I had a back and forth with a recruiter this afternoon, was I in the wrong or not?

[Anonymous]

I asked for pre-screening so I don't waste my time coming for a interview and getting rejected due to misunderstanding which could've been found before a face to face interview on the call. Tell me honest truth so I can handle conflict better.

[BadApple69]

As a person who has interviewed people before I would say that you did handle it wrong. If I was the person you were corresponding with, I would think you are not very interested in the job. If you were you would jump through hoops to get it. You didn’t even want to waste your time to go for the interview.
When you are the one trying to get the job it should be “yes sir”, “no sir”, “what time would you like me there sir”.
Yes you kiss a little ass to get what you want, and what you want is a job.

[Asker]

I get you, thanks for your reply, I just felt more defensive cuz I'm the past my managers have walked all over me after being compliant.

[BadApple69]

I never said once in the position you need to be compliment. Personally I am a pain in my boss’s ass. But he knows I am very good at what I do. You need to get the position first and that’s when you need to be extra nice.

[AviatorTom]

You could have handled it better. The recruiter made it clear they don't do telephone call pre-screening. That you don't want to waste your time on an interview is a red flag to companies. It indicates that you care more about your time than theirs, which is not the kind of person they are looking for.

In the future, if you are really interested in finding a good job, follow the employer's (or their recruiter's) process. You'll have a better chance for success that way.

[Asker]

Thank you this is the best answer so far, I don't mind following their procedure but I have been met with rejection in the past where recruiters didn't clarify certain requirements beforehand which is a waste of time and travel money.

[DishLady]

Clearly "prescreening" was an unknown term to the other person.

Next time explain the problematic term instead of dragging things out like this.

The rule for politely dissipating confusion is to stick with the three-click rule. If you text twice and the person does not seem to understand the main term then you pop an alternative definition of the term into the third message. NEVER drag things out like this. It makes YOU sound hostile.

[Asker]

Thank you I'm learning to handle things better so appreciate your hp

[Asker]

Help*

[DishLady]

NP. I think when we're young and just starting out with Admin duties things like this are just naturally frustrating. (If it helps, I'm trying to coach this one gorilla of a guy to be more mindful and diplomatic when he addresses people.)

[AI Opinion]

It's reasonable to request a pre-screening to ensure alignment and avoid misunderstandings. Open communication with recruiters helps clarify expectations and saves time for both parties. Your approach reflects a proactive mindset, seeking clarity before committing to an interview. Handling conflicts involves maintaining professionalism, understanding different perspectives, and fostering open dialogue. Keep honing these skills to ensure effective interactions in your career.

[Anonymous]

It was a clear misunderstanding, nothing you can do about it.

[Anonymous]

You are correct, they made a mistake. But you became combative way too easily.

[AngryCarl2]

You done fucked up.

[seeyounexttuesday]

lol, you sound like a cunt.