My mom judges me for having sex?

[Anonymous]

I am NOT Christian or in any type of religious thing. When I was seventeen she sneaked into my room and found my birth pills so she yelled at me saying I shouldn't be taking that kind of stuff because according to her I don't have sex. Then she said I could die. Once I slept over at my boyfriend's place (who was my boyfriend back then not now) she told me I better not come home pregnant. She's been against sex and stuff like that during my whole life, even my sister has told me stories like that. Well now she found out I have uti so she stopped talking to me. What is wrong with her? Why am I not allowed to have sex when I'm a grown woman without her judging me? Even my friends mom encourage us to hook up because it's fun and it's nothing wrong with it as long as you're safe. Even my therapist told me I should do it. I feel extremely guilty when I do have sex and it's most likely because of her. It's my life she has nothing to do with who I sleep with. Seriously! Am I the only one going through this?

[Kenobiwan18]

You are not alone in this. It’s a similar situation with me. My boyfriend and I are both religious, but not strict about it. We have been dating quite some time now, and recently started having sex for our first times. My grandma (whom I live with) is constantly judging my boyfriend and me. All of my family accepts us and doesn’t care/encourages us to have sex, but then there’s my grandma who is constantly saying that I shouldn’t be having sex. I am also on the pill and he uses condoms so it’s not like I we aren’t not being safe about it, but yeah, I totally understand what you are going through, and you sr it alone alone.🙂

[Anonymous]

Based on your age that it says, you're an adult, and you should not feel guilty. She should not be doing this, because you are an adult now and not a child. I think you should tell her that you are an adult and she can't helicopter you anymore.

[MadeInAmerica]

Everyone has their opinion. Your friends mom say you should and it's fun I see it "fun" as an excuse to be slutty. As for sex. Most parents don't want their kids having sex. ESPECIALLY ones that live at home. I think your mom is being overprotecting but I think it's better that way then not giving a damn and making you think it's ok sleep around half the town. Just tell her your smart about these things and you don't take having sex lightly. I wouldn't bring up the grown women part as you are not a grown women to you move out and pay your own bills.

[Asker]

She's not overprotective. She gives me the cold shoulder for sleeping with a guy, that's not normal. I have a friends with benefits and I'm fine with that, it's my life.

[brewersfan01]

she's tryin to protect you, thats what mothers do. its irresponsible to have casual sex for the risk of pregnancy or stds. obv. and the fact that u got a uti just confirms it.

[Asker]

It happens. No big deal. It's not irresponsible as long as you are protected which I am.

[Elmo199020]

She's being totally immature and unreasonable. I'd give her the silent treatment right back. When she wants to grow up and act mature, then you two should talk.

[Chillguy95]

I think there is a deeper physiological reason behind her feelings. It’s not you it’s her