I am almost 30 years old and unfortunately live with parents. They still tryna get control over my life and interfere in everything. Im really sick of it. Are these behaviors of them normal? What should I do?
No. Move out! Ask them for help since you probably have come to depend on them so much. Get your own place. Could be modest apartment. A starting point doesn't have to be ending point. But no self-respecting man should have to be subject to other people's household rules at 30+. That includes wife rules, by the way.
What sort of pathetic lets his wife rule his house when he's paying for it? Sleep on the couch? No, she sleeps on the couch. It's his house. His rules. Guys these days have let their pride slip too much in favor of getting pussy. Lose the horrible wife, who gives a shit? But a good wife knows you own the place. Mine does.
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You need to get out and get on your own as soon as you can. Parents like yours Socially and Professionally cripple their children from becoming a Full-Functioning Adult. The good thing is you don't like it as bad as that sounds. But reality, they can't do anything if you put up a fight. Yeah, they can kick you out, but that's probably good thing if they did. You would find a way to make it work even then.
It depends on your culture. In Indian society, you'd be considered a bad son for moving out when your elders need you.
Secondly, do you make money? Sorry for being brash, but the one that works usually calls the shots. My mom taught me this. She reminds me everyday how I should be incredibly grateful that she pays for the roof and the food. It's toxic but hey, it saves money. I'm a girl. I'll slut shamed if I were to move out. Figures.
PS. Do you live in their basement?
27 is not almost 30. you still have quite a few years and you can still get out before then. if not then it's on you... if you're under their roof then yeah you're under their rules.
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No it's not normal or healthy for parents to control an adult's life. While parents have a responsibility to teach and guide their children when they are young, adults should have the freedom to make their own choices and decisions. It's important for adults to establish clear boundaries with their parents and communicate their need for independence and autonomy. Seeking the support of a therapist or counselor can also be helpful in navigating difficult family dynamics.
That is because you live at home. If you want your own life you need to leave your parents home and get your own.
Somewhat normal if you are still living at home. They may be recommending things bc it is time to leave the comfort of the nest.
That is not normal at all. Anyone should have their life together by the time they are 18.
Get your own place. As long as you live at their home, you have to follow their rules
No it's not normal your to old for them to be doing that.
Take charge of your life. Move out and support yourself….. it’s way past time.
Well move out.
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