How to stop being an open book when talking to friends?

[Corri14]

My nye resolution is to stop sharing personal details about my love life and among other things with my friends. I really need to learn how to have a private life. When I am trying to solve a problem in my love life or whatever I have this weird need to constantly try to ask friends and that leads to me telling them more things then they should know. Any ideas, tricks to help me? I really need to solve my problem of being an open book.

[Bea123]

i thought i need a private life at one point but tbh it feels so much better to keep at least one friend updated on your life and to let everyhting out because to know there's someone whos there for you and understands you, gets u and cares about you. dont keep it all bottled out thats what having besties are for

[Helpmeplease44]

^ always good to have another set of eyes on the matter - and sometimes your friends can see how things are effecting you without the emotional bias clouding judgement. Sometimes you need to hear the truth and have it affirmed from someone who isn't out to harm you and actually cares about you.

[Bea123]

@Helpmeplease44 good friends never judge :)
i have at least two good friends and i can always count on them

[Findesemana]

well which thigns would cause you embarrassment? or others embarassment/harm?

you just have to select which stuff to tell, or set boundaries..

[Anonymous]

It's not an overnight thing but can be done through practice and conditioning. Every time you catch yourself doing it pinch your arm very hard.