Do you think people without social media are insecure?

[omgjassy]

With social media I mean Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat etc.

I was talking about this with some people in class today. People on social media always try to show the great life they have, and some people can feel lonely and insecure by looking at other people’s highlights. And some people don’t get enough likes as their friends which can also make them insecure.

So they rather not have any social media.

I think they are insecure

I don’t think they are insecure

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+1 y

I don’t think having social media makes you insecure, that’s such a cliche.

[LuckyEnough]

Sooo... you're claiming that people without their face constantly pressed to a screen, constantly forcing people to hear even the tiniest most mundane garbage, are the ones who are insecure? That because they are so pathetic they choose to avoid social media, so as to avoid loneliness and rejection?

First. I use ZERO social media, except this site, which I'm quickly coming to hate too. I have a very high self esteem. High enough on fact that that i do not need the support of faceless others I met once and friended on a website to feel better. I feel important enough in my life, and those around me, that those people show me my worth plenty.

Second. It seems to me people on social media are the lonely, desperate, rejection fearing ones. Why else forcefeed the world every trivial thing that occurs in your life. People mock them and say"like anyone cares what cereal you had", but I ask this, "how lonely and desperate for others approval are you, that you need someone to agree that capt crunch is great, and you made a good decision on cereal choice".

Ultimately, social media is designed to be a tool for tricking ones self. You can lie to yourself, and the world about anything. Make yourself anyone, claim to have any career, any income, own better cars, have a better mate, or one at all. If no one knows, or questions it, it might be true, and you might feel like you matter.

[rjroy3]

I know for some people that is the reason why. I've had friends that deleted their social media, because they said it made them feel insecure about their own life compared to others. I wouldn't say that's the bulk of people that don't have social media, but I do know that definitely does exist for some of them.

[Alice2398]

Definitely not in most cases but one of the reasons I don't use social media is because I can't imagine people would care and I don't like many pictures of myself as well but I'm also a very private person and don't care that much what people I hardly talk to face to face are up to, if your not in my life and I don't speak to you there's a great chance it's because I'm not interested nor do I care unfortunately.

I actually think many people who use social media are the one who are really insecure they constantly seek others approval and feel the need to share internment parts of their life with people they hardly know just for attention

[Apricity]

I have friends who go on social media and post the best of their lives. Vacations, gifts, parties, all of it, but knowing them in person, they're miserable, in marriage counseling, horrible relationships, you name it. The people I know who don't have social media, for lack of better words, seem above all that. They don't care if people like how they look, they don't feel the need to brag, and a red heart icon from dozens or hundreds of complete strangers doesn't mean anything to them. Social media is a huge problem in a lot of people's lives.

[blubblubblub]

Youve got it mixed up, its the ones with social media that are insecure. Those who dont show that their self worth isn't dependant on what they showcase, or on how many likes they get. Their self esteem is already secure. (speaking generally anywho) When people post on social media, its about them making sure the world thinks a certain way about them, most are insecure and feel as if they need to prove themselves, they need validation or "certain number of likes". Those without simply don't care about how many likes they get.

[MindYourEyes]

Some people can be and want to look like they have the best life/looks/ friends and so on. and some people aren’t. I know I don’t have social media besides gag because I like having privacy, I don’t want to see what they are doing and all. I’d rather them tell me about themselves or share with me with what they want. Plus I believe if someone wants to get to know me, they have to talk to me and actually take the time to get to hear me talk. Not swipe up and down on my account. Fuck social media’s xD

[Kai02]

I dont have much social media because I'd rather spend my time watching tv or whatever. Thr only social media i have are the ones my friends practically forced me to get and i literally never use them... Ever

Im insecure but thats not Why i dont use social media. Excluding gag, most just bore me tbh

[ManOnFire]

I actually think it can be the opposite. That people who are heavy with social media and displaying their lives, photos, and relationships so much are looking for love and validation online where in their real life they actually are insecure, empty, or doubt themselves.

[Surely]

Totally agree. Take social media away from the people that use it and then see how insecure they really are. The ones that don't use it, don't miss it.

[ManOnFire]

@Surely True indeed. I used to know people who thought they're important enough to display themselves, when they just work at a bank in a grocery store! Lol!

[MrNameless]

agreed. Though some genuinely do have a good social life and they will make others on social media feel like they are missing out too.

[Almosthopelesscase]

All the evidence is that people who close their social media find their happiness and mental health improve. Yes, some people can handle the distorted view of reality that social media provides but for a lot of people it affects them whether they realise it or not. Those that choose not to use it are generally far less insecure than those that do - after all they have left the herd which takes some doing. But I don't imagine all non users are secure in themselves and all social media users are insecure. It isn't that clear cut.

[Levin]

I mean, yeah, behind any violent reaction to anything, there is usually insecurity.

Haven't said that, social media kind of makes you a whore. Trembling or having your ego bashed because you're not getting enough attention, and whoring yourself and being provocative so you can get it. Plus there's the undeniable all around inanity of peoples' stupid posts and mindless drivel in the first place.

Being social and social media are two separate things. Rationally, the only good thing about social media is the odd inspirational post, and the fact that it can facilitate real world mingling. But in reality, it mostly falls very short and makes even more detached from one another. Old cliche, people would rather stare at their phone screen than talk to the person next to them.

[StrangerByTheDay]

As matter of fact dear, I just deactivated most of my accounts, and I have started with FB.
I have not been using it 1 to 5 minutes every month.
It became useless for me.
Besides, you described people with good life. How about people who keep on posting pictures selling their bodies, duck faces, breasts, behinds, showing off their car, etc?
Yet, those meaningless videos loading everywhere, draining the phone battery, and consuming our data for nothing?

For many reasons like that I have decided to deactivate most of them and keep using this simple G@G :-D

[LesterJester]

Likes and knowing every useless thing everybody does is not a priority for everyone.

Some people prefer the old fashion way of communication... Talking face to face.

The only reason I have Facebook, Skype and Messenger is for keeping in touch with my family halfway around the world. And unless I am tagged in something, I don't really use Facebook, let alone scroll through it for hours on end.

It has nothing to do with being insecure, I just don't care. If something is important for me to know, I am sure the other person will get in touch and tell me personally.

I don't require play by plays of everyone's life.

I tried Instagram and its just a light version of Facebook where I see pretty much the same information, except I tend to see more pictures of people's food or selfies with duck lips.

Twitter is also a bit useless. I just don't see the point in most social media, But to each their own.

[LesterJester]

I mean seriously, there was a life before social media and people did perfectly fine being "Social"

[Cammy137]

I think people with social media are more insecure. I don't have it because I have no desire to temporarily inflate my ego by sharing where I am and what im doing.
Social media is nothing more than a statment saying "look how interesting my life is" and I have no desire to indulge in such petty and egotistical practices.

[Cammy137]

Cliches are cliches for a reason...

[omgjassy]

Outdated...

[Cammy137]

Hardly. Everything shared on social media is entirely for other people to see.
The notion in itself is about receiving likes and shit from other people. Very little is shared on social media that serves any other purposes than showing off.

[420Rachel]

I don't have Facebook or Twitter or Instagram or anything else really. The only reason I have this is because this is a site based on giving opinions and advice and that's the appeal I find in this app. Everything else is about showing off and being conceited basically. Doesn't always happen that way with everyone but I'd rather not let myself get sucked into that lol. If my friends want to contact me they have my phone number :P

[Moonchild714]

No they are stronger and smarter than those who do use Social Media. Social Media actually is more of a Depressant than Alcohol and other substances. Mental Health has declined tremendously with those who use these platforms. I know so many people that gave up their SM accts and saw such a boost in their demeanor and Mental State.

[Handsome_cowboy]

I think its the opposite. I went until i was 19 before i finally got an instagram. I only got it because my cousin was trying to hook me up with this girl and told me to get it. Nothing came of it and I've considered deleting it but i do enjoy keeping up with everyone.
Anyway. I think that people who dont have social media arebthe most secure because they dont have to have other peoples "likes" or attention. However those who are on SM need the attention to feed their insecurities. They are relying on other people to give them their confidence.

[ImagineSketchy]

I'm pretty secure with myself honestly. I can't think of insecurities, even those that a video said all men have. I think they're silly. Social media isn't really needed. I live my life the way I want in peace. Single with my 2 dogs. Not having social media only prevents me from sharing pics of the food i cooked, how my dogs are really great, and how my home looks. I also don't like taking pictures or being in them, so yeah. Not photogenic, but aside from that, no one really needs social media other than staying in contact with people, which I have a phone I basically pay $100 a month for Lmfao.

[SpiderBro]

I just find it boring. I do have social media that I never use but didn’t delete. But when I did go on them I didn’t care about what other people who weren’t affecting me were doing with their lives. And I think they wouldn’t care what I’m doing with my life. So posting selfies and shit is pointless.

[tartaarsaus]

Not necessarily. Not having social media can also stem from a) not wanting to share stuff from their lives on the internet, b) thinking the social media sites are garbage (e. g. Facebook), c) thinking it is too time consuming, d) they find it difficult to use and e) they are insecure.

Yes, insecure can be a reason but it's not the absolute reason why people don't have social media.

[tartaarsaus]

*insecurity

[CINDY16]

i had social media facebook instagram, when i posted something i got more likes than i expected like in de 200+, i broke my phone and so i haven't used social media in a long time and now that i have a new one, i dont really feel like using it anymore kinda got bored of it so i decided to delete all my photos and keep my life private now, same with snapchat

[JSmuve]

No, I don't think so. Insecurity exists whether you have social media or not. You could make the argument that those who need to post constantly are insecure because they need the constant validation from 'likes' and comments. You could also make the argument that those who don't get 'likes' and positive comments compared to everyone else will eventually get insecure and leave social media. So it goes both ways.

[pasoccer]

The insecure people tend to flock to the things everyone else does so they fit in.
From my experience, the people without social media are sick of social media, don't like the idea of social media, or aren't a fan of letting out any personal information on the internet.

[happyhippo]

The only reason I have Facebook is because I made it as I was 13 and now almost all the contracts I have with people are saved there. Don't have Instagram or Snapchat, not because I'm insecure, but because I don't like everyone knowing what I'm doing. I don't think people without social media in general are insecure, even the opposite. It's just their understanding of things.

[Comawhite666]

If anything then people who don't use it at all or rarely do are the most confident. They don't need to show off their lives and seek validation. I have a friend who is always posting photos of herself and things she's up to and wants attention all the time on there~she's super insecure in reality.

[superduperstarr]

I think the more you have "social" media the less social you are as in out there meeting people. You maybe popular on the web, but real life physical friends and interactions are what being social is all about. I think that if you are multi social media platforming that you are less secure and need those "friends" and "likes" to help ease your insecurities.

[AlexEfron]

I don't use many social media (only Facebook and G@G) and I don't feel insecure.
It's not insecurity that stops me from using other social media...
1. I NEED a LIFE to live
2. I don't have unlimited time
3. Some social media are pointless - Instagram (if you ask me)
4. I'm not the person who loves to brag. So no point shooting off and boasting. (plus I'm a guy... I got nothing to show off... Flat chest 😂)
5. Privacy

[MusicMayhem]

Ummm what? It's the other way around.

Whenever I start dating or msging a girl that likes me she gets really insistent on having my fb. Obviously she wants to stalk my fb so she can see if I'm talking to other girls. If that's not insecure I don't know what is.