Can guys tell if a girl is an inexperienced kisser?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ok, my friend is freaking out, lol. She's 23 and she just had her first kiss like a week ago, and she won't talk to the guy that she kissed cause she said she's embarrassed. I said "Why are you embarrassed?" She said "Cause he probably knew I never had a kiss before, and it's embarrassing" "I stopped kissing him because I was so embarrassed!" I said "You're ridiculous, I highly doubt he can even tell that you had "virgin lips" lol"

So am I right or am I wrong? Can guys tell if a girl has never been kissed? or can they tell she's inexperienced? Or can the guy think she's just a bad kisser? Please give your opinion, cause my girl is freaking out, lol. Thanks.

[Hopefuldreamer8]

I can actually understand her point of view. I haven't had much experience at all for different reasons. I'm even older than she is. I have kissed different guys, but most of the time I was either drunk or it was just casually. So I am terrified that when I actually get into a relationship that I will be a bad kisser. I've heard from quite a few guys (and even girls) that bad kissers are turn offs.

There is one man I really like, and I really want to be with. He is definitely far more experienced than me when it comes to kissing and everything else. So it's part of the reason I haven't really told him how I feel (and the other in case he rejects me) because of my lack of experience. He's older too. I plan to see if I can talk to him tomorrow though. So yup, definitely nervous.

The first guy I ever kissed shoved his tongue down my throat and drooled in my mouth. So I definitely not to do that considering I gagged and almost threw up in his mouth. That actually put me off from kissing for a very long time.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Aww! :( I'm sorry you had a bad experience! Yeah I see what you mean, lol. Well don't be nervous about that guy :) I am pretty sure he'll love how the way you kiss! :) Thank you for commenting! I agree. :)

[lexithegreat]

Tell your friend to settle her darn horses!. She is fine. When it comes to kissing, being a good kisser and how to kiss the way the other person and you can enjoy is something that is learned. The first time I kissed a guy he shoved his tongue down my throat, bit my lips hard and his stubble almost set my face on fire. He had way more experience then me but his kisses were awful. So a few more times we kissed I grabbed his face instead and being the inexperienced kisser I was I just kissed his lips gently bottom then top and when I bit his lip it was very light and not vampire'ish. Once we kissed a few more times he figured out I liked to be kissed softly eventually harder but I hate tongue. We eventually talked about kissing and I told him how I felt not making him feel bad and we both enjoyed kisses aftet that. So good kissing is learned... or taught.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

LOL! You crack me up girl! I said almost the same thing! She is just paranoid and I tried to tell her everything is cool and she needs to chill. Lol, I agree with you! I kissed guys that were experienced players and knew "how to get the ladies" lmao, and they were so horrible at kissing! lol! They would like be all over the place and be really bad at it. The only time I am all over the place/sloppy kisser is when I am drunk, haha. Otherwise, I am gentle, and I guess ok, haha. But yeah I agree! Thank you! :)

[lexithegreat]

Lol thank you and you are very welcome. Exactly save the sloppy kissing for when you have been getting a serious drank on. Well I hope your friend listens to you and gets over her paranoia. She is going to kiss plenty of people who...suck at it and who have been kissing since they could walk

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Exactly! Thanks girl! :)

[Ooohlala]

Considering that most of the guys are not quite the good kissers - always rushing out things, making this weird deep breath noise, ruining the kissing experience... Your girl friend should not get worried...at all.

Kissing is fantastic and is a great arousal, we should alway take our time :-)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hahaha! Exactly! I showed her everyones answers and she seems to be more chill now, haha. Thank you for commenting! :)

[FunArtNerd1990]

Lol its not really easy to tell inexperience. Cuz a woman could be super experienced but the kiss with the guy just was awkward. Its just a kiss though. And I can honestly say I have enough kissing experience to say I've never had a bad kiss. Some are awkward, sure but still not terrible. She should talk to him. I honestly think he's spazzing more about why she hasn't talked to him. I'd imagine he might think he's a bad kisser now or something haha

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hahaha! Yeah, I know right? I told her to call him and talk to him, but she feels embarrassed, but you have a good point he might be thinking "What did I do wrong?" I see what you mean though, I kidna do believe that there is never a "bad kisser" I believe there are sloppy, gentle, awkward kisses. Like you said. I generally am more sloppy though, lmao. Especially drunk, forget about it, I am all over the place, haha. Thank you! :)

[FunArtNerd1990]

Hahahaha!!! And yeah I guarantee he's thinking he did something and not the other way around. And as a kisser, I tend to enjoy sloppier but I'm an intimate kisser. You know the start out slow slightly open mouths and then BAM!!! PASSION!!! hahaha

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Lol, I see! Ooooo...I would like to kiss you then ;) Haha! It would be asloppy, passionate, intimate, kiss, hahaha! XD

[FunArtNerd1990]

Lol! Now that sounds like a good kiss XD

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Haha! ;)

[ZettaiX]

I remember kissing girls who were real inexperienced. Generally, they just let me lead. They were real sweet, gentle kisses at first. I can tell you as a guy I really loved that at first.

Being much older, I've dated women who were awful kissers. They would immediately open their mouths wide, or licked my teeth by accident (eww).

I'd start out slow, follow his lead a bit. :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

LOL! I agree! I told my friend she's acting ridiculous about it. She literally won't talk to the guy cause she is so embarrassed, I told her it's nothing to worry about. But yeah my first kiss is when I was 16, lol. I remember starting off with really gentle kisses, lol. Now I am just sloppy and all over the place, haha. Thanks!

[HandsomeRaj]

It's not about experience or inexperience it's about how good or bad she is & most time it's about how compatible they are.

Kissing is something that comes only with good chemistry and something that is taught w/o using words but only the lips :)

Trying to judge if someone has kissed or not by kissing them is ludicrous and a myth.

The person who judges is immature & bookish lol

[Mark-Ego-Almencion]

Agree...
kiss is not about breathing but kiss takes your breaths away.

[HandsomeRaj]

Couldn't have worded it better myself :D

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Well, something we can tell
but what makes the difference
she can always learn to kiss
when me and my first ex-gf
went out i didn't know much
about kissing we learned
gradually to kiss and it's
something that grows with you

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah I told her that, but she's a goof and thinks that it's embarrassing, I told her to not worry about it. Thank you for commenting! :)

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Your very welcome.:)

[JohnWhilkins]

It's hard to say. Some are worse, experience or no experience, but that's from their general idea of what they think or thought a good kiss would be like.

Biting my tongue and shit... what's going on there.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Haha, yeah biting your tongue? Dayummm! lol. That girl was just freakay, lol. I see what you mean though, and I agree. Thank you! :)

[Hans222]

Well I wonder if girls could detect I have virgin lips... 38 years old and only kissed cheeks. Still waiting to discover the real thing :-)
I wouldn't worry if the girl was a "first time kisser". If there's chemistry I'll enjoy it for sure!

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awww yeah! :) No I don't think anyone can detect if you have virgin lips, cause it could either be a situation where you are 1. Just a bad kisser or 2. You are just really nervous. So no I don't think anyone can tell if you have Virgin lips, lol. It's totally cool, my friend. :) I honestly can say myself that there have been guys who were bad kissers and I thought it was their first time, and I found that I wasn't their first kiss, the one guy said to me that he was just really nervous, and that is why he seemed to be kinda bad at it, which I felt bad for, cause I didn't say to his face that he was a bad kisser, I honestly thought I was his first, haha. But I wasn't the poor boy was just really nervous :( Which he shouldn't. Some lucky lady is gonna come along, don't worry :) You'll find someone, my friend. Thank you for commenting! :)

[everything_emilyy]

I know from experience that if a guy is a bad kisser it comes from lack of experience. Hardly anyone is born knowing how to please someone intimately. Being a good kisser comes from a lot of trial and error.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ahhh! Good point! :) I agree! But my friend is a little paranoid. lol. Thank you! :)

[Thatguy321]

As long as you dont duck lip th kiss, or damn your tongue down the persons thought, both have happened to me 😔 hit tooth to tooth, have bad breath if you avoid all that stuff its like impossible to be a bad kisser haha (:

[Thatguy321]

Jam your tongue*

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hahaha! I know right! Lol, when I am drunk I am a really bad kisser, lol. I am so sloppy it's ridiculous, lol. Haha. Thank you! I figured that! :)

[Thatguy321]

Haha me too (: haha and no problem good luck with your friend (:

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Thanks sweetie! :) Haha!

[Insaan]

Whatever it is guys enjoy kissing women. Most of the lips and tongue movements are initiated by guys...hence guys njoy her every part of juicy lips and tongue even if she us inexperienced.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hahaha! I see, I see, thank you for commenting! :)

[Insaan]

In fact i never kissed. But i can actually imagine that...i fear that i might become pervert one day. Lol

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awww really? Well I would kiss, your cute! :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

And no you won't become a pervert, ya goof! lol!

[Insaan]

Oww so sweet of you :) :) i must say that you are beautiful ^_^

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awww! Thank you! :)

[Vish123]

lmao "Virgin Lips"

I dont think he can tell yea bad kisser could be a response though

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hahahaa! Yeah I like to say "virgin lips" or "VL" lol. But yeah I agree! I said to her the most he probably thinks is that you're just a bad kisser, I highly doubt he thinks she's inexperienced and that was her first kiss, lol. But thank you for commenting! :)

[nickstaa]

I can't tell if they have virgin lips. But if there is good chemistry and you go to hook up and they look real nervous then it makes you wonder. .

[BrunetteBabe1005]

True that! lol! But yeah I just think she was little too nervous about it, and hopefully she'll understand that nobody can detect it. She doesn't listen to me, so that's why I posted this to prove my point, hopefully now this will get through to her. Lol. Thank you! :)

[WesTheGuru]

Yep, we can tell. It's really easy

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Oh I see! Lol. Thank you! :)