Why can't I be myself around my ex girlfriend? Has anyone else noticed this?

[Anonymous]

I am just curious, because I just can't be myself, I simply either feel a bit of pain from the break up or I am just not sure of how I feel towards her. We have been broken up for 4 months now and I thought I could just be myself around her, but I just simply can't be the goofy/fun person I am. She is also dating another guy and I just don't want to be used to make this guy jealous in anyway. I also don't really know where she fits into my life, I really did love this girl and I know it. If she was single I could/probably would act like myself because I know I have no boy friend to worry about and it would be easy. Do you think its because of the boy friend? Or because in some part I still care for her on the higher level and I just want her to be happy with her new boy friend?

[Suegster]

Well, I don't know how the relationship ends, but by the sound of it, she broke it off with you and she's moved on, that's why you're feeling like how you're now. I don't think it's because you have feelings for her, I think it's because she has someone and you dont. Also, it could be that you still have feeling for her and now that she's with someone, you don't want to look like a loser when she compares you to him. So maybe you want to move on as well and find yourself a girlfriend, and when you do, you'll know how you actually feels for your ex. Good Luck!