Why does one of the coworkers only talk to my three coworkers accept me?

[Anonymous]

I never understood why some people don’t walk to me. I’m kind, funny, lovable and honest. One of my coworkers (let’s call her Maya) I think she’s seems cool but I don’t talk to her much. Maya does great me back when I say hi but she doesn’t really talk to me as much as my three coworkers. Some of my coworkers know I’m autistic. Not everyone does. I don’t know if it’s because I’m autistic if that’s the reason why she doesn’t speak to me. Maya only speaks to my three coworkers that I work with. She gives them hugs and talks to them but never me. When I speak she doesn’t look at me or ignores what I say. My boss won’t even look at me. She knows I’m at work but come on! This happens every time I have a job. It happened in school like middle school and high school. When I say hi to Maya, she’ll say hi and quickly talk to the others. She only speak to me when she needs something or when it’s work related. The others she interacts. It pretty much hurt. She once got irritated when I didn’t get the question or point she was asking. She was like, “Ugh! Forget it! I’m going to something that will actually understand better than you. No offense.” She’s very blunt too.
I’m usually a very likable person and it hurts when someone ignores me or doesn’t interact with me. I would think everyone will like me or adore me because of my good nature. I don’t understand why Maya would speak or others but not me?

[AI Opinion]

It can be challenging when we feel excluded or misunderstood, especially in professional settings. Sometimes, individuals may unintentionally distance themselves due to misunderstandings or lack of awareness about autism. You might consider having an open conversation with Maya, sharing that you'd like to communicate more effectively. Sometimes, such discussions foster understanding and inclusion. Additionally, reflecting on specific interactions that went well might provide insights into making connections. Remember, building meaningful relationships takes time, and not every interaction defines your worth or capabilities. Surround yourself with supportive colleagues and continue being the genuine person you are.

[Clear_Skies10]

You can't force relationships, some people are just stuck up and cliquey. Don't bother trying to figure out what their problem is. Just do your own thing and be happy.

[Asker]

Maybe. I don’t interact with Maya much so I don’t know why it’s upsetting me. My three coworkers talk to me like everyone else. Why can’t Maya do the same thing. People always stops speaking to me as soon as they find out I’m autistic or special needs.

[Clear_Skies10]

Maya sounds like a bitch for lack of a better word. Be thankful that she leaves you alone.

[Asker]

I guess so. It sucks feeling left out. Even I’m left out around my cousins in my family. They won’t talk to me.

[Clear_Skies10]

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you find some friends that treat you better.

[WhitneySnow]

Sadly I think it’s because you’re autistic

[Asker]

I knew it! This ALWAYS happens to me! I don’t understand! This is why I should just stick with only autistic or other special needs people! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Why can’t people just give me a chance?

[WhitneySnow]

I’m so sorry. That’s awful that they don’t treat you nicely.

[Asker]

So am I. What am I supposed to do? I give up meeting new people. I don’t tell people I’m autistic and I get angry at my parents or family members that tell people I’m autistic.

[WhitneySnow]

How did your coworkers find out?

[Asker]

I guess one of my other coworkers told her I don’t know

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t tell anyone till you’re really close friends with them

[Asker]

Exactly. I don’t tell people.

[WhitneySnow]

How did your other coworkers find out?

[Asker]

I don’t KNOW

[WhitneySnow]

I’m sorry. Wish I had some better advice for you.

[Asker]

I wish I didn’t have it

[WhitneySnow]

I totally get it. I have very good friends who are autistic.

[Asker]

That’s cool. At least you gave them a chance. I should just stick with other autistic people or neurodiversity. I can see why my parents prefer me to have other autistic friends and to have someone to relate to because neurotypical peers treat me like crap, ignore me and push me away. They were mean.