Do you think people without social media are insecure?

Question

With social media I mean Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat etc.

I was talking about this with some people in class today. People on social media always try to show the great life they have, and some people can feel lonely and insecure by looking at other people’s highlights. And some people don’t get enough likes as their friends which can also make them insecure.

So they rather not have any social media.

LuckyEnough · Accepted Answer

Sooo... you're claiming that people without their face constantly pressed to a screen, constantly forcing people to hear even the tiniest most mundane garbage, are the ones who are insecure? That because they are so pathetic they choose to avoid social media, so as to avoid loneliness and rejection?

First. I use ZERO social media, except this site, which I'm quickly coming to hate too. I have a very high self esteem. High enough on fact that that i do not need the support of faceless others I met once and friended on a website to feel better. I feel important enough in my life, and those around me, that those people show me my worth plenty.

Second. It seems to me people on social media are the lonely, desperate, rejection fearing ones. Why else forcefeed the world every trivial thing that occurs in your life. People mock them and say"like anyone cares what cereal you had", but I ask this, "how lonely and desperate for others approval are you, that you need someone to agree that capt crunch is great, and you made a good decision on cereal choice".

Ultimately, social media is designed to be a tool for tricking ones self. You can lie to yourself, and the world about anything. Make yourself anyone, claim to have any career, any income, own better cars, have a better mate, or one at all. If no one knows, or questions it, it might be true, and you might feel like you matter.

rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

I know for some people that is the reason why. I've had friends that deleted their social media, because they said it made them feel insecure about their own life compared to others. I wouldn't say that's the bulk of people that don't have social media, but I do know that definitely does exist for some of them.

Alice2398 · Accepted Answer

Definitely not in most cases but one of the reasons I don't use social media is because I can't imagine people would care and I don't like many pictures of myself as well but I'm also a very private person and don't care that much what people I hardly talk to face to face are up to, if your not in my life and I don't speak to you there's a great chance it's because I'm not interested nor do I care unfortunately.

I actually think many people who use social media are the one who are really insecure they constantly seek others approval and feel the need to share internment parts of their life with people they hardly know just for attention

Apricity · Accepted Answer

I have friends who go on social media and post the best of their lives. Vacations, gifts, parties, all of it, but knowing them in person, they're miserable, in marriage counseling, horrible relationships, you name it. The people I know who don't have social media, for lack of better words, seem above all that. They don't care if people like how they look, they don't feel the need to brag, and a red heart icon from dozens or hundreds of complete strangers doesn't mean anything to them. Social media is a huge problem in a lot of people's lives.

blubblubblub · Accepted Answer

Youve got it mixed up, its the ones with social media that are insecure. Those who dont show that their self worth isn't dependant on what they showcase, or on how many likes they get. Their self esteem is already secure. (speaking generally anywho) When people post on social media, its about them making sure the world thinks a certain way about them, most are insecure and feel as if they need to prove themselves, they need validation or "certain number of likes". Those without simply don't care about how many likes they get.

MindYourEyes · Accepted Answer

Some people can be and want to look like they have the best life/looks/ friends and so on. and some people aren’t. I know I don’t have social media besides gag because I like having privacy, I don’t want to see what they are doing and all. I’d rather them tell me about themselves or share with me with what they want. Plus I believe if someone wants to get to know me, they have to talk to me and actually take the time to get to hear me talk. Not swipe up and down on my account. Fuck social media’s xD

Kai02 · Accepted Answer

I dont have much social media because I'd rather spend my time watching tv or whatever. Thr only social media i have are the ones my friends practically forced me to get and i literally never use them... Ever

Im insecure but thats not Why i dont use social media. Excluding gag, most just bore me tbh

ManOnFire · Answer

I actually think it can be the opposite. That people who are heavy with social media and displaying their lives, photos, and relationships so much are looking for love and validation online where in their real life they actually are insecure, empty, or doubt themselves.

Almosthopelesscase · Answer

All the evidence is that people who close their social media find their happiness and mental health improve. Yes, some people can handle the distorted view of reality that social media provides but for a lot of people it affects them whether they realise it or not. Those that choose not to use it are generally far less insecure than those that do - after all they have left the herd which takes some doing. But I don't imagine all non users are secure in themselves and all social media users are insecure. It isn't that clear cut.

Levin · Answer

I mean, yeah, behind any violent reaction to anything, there is usually insecurity.

Haven't said that, social media kind of makes you a whore. Trembling or having your ego bashed because you're not getting enough attention, and whoring yourself and being provocative so you can get it. Plus there's the undeniable all around inanity of peoples' stupid posts and mindless drivel in the first place.

Being social and social media are two separate things. Rationally, the only good thing about social media is the odd inspirational post, and the fact that it can facilitate real world mingling. But in reality, it mostly falls very short and makes even more detached from one another. Old cliche, people would rather stare at their phone screen than talk to the person next to them.

StrangerByTheDay · Answer

As matter of fact dear, I just deactivated most of my accounts, and I have started with FB.
I have not been using it 1 to 5 minutes every month.
It became useless for me.
Besides, you described people with good life. How about people who keep on posting pictures selling their bodies, duck faces, breasts, behinds, showing off their car, etc?
Yet, those meaningless videos loading everywhere, draining the phone battery, and consuming our data for nothing?

For many reasons like that I have decided to deactivate most of them and keep using this simple G@G :-D

LesterJester · Answer

Likes and knowing every useless thing everybody does is not a priority for everyone.

Some people prefer the old fashion way of communication... Talking face to face.

The only reason I have Facebook, Skype and Messenger is for keeping in touch with my family halfway around the world. And unless I am tagged in something, I don't really use Facebook, let alone scroll through it for hours on end.

It has nothing to do with being insecure, I just don't care. If something is important for me to know, I am sure the other person will get in touch and tell me personally.

I don't require play by plays of everyone's life.

I tried Instagram and its just a light version of Facebook where I see pretty much the same information, except I tend to see more pictures of people's food or selfies with duck lips.

Twitter is also a bit useless. I just don't see the point in most social media, But to each their own.

Cammy137 · Answer

I think people with social media are more insecure. I don't have it because I have no desire to temporarily inflate my ego by sharing where I am and what im doing.
Social media is nothing more than a statment saying "look how interesting my life is" and I have no desire to indulge in such petty and egotistical practices.

420Rachel · Answer

I don't have Facebook or Twitter or Instagram or anything else really. The only reason I have this is because this is a site based on giving opinions and advice and that's the appeal I find in this app. Everything else is about showing off and being conceited basically. Doesn't always happen that way with everyone but I'd rather not let myself get sucked into that lol. If my friends want to contact me they have my phone number :P

Moonchild714 · Answer

No they are stronger and smarter than those who do use Social Media. Social Media actually is more of a Depressant than Alcohol and other substances. Mental Health has declined tremendously with those who use these platforms. I know so many people that gave up their SM accts and saw such a boost in their demeanor and Mental State.

Handsome_cowboy · Answer

I think its the opposite. I went until i was 19 before i finally got an instagram. I only got it because my cousin was trying to hook me up with this girl and told me to get it. Nothing came of it and I've considered deleting it but i do enjoy keeping up with everyone.
Anyway. I think that people who dont have social media arebthe most secure because they dont have to have other peoples "likes" or attention. However those who are on SM need the attention to feed their insecurities. They are relying on other people to give them their confidence.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

I'm pretty secure with myself honestly. I can't think of insecurities, even those that a video said all men have. I think they're silly. Social media isn't really needed. I live my life the way I want in peace. Single with my 2 dogs. Not having social media only prevents me from sharing pics of the food i cooked, how my dogs are really great, and how my home looks. I also don't like taking pictures or being in them, so yeah. Not photogenic, but aside from that, no one really needs social media other than staying in contact with people, which I have a phone I basically pay $100 a month for Lmfao.

SpiderBro · Answer

I just find it boring. I do have social media that I never use but didn’t delete. But when I did go on them I didn’t care about what other people who weren’t affecting me were doing with their lives. And I think they wouldn’t care what I’m doing with my life. So posting selfies and shit is pointless.

tartaarsaus · Answer

Not necessarily. Not having social media can also stem from a) not wanting to share stuff from their lives on the internet, b) thinking the social media sites are garbage (e. g. Facebook), c) thinking it is too time consuming, d) they find it difficult to use and e) they are insecure.

Yes, insecure can be a reason but it's not the absolute reason why people don't have social media.

CINDY16 · Answer

i had social media facebook instagram, when i posted something i got more likes than i expected like in de 200+, i broke my phone and so i haven't used social media in a long time and now that i have a new one, i dont really feel like using it anymore kinda got bored of it so i decided to delete all my photos and keep my life private now, same with snapchat

JSmuve · Answer

No, I don't think so. Insecurity exists whether you have social media or not. You could make the argument that those who need to post constantly are insecure because they need the constant validation from 'likes' and comments. You could also make the argument that those who don't get 'likes' and positive comments compared to everyone else will eventually get insecure and leave social media. So it goes both ways.

pasoccer · Answer

The insecure people tend to flock to the things everyone else does so they fit in.
From my experience, the people without social media are sick of social media, don't like the idea of social media, or aren't a fan of letting out any personal information on the internet.

happyhippo · Answer

The only reason I have Facebook is because I made it as I was 13 and now almost all the contracts I have with people are saved there. Don't have Instagram or Snapchat, not because I'm insecure, but because I don't like everyone knowing what I'm doing. I don't think people without social media in general are insecure, even the opposite. It's just their understanding of things.

Comawhite666 · Answer

If anything then people who don't use it at all or rarely do are the most confident. They don't need to show off their lives and seek validation. I have a friend who is always posting photos of herself and things she's up to and wants attention all the time on there~she's super insecure in reality.

superduperstarr · Answer

I think the more you have "social" media the less social you are as in out there meeting people. You maybe popular on the web, but real life physical friends and interactions are what being social is all about. I think that if you are multi social media platforming that you are less secure and need those "friends" and "likes" to help ease your insecurities.

AlexEfron · Answer

I don't use many social media (only Facebook and G@G) and I don't feel insecure.
It's not insecurity that stops me from using other social media...
1. I NEED a LIFE to live
2. I don't have unlimited time
3. Some social media are pointless - Instagram (if you ask me)
4. I'm not the person who loves to brag. So no point shooting off and boasting. (plus I'm a guy... I got nothing to show off... Flat chest 😂)
5. Privacy

MusicMayhem · Answer

Ummm what? It's the other way around.

Whenever I start dating or msging a girl that likes me she gets really insistent on having my fb. Obviously she wants to stalk my fb so she can see if I'm talking to other girls. If that's not insecure I don't know what is.

Pegases · Answer

This is an odd question. I don't understand your logic. Anyway, social media has become the very best thing known to narcissists. Thus, I thought it was common knowledge that the opposite is true. That many people were either already insecure, or have become insecure because of social media. Obviously this isn't the case for everyone, but it seems like a natural response to what social media venues such as Instagram have become.

Amanda__Murphy · Answer

No they most likely have actually more confidence because they probably haven’t better social skills and there are been studies so show that social media has become very addictive and that actually releases some sort of chemical in your brain that make you feel loved when people message you and unloved when they don’t

Trisha13 · Answer

I think it's the total opposite. People with social media post to have praise and likes heaped on them. They need validation because there's something missing in their life. People who don't have social media are content and happy and don't need the validation of strangers. Plus, anyone with a flawless social media page is lying anyway ❤️

Just_Me89 · Answer

I'd be more likely to think that people who are constantly on social media, posting selfies every 5mins and statuses, photos etc etc about how wonderful their lives are have lower self-esteem. If you have high self-esteem, you don't need to constantly show people a highlights reel of your life for them to 'like' and comment on.

Silver158 · Answer

No actually, I'd say they are probably the most secure people around. Not requiring to display their lives and looks for the validation of their peers and just doing what they like. I mean look at facebook, instagram and the like. full of selfies and people desperate for likes.

CarpetDenim · Answer

I don’t think they are insecure. Personally I don’t have any social media and it’s simply because I have no interest in broadcasting my life to everyone I know.

Anonymous · Answer

It would be idiotic to say ALL people who doesn't have social media are insecure. No my grandparents don't know how to use computer, they are not insecure. Some people are on social media because they are insecure, they need likes and a lot of "friends" and show off nice pictures to boost their ego because they feel unworthy if they didn't. Many people are on social media because they feel they miss out if they are not, that is form of insecurity.

coconutjuice00 · Answer

No, I wouldn't consider them being insecure
I have friends who don't have any social platforms but are confident and super smart
When asking them, they'd tell me it's unnecessary and a waste of time sooo

cancan73 · Answer

I think the people with FB etc who only show you the "perfect" life they lead are the ones who are insecure, normal people like me aren't on it cause we don't give a shit what they had for dinner.
I want to see all the funny, embarrassing, bad bits, then I might be interested in looking at what they're upto

ArmadilloKing · Answer

Everyone is of course different and insecurity is something you can overcome and also something you can never face both with social media and without. Tbh your classmates not having social media because they are scared of being insecure makes them insecure about themselves. The way to overcome it is to face it head on and not be upset that people are better than you and use that as a reason to try and be better than them.

007James007 · Answer

I havnt had social media in 5 years now ☺

I dont need it because im always outside doing things and hanging with friends or chillin with girls or with my motorcycle group. And i simply dont have time for it either. I find it annoying and pointless.

I dont need to upload drama posts about nonsense or read goofy crap or care about what on there. Id rather enjoy real life

Astoriana · Answer

No, I don't.

I find it questionable when someone has no online presence at all, especially if they're a young person. What are they hiding?

Even if it's just an Instagram account that you haven't used since 2013, that's something.

Shoenron · Answer

On the contrary, people not having social media are more confident than most people on it. Think about it, they are so confident that they are impervious to peer pressure. They don't have to fake a life a chase likes to feel good about themselves.

archiz · Answer

No no doesn t have to be relatable at all.
Also moat if social media s stoeiws are overrated and exaggerated
It s mainly artificial hence a display of insecurity and need of validation like yo I am cool.
But really it can go both ways. Someone can be active displaying his achievements and all which I din t dind wrong at all and it s good for business

mrsterlingarcher · Answer

I don't think people who HAVE social media are insecure, but I KNOW people who overuse it are.

000_000 · Answer

I feel like people who are obsessed with social media are a hell of a lot more insecure than those without it. But hey, it’s there for people to enjoy so if you like it use it if you don’t no worries

Muhfucah · Answer

Not at all. I bet they're secure as fuck with who they are because social media is literally just validation and attention seeking.

Balcazaurus · Answer

Everyone is insecure about something.

But I think people with little to no social media are happier than those who do.

They're out living their lives as opposed to sharing it with everyone to show how happy they are.

wankiam · Answer

total opposite for many. i dont feel the need for constant affirmation so i dont use farcebook. some may not want to be judged so avoid it but i think the percentages are more in my favour

Potatocream · Answer

I think they are the opposite, they don't care what other people think and don't bother with seeing other people's. The majority of people IK don't and it's great as they're better to reach actually, if you wanna chill you text them real quick and head over and talk irl

AquaBoo · Answer

Not I don't think so. Most people who have social media any are pompous. They only show the good olabout themselves. People who don't have social media simply don't care for watching that.

Kuraj · Answer

Lol, I think the insecure people are the ones frequenting social media. I don't broadcast my life simply because I don't care about anyone knowing about it.

Outofthegrey · Answer

I don't have social media because I don't care what other people do, and don't need to put up a highlight real of my life for others to see.

yucel_eden · Answer

It can come down from insecurity.

But it does not have to.

It can be because they do not like showing off and do not need another person gratification to feel good. It could be because they are secure with themselves

OpenWine · Answer

yea I didn't get many likes but that doesn't mean my life sucks. I just don't like the to constantly be confronted with other peoples lifes since mine is about as interesting if not less.
also I don't want people to get too easy acces into mine.

JonDoe1985 · Answer

No. I actually praise people who are able to keep away from it. People went without social media up until about 20 years ago. Before then, we actually had to talk to people. People without social media, unless they own a business, are probably better off than the rest of us. A

Astria · Answer

I think many on social media seek validation. Those who are secure really don't care about likes, believe it or not. They don't care about what other people think of them.

Ironlak282 · Answer

Obviously people on social media would have their own insecurities. Unpopular to say but the ones who lack the confidence to even put up an account and are socially withdrawn obviously are insecure. I would know I didn't have social media until I was older than everyone I knew.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don’t think they are insecure , i just think they don't want involved with drama that comes with social media.

ImShyGuy · Answer

Are these poll for elementary students?

There are tons of reasons why people don't have social media accounts... Some don't want their lives posted all over the internet. Some had accounts but decided to delete after. Some just don't understand the whole thing... Etc. Why is the question limited to being insecure as the answer?

Lynzerilee · Answer

I think they have more self-confidence and sense of life than some other people whose lives are limited to the amount of time they spend on SM and the approval they get on anything and everything they choose to show other people.

Anonymous · Answer

Most of what is shown on social media of other peoples lives is bullshit anyway. Even how you phrased it shows on some level you already know this ''looking at other people’s highlights''

When you are secure, you feel less of a need to show off...

loveshorro · Answer

Some people just really don’t care for posting there entire life on social media. I know people that just have no interest in it or just don’t care for it at all

chrisv · Answer

The opposite. I think they don’t NEED a crutch to be happy or exist socially.. I think they are stronger people because of that

SoTight · Answer

I think people who do not have social media are certainly not insecure. I do not have it because I find it such a pain to keep up with, and ultimately it makes my life easier without it. So people don't think that you're ignoring them.

Steve37 · Answer

I think just the opposite. Those that feel the need to share every positive moment in their lives on social media are the insecure ones. A person that can take pleasure in their own thoughts and memories without the need of showing the world what they've done are the most secure.

ninaknows · Answer

Many times they are more secure because they don't need to fit in with everyone else. Insecure people are most likely to do what everyone else does. So definitely no, I think is shows how secure a person is.

Noora1 · Answer

I’m not insecure, I just don't like wasting my precious time on those places.

Michel16 · Answer

It's maybe not because they are insecure, it can be because they don't want to take their time to be in a virtual world and they only look for the real world to live by.

AriRose · Answer

Not necessarily, I have no social media and I’m doing fine😄

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