Friend's Wife Coming On To Me?

[Anonymous]

This is so crazy, but recently, at my band's practice, my friend's wife came up and sat on my lap right in front of all of the band and our "groupies," and then, when I was at their house visiting one night, she was the one letting me out the door, and my friend was in the other room & she wanted 2 give me a hug, so I bent down 2 hug her & told me she doesn't bite, but then she said, "well, maybe a little," and then she bit me very lightly on my earlobe while her husband, my friend, was in the other room. I couldn't believe it! However, the worst part, is that both times, I was so turned on that I couldn't even go near her or look at her for a while afterwards...Also, I didn't tell my friend anything about it, but I have to see her at band rehearsals and gigs all the time...What should I do?

[airiver]

Let's say you did choose her...Found a new band and alienated your friendship with her husband...Could you ever really trust her? Would you? Do you know if they have an open marriage? That's pretty blatant to nibble your ear with her husband in the next room...I understand how it could turn you on but there are 3.2 billion women on this earth and many of them aren't married and could really turn you on. Whisper naughtys in your ear and rock your world...Bad karma comes with busting up a marriage and if she can screw around on him she can sure do it to you...I don't care what she looks like...Is she worth everything you have worked for? Best of luck...Cheers!

[Asker]

Thanks! That is very good advice! :)

[palek]

All other things aside, it's either her, or the band.

[Asker]

Interesting...I never thought of it that way...What happens if I choose her? And, what about the hubby of hers?

[palek]

Firstly, I'd stay clear of it, as I'd not want to look back and find myself impicated in the destruction of a marriage, but this is something peculiar to my faith, so I'll not start preaching. If you decide to move ahead you'll of course have to deal with all the ugliness that always comes with such a effort, and depending on her husband, you may find yourself looking over your shoulder for some period. And of course, once you commit, you'll always wonder if she's doing the same thing to you.

[Asker]

Thanks, good thoughts & I totally agree! :)