I think with the big life decisions - There are many who get it wrong but I think in the having children case I reckon it is high maybe 80/90% heart in right place - I generally try to stay outside such big debates adopting a cautious "Live and Let Live" attitude.
Actually because your parents want grandkids is an very good reason, and one of my main reasons for wanting to have an children. Your parents invest into you, and one of the main ways that you can return them the favor is investing into your own children, also if you are not going to continue your parents legacy, then it's almost like you was never born, which means that you was an very poor investment, especially if you don't have an brothers who would do it instead of you. An legacy is the main reason to have an children, but not everyone needs to have an legacy, maybe it's even better if you would not reproduce, I know that it's not sounds good, but that's way not having an children is not an good thing, in most cases.
Or people could have kids because THEY want kids not because of their parents. They're adults (or at least they should be when they become parents) and can make their own decisions. I didn't go to college because my parents wanted me to. I went because I wanted to. I didn't get into nursing because my parents thinks it's a great career. I got into nursing because that was the career I decided on.
@Scrambledagain At that point I'm pretty sure there would be fully automated or remote controlled drones or robots that are affordable so you wouldn't need to have an actual person to do all of those basic chores for you such as mowing the lawn and fetching your beer. There's already ongoing research and development in improving artificial intelligence for things like that. We already have self-driving cars, once it becomes common and affordable we'll also have robot servants and drones helping us around the house and especially for the elderly that do not have any family members supporting them or helping them with their daily routines.
@Berethor I don't see how that is pertinent to my answer or her mytake. People should establish expectations that are clear, especially regarding kids, that's about all I can say on a man and childless woman.
@vishna my point is that children are in fact help to bond an man an a woman more then anything else (for better and worse), more then feeling and sex, so there is much logic in trying to try an "stap" a man by having an common child with him, but it's not always work and can backfire, so it's an risky move.
That's your personal decision. Again, there are good reasons to have kids. I will write a my take about it soon. If you feel you will be a good parent, go for it. We need more good parents in this world.
I wouldn't say this is entirely me. I just read an interesting article from a psychology magazine. But I am making that my take right now and will get to you.
Well I am very glad I had mine. They are the best part of me. I am very close to them and can't imagine life without them. But... I do believe there people who shouldn't have kids. It sounds like you are one of them... no offence.
That's your choice. I know I shouldn't have kids. So glad someone agrees it's not insulting by any means. Children should be given to people who are able and willing to take care of them. I am able, but I am not willing.
Well I was a stay at home mom... raised my children and now the are successful. No grandkids... my kids are more into their careers at the moment. But maybe one day.
This is your second take on not having kids. What compells ypu to write these takes? Something happened to you? You don't see people with kids writting takes that people should have them. So why do you feel you need to rage against it?
Hahaha I've written way more than two my takes about kids. Why? Because I fucking feel like it. And to get xper points. No one is attacking you for having kids. I even said I was going to write a my take about GOOD reasons to have kids.
And you're a jackass but I don't point that out because my parents raised me to be a decent human being who respects others decisions. No one is attacking your right to have kids. My best friend is pregnant and I couldn't be more happy for her. I feel sorry for your children.
No one is attacking your decision either. Just questioning why you seem to post about it quite often. I suspect that you would have issue with someone posting why people should have children in multiple takes at the same time. It is a bit obsessive.
@Jersey2 I could talk all day about how I hate kids. I'm going to write my takes about it and profit off of it. Don't like it? Don't. Fucking. Care. Don't read them. I wouldn't care if someone made my takes about how kids are great. Once, again I am writing a my take about good reasons to have kids.
@Berethor I have to secure a good future. If you want to play house, go ahead. But I feel sorry for your children. And go fuck yourself. Go ahead and remove my comment moderators. You will bend over backwards to make jackasses of this site happy and you wonder why people leave.
@YaBoy epitome* If you're going to insult me, do it right. I always had listening problems. So I'm still going to do what I want. What's really selfish is having kids when you don't them.
Having kids when you don't want them is stupid, but you titles you're my take as "terrible reasons, to have children". You make it sound like children are gremlins.
Again, cool beans. Not everyone is going to want to date me and I'm cool with that. I have black hair, am skinny, and have black glasses. Some guys prefer tall blondes and that's cool beans.
@Berethor there are plenty of men who don't want kids so that wouldn't be a problem. But no one wants an insecure weak-minded guy, especially when it comes to raising kids. So good luck!
@JudgmentDay yep. The chances of me getting pregnant is incredibly small. For a temporary solution, I will take every form of protection that i can. Then do a long term solution like getting my tubes tied.
You know what's really disgusting? Saying someone should have kids when they want them. If the parents didn't want them, the parents could resent them. And the kids will have tons of problems. At least I'm honest with myself.
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I think with the big life decisions - There are many who get it wrong but I think in the having children case I reckon it is high maybe 80/90% heart in right place - I generally try to stay outside such big debates adopting a cautious "Live and Let Live" attitude.
Also... having kids wrecks a woman's body. Giving birth is such a brutal process.
Dont worry, ill still love your lady lumps
@iFarted ugh. lol.
@karahiri yes but aging those that too, a woman's body is not eternal in any case.
@Berethor aging is a much gentler process.
Actually because your parents want grandkids is an very good reason, and one of my main reasons for wanting to have an children. Your parents invest into you, and one of the main ways that you can return them the favor is investing into your own children, also if you are not going to continue your parents legacy, then it's almost like you was never born, which means that you was an very poor investment, especially if you don't have an brothers who would do it instead of you. An legacy is the main reason to have an children, but not everyone needs to have an legacy, maybe it's even better if you would not reproduce, I know that it's not sounds good, but that's way not having an children is not an good thing, in most cases.
Or people could have kids because THEY want kids not because of their parents. They're adults (or at least they should be when they become parents) and can make their own decisions. I didn't go to college because my parents wanted me to. I went because I wanted to. I didn't get into nursing because my parents thinks it's a great career. I got into nursing because that was the career I decided on.
A large portion of people have kids because they didn't use contraception properly.
Who is going to mow my lawn and fetch my beer while watching sports when I'm older? The kid ha ha
Ever see married with children? Looks like fun.
I really don't care jf you want to play house, but that's not going to be my life.
It's all good. Children are meh with me too.
... but al bundy from married with children... I could do that 😂
@Scrambledagain At that point I'm pretty sure there would be fully automated or remote controlled drones or robots that are affordable so you wouldn't need to have an actual person to do all of those basic chores for you such as mowing the lawn and fetching your beer. There's already ongoing research and development in improving artificial intelligence for things like that. We already have self-driving cars, once it becomes common and affordable we'll also have robot servants and drones helping us around the house and especially for the elderly that do not have any family members supporting them or helping them with their daily routines.
@JudgmentDay yeah but I want to be al bundy😂
I'm not a big fan of automated anything.
No water in California by that time so I won't have a lawn. And you just fetch your beers three at a time and keep an ice bucket by the chair.
I wanted either a baby or a puppy. I got a baby- Hoping for a puppy in two years. 👽
Yes, so sad and so so true. Also, to make people stay. Never have a baby to trap a man or try to. It's manipulative and cruel.
On the other hand why would a man stay for long with an childless woman?
@Berethor I don't see how that is pertinent to my answer or her mytake. People should establish expectations that are clear, especially regarding kids, that's about all I can say on a man and childless woman.
@vishna my point is that children are in fact help to bond an man an a woman more then anything else (for better and worse), more then feeling and sex, so there is much logic in trying to try an "stap" a man by having an common child with him, but it's not always work and can backfire, so it's an risky move.
non of it!!!
i choose to have a child because i always wanted to. I feel i can give love to this small human
That's your personal decision. Again, there are good reasons to have kids. I will write a my take about it soon. If you feel you will be a good parent, go for it. We need more good parents in this world.
What do you think is a good reason or reasons to have children?
I'm making that right now. I will get back to you.
Here it is.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a32561-five-great-reasons-to-have-kids
Since you know so much about kids... what are the good reasons for having children?
I wouldn't say this is entirely me. I just read an interesting article from a psychology magazine. But I am making that my take right now and will get to you.
Here it is.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a32561-five-great-reasons-to-have-kids
Have you ever been around kids? Or babies?
Yes. I have a niece and a younger brother.
Well I am very glad I had mine. They are the best part of me. I am very close to them and can't imagine life without them. But... I do believe there people who shouldn't have kids. It sounds like you are one of them... no offence.
That's your choice. I know I shouldn't have kids. So glad someone agrees it's not insulting by any means. Children should be given to people who are able and willing to take care of them. I am able, but I am not willing.
Well I was a stay at home mom... raised my children and now the are successful. No grandkids... my kids are more into their careers at the moment. But maybe one day.
Children are a pain to have in general, I hope I never get pregnant..
This is your second take on not having kids. What compells ypu to write these takes? Something happened to you? You don't see people with kids writting takes that people should have them. So why do you feel you need to rage against it?
Hahaha I've written way more than two my takes about kids. Why? Because I fucking feel like it. And to get xper points. No one is attacking you for having kids. I even said I was going to write a my take about GOOD reasons to have kids.
Um, you are 19. You don't really know enough about any of this to be writing as if you do.
And you're a jackass but I don't point that out because my parents raised me to be a decent human being who respects others decisions. No one is attacking your right to have kids. My best friend is pregnant and I couldn't be more happy for her. I feel sorry for your children.
No one is attacking your decision either. Just questioning why you seem to post about it quite often. I suspect that you would have issue with someone posting why people should have children in multiple takes at the same time. It is a bit obsessive.
@Jersey2 I could talk all day about how I hate kids. I'm going to write my takes about it and profit off of it. Don't like it? Don't. Fucking. Care. Don't read them. I wouldn't care if someone made my takes about how kids are great. Once, again I am writing a my take about good reasons to have kids.
Profit, lol. Oookkkkaaayyyy.
Hell yes.
agree on all accounts.
Children are for people who are prepared to give an actual effort.
It isn't for whiners or people who think children are difficult.
Clearly you're a quitter.
It's not just that. I want to focus on my career.
Clearly you're incapable of feeling emotion or love
Yep I'm a motherfucking robot who are wants to be a nurse to save people.
You sure you're not Malloy or dobby with that attitude.
Funny is loving and sweet
Ginny is*
Aww? Are you butthurt about my attitude? Like Ginny, I'm opinionated. Get used to it. Or don't read my takes.
I'm worried about your level of intellect and emotion.
You lack both, and it's dangerous for a heartless robot to be alive
Aww you poor thing.
@ginny_weasley you want to focus on your career, so money is more important to you then your family, how feminist of you.
@Berethor I have to secure a good future. If you want to play house, go ahead. But I feel sorry for your children. And go fuck yourself.
Go ahead and remove my comment moderators. You will bend over backwards to make jackasses of this site happy and you wonder why people leave.
Sry but choosing your job over creating a living being is the opidamy of being selfish
@YaBoy epitome*
If you're going to insult me, do it right. I always had listening problems. So I'm still going to do what I want. What's really selfish is having kids when you don't them.
If you're going to make a statement, do it right.
Having kids when you don't want them is stupid, but you titles you're my take as "terrible reasons, to have children". You make it sound like children are gremlins.
That's because they are.
I feel sorry for your mother
I feel sorry for your children.
And don't feel sorry for my mom. She supports my decision. A decision that doesn't affect you in the slightest.
Why because I said I will love and care for my children? And actually give an effort?
Unlike you, I don't give a damn if you want kids because it doesn't affect my life. I don't want them. So shove it.
@ginny_weasley the decision of a gremlin, according to your own way of thinking. :)
tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MoralMyopia
@Berethor good. Now shove it.
Pffff if you are not going to reproduce then whats the point of life? To enjoy the chemicals in your brain and then die? What a waste of resources.
Hell yes. I will find a hot guy who doesn't want kids either and our bodies will rot in the ground together, until the end of time.
Pff that kind of selfish hedonism is not for me.
What's really selfish is forcing someone to have a kid when they don't want one.
Then you break up with them. Girls who dont want kids are a deal breaker anyway.
Cool beans. Guys who want kids are a deal breaker
To women like you.
Again, cool beans. Not everyone is going to want to date me and I'm cool with that. I have black hair, am skinny, and have black glasses. Some guys prefer tall blondes and that's cool beans.
We have a moral obligation to pass on our genes on and keep our species going strong. If everyone was like you we all would go extinct.
^ that would be a good thing
I don't owe the world jack squat.
@ladyterror I totally agree. I like you
What a defeatist pessimist mentality.
Yeah, I'm a damn monster.
@ginny_weasley an hot guy have too good genes to waste on a childless girl.
@Berethor there are plenty of men who don't want kids so that wouldn't be a problem. But no one wants an insecure weak-minded guy, especially when it comes to raising kids. So good luck!
@LadyTerror lol how petty.
To summarize kids are not a accessory
Agreed. I'm not so sure I want a child anyway.
thanks for sharing ur thoughts
I agree.
I hope you end up pregnant
... with twins.
I'll just abort them.
@Popo21
Ginny will have her tubes tied long before that even has a chance to happen.
Am I right @ginny_weasly?
@JudgmentDay yep. The chances of me getting pregnant is incredibly small. For a temporary solution, I will take every form of protection that i can. Then do a long term solution like getting my tubes tied.
You're disgusting
Damn right I am.
Yuck.
You know what's really disgusting? Saying someone should have kids when they want them. If the parents didn't want them, the parents could resent them. And the kids will have tons of problems. At least I'm honest with myself.
You're gross
Your mom probably didn't want you
That's really none of your business. And yes my mom did want me. Bitch.