living on my own, have reliable transportation, have moved out of my hometown, have thousands in savings, I pay all my own bills, help out with my family’s finances and am working full time. Once you’re 20 & have accomplished the basic, traditional stuff you can move onto improving yourself as a young adult.🌺 Learn to balance your life: spiritual connectivity to yourself & others, work to master your emotions & develop emotional maturity, critique your flaws/improve them gradually, as well as to fine-tune your positive attributes. Once you’ve done the inner work you can focus on external flaws/the things that make you unhappy, perhaps: bad hygiene, unfashionable clothes, plain hair? The things that when you look at yourself, you don’t feel so great about. I suppose, once you’ve worked on yourself & feel an adequate level of confidence and satisfaction with who you are, you can advance to planning for the future.😍 It makes no sense to dwindle & play the nostalgia card on what you spent your time on in the past… but what does make sense is to focus on where you want to go in this life & what you’d like to do. What drives you? Where do you want to be in 5, maybe 10 years? We can’t reverse the clock, but we can certainly make it work for us, not against us. You’re not old, you just don’t have direction in your life😉 Until I disciplined myself enough to get my act together, I felt the same way. Like time was passing me by, but when your actively start living your life, you’ll be able to account for that time & feel more accomplished about being where you are.
You got this.🥰 It wasn’t easy to accomplish what I have so far, & tbh I’m still not where I’d like to be. I’m at the phase of working on my inside & outside feminine presence. For whatever you are going through, I am sending love & positive vibes. You will get there, you just have to map out your future goals… & then get to work!
Okay, let me say this to you: right now you are not old, you are still young - very, very young. Hold on to that and take advantage of being 20 or 21 while you still are and have fun with your life. Don't waste it. Right now there are god knows how many people waking up with joint pain and crow's feet and experiencing all kinds of time-related horrors, but you are still okay. I'm turning an ancient 32 and get told I'm old all the time by young people. But even I'm not.
It's common for people to reminisce. Since they can't clearly see their future, all their clarity comes from their past. I remember being a student at UCLA in the late 60s. I recall hearing people say "Don't trust anyone over 30." None of those people will ever see 30 again. 20 years from now, you'll look back at being 21 and focus on how positive that time was.
Getting older is just something that happens. It's not something we control. It's a whole lot better than the alternative. Learn to savor the opportunities you have right now, as you'll move on to new opportunities and leave these in the dust. People often disappoint themselves by focusing on the destination and not taking time to savor the journey. Savor your journey and enjoy life. Focus on opportunities rather than what you choose to pass by.
There are new possibilities everyday. If you feel that you "wasted" your early years, then change your behavior pattern. We were all young and dumb at some point. Most people grow out of it. There are parts of getting older that aren't all that great, you start to lose muscle mass no matter how hard you try not to, thing start to hurt or get stiff that didn't use to you start forgetting things. Your eye site and hearing can start to diminish. So what may seem like fun when you are young, may come back to haunt you when you get older. You might want those body parts to work when you get older. But usually you are more settled, make more money, you can travel more. Like everything there are plusses and minuses.
I mean, I thought you were going to tell us that you were 40 or something.
I mean, you're 20 years old, and complaining about getting old. Jeez.
Anyway, you've still got at least 5 years left of 'stupid youth'. Get out there and enjoy. Lamenting the past isn't going to bring it back. All you can do is live fully and courageously from the present moment.
Go to see that's the whole thing nothing is wasted you right where you're supposed to be otherwise you would have changed it believe me you were learning something each and every day so don't got that is the negative counted as a positive no matter what you lived through it you did it so it's a positive I wish when I was walking in the backyard I would have taken a right instead of a left I went to step to the dogshit but it happens so what's the moral of the story pick up dog shit before you walk back in the back LOL I'm just using that as a metaphor I don't even have a dog I wish I did But anyway be happy for what you got what you did what you've done look at all the young people today they are not going to have a life at all if our politicians keep doing what they're doing so believe me experience all that you can experience whether it's positive or negative I mean have some fun while you're young before you have to get really serious
I’m getting close to 30 and I feel like I’m getting old but everyone around me says wait till you’re 40. I feel like you can be active for a really long time if you exercise often, eat a balanced diet and take care of your mental health. Also, travel often. I wish I could travel more.
Eat less processed food. Things like that affect your skin. i am 31 in a couple of months, and people think I am 22. no joke. so I am not even concerned about turning 31 because I still look in my early 20s.
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Saaaaame i'm gonna be 20 this year and i feel like i wasted my youth and teenage years alone and depressed. I had no boyfriends too bc i'm shy even tho ik i'm beautiful and i take care of myself but i always ignore biys bc i become anxious around them. Also u have no friends and the only thing that is stopping me now from changing is my mental health. Feeling lost
Deal with it by realizing you are still young and you didn’t waste your best years, just the awkward teenage ones. Your best years are still ahead of you.
Yup I feel that way to because I'm surrounded by older people at work. And I feel like I'm at middle age crisis like them. Change your surroundings. Do different things Find a new hobby. That way you'll meet new people and make new memories.
ahaha, It's not the remaining time I worry about, it's the time I've already wasted. Although I think we all wasted the last 2 years one way or another due to pandemic
but its women who rule relationships before 30. after 30, men take the power. My mom rejected all the perfect guys in her 20's and married my dad when she was 35. Even the worst guy she rejected in her 20's was better than my dad. I dont wanna end up like my mom
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