I'm 21 and my parents still control my life?

[Anonymous]

My parents are somewhat old fashioned and believe to control me until the age 25!
It's driving me nuts. I understand I live under there roof and follow there rules. But they take it to far to the point of also trying to control my love life and how long I can stay out for. Honestly my 4 year relationship didn't work out because my parents held me back from so much which destroyed my relationship. I don't drink, party, do drugs and have sex with random people! I am in college and usually home all the time. I have not told them about my new boyfriend because once they know, they become stricter. I want things to work out with my current boyfriend because things are so amazing between us an probably the best relationship I've ever had. My boyfriend and I want to do so much more. He wants me to start staying the nights at his house to spend more time with me and learn if we can possibly live with each other one day. I respect my parents and show them I am a good daughter. But I feel they are holding me back from being completely happy with my boyfriend. My mom tries to make me feel guilty about men, and sex a whole lot. It's just dragging me down. Any one else experience any similar situations?

[Anonymous]

I couldn't live like that. I would make arrangements to have somewhere else to stay, just in case, then I would tell them that they either ease up a little, or lose all control because you will move out. You have to mean it, and you need to be ready to move out. Like already have your most valuable stuff somewhere that they can't prevent you from taking it.

[UlsterScot]

I have two words for you.

1. Move
2. Out

Its your parent's home and they get to set the rules.

[MissConfused93]

Sounds crazy. I've been sleeping at my boyfriends, drinking, doing drugs, etc since 18 and I thought my mom was controlling.

I would just leave. There isn't a way around it. Like it or not it's THEIR house. They do get to control you if you're still in it.

So either leave or try to negotiate but recognize it probably won't change.